What do you think of women dripping in designer items?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

I wouldn’t recognize it.

[Anonymous]

I think this is more about you than her. I’m about to go do Tgiving with rich cousin who has all of those things, drives a Porsche, large house in the burbs. I want none of those things (ok maybe the fancy travel but don’t care about jewelry, handbags, cars etc) and so I don’t feel any envy.

[Anonymous]

Insecure, because a lot of really nice items from designers are not as immediately recognizable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woah, there are some extremely nasty responses here- lay off of OP a bit, will you?

No. Her post was nasty.

I don't think it was nasty so much as envious, while also realizing on some level that she should NOT be envious because they might be struggling financially. Ultimately op has to get to her own secure spot of : this is how I spend, and it is the best way for me. And she needs to forget how others spend their money. That being said, if there is a specific item the cousin is wearing she covets, then there is no shame in saving up and acquiring that item. I find it useful to think the following: I am feeling this emotion right now. What is it teaching me about what I am dissatisfied with and what I can improve? For instance coveting a friend's really nice apartment way too much made me realize I wanted to live in a different place. I couldn't afford that place, but I could afford some of its attributes (new, bright, lots of space) so I made it my business to look hard for that within my own means for myself instead of focusing on the jealousy. It's not a good space to dwell, bad for op and bad for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

The influencers on tiktok are wild for a few apps where you can buy knock offs. Yellow app maybe? I don't remember because I don't care.

I honestly assume people who suddenly have loads of designer stuff are buying dupes/fakes/whatever you want to call them.

[Anonymous]

I generally think it’s hilarious. Unless I think harder about it and then I get pretty furious at our ridiculous culture and just feel sad for people who buy this stuff.

[Anonymous]

I would notice it but would not care. If she genuinely looked nice and stylish I would compliment her. But a lot of women decked out in designer labels just look tacky and its not my cup of tea.

[Anonymous]

Is she from Dallas?

[Anonymous]

I only judge those wearing Golden Goose sneakers.

[Anonymous]

The only weird thing in this story is your paranoia, OP.

It's not normal for you to think that she wears these things to mess with you. Why on earth would you think that? Do YOU do that (not with jewelry, but with other things)? It's the only explanation I can think of. It's so weird and unusual you would jump to that conclusion.

[Anonymous]

So when you lose your job, OP, we will of course expect you to dress in burlap and self-flagellate as you walk, while wailing and gnashing your teeth. Never be seen with any nice things you may own!!!

Because apparently you want others to behave that way.

Never mind that this woman probably had these items before losing her job, and wants to dress nicely while visiting, like she always does. Never mind that losing a job may not equate to financial difficulties, *for them*.

But no. You jump to the conclusion that she wants to make you feel bad.

What the heck????

You're so incredibly self-centered. Narcissistic, really.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I totally get it.

OP has been very resentful of her cousin, with all her nouveau riche ways, dripping Cartiers and Guccis all over the place.

So OP was LOOKING FORWARD to seeing a more contrite, modest, version of said cousin this year at Thanksgiving.

But no! OP has been denied the pleasure. The cousin, like any of us would do, walks in dressed the same! Because she had that stuff all along anyway, and why would she dress down just because she's lost her job?

So OP is SEETHING right now. She wanted to see come-uppance and didn't get it! Ugh, it's so infuriating when you can't gloat at your cousin's misery!

[Anonymous]

I don’t think about it at all. Whatever is the point.

[Anonymous]

The outfit OP described is a Tuesday school pickup outfit for a lot of private school moms.

[Anonymous]

Who cares ?

We are losing our country to heinous shits and this is your hill?

OP get a life and for gods sake grow up sane with anyone else commenting about what someone else buys it’s none of your business