What do you think of women dripping in designer items?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

Yep. You shouldn't judge. And she doesn't "make" you feel anything. Your feelings are your responsibility.

She's wearing what makes her feel good, what makes her feel confident. It's highly unlikely she is "trying to visually show that she's better than [you] and [your] family." She didn't focus on you while acquiring this stuff or while getting dressed. The world doesn't revolve around you (and your insecurities), OP.

I don't think anything if I see a woman "with this much designer stuff on."

[Anonymous]

I wear a lot of high end designers, almost entirely bought on consignment for well-below retail. I decided a few years ago to limit purchases of things that are newly manufactured, and then I found that high end designers tend to have higher quality (e.g. the silk on Prada shirts is very high thread count).

I don't like large logos, but if you know the brands you might recognize a distinctive clasp or design or something.

I don't do this to project that I'm better than anyone. I wear things I like. I'm not saying your cousin is doing what I do, but in general I find life is easier if you assume the best about people until proven otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't recognize the brands. Maybe Tiffany and Gucci I'd know? Eh, I would think "new money" and then not think of it again.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of Cartier and Van Cleef fakes so I'd think it's a mix of real and fake.

[Anonymous]

Even if it’s real what you described is a total of about $20K in jewelry and accessories that except for the handbag last forever. Maybe less, maybe a lot less if obtained at resale.

It’s a uniform for some people, they wear it like armor. Either she can afford it or she prioritizes it, either way it can be tacky or basic depending on your taste.

[Anonymous]

Also it’s not that hard to accumulate a piece or two a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Insecure. Needs to wear designer items to feel like they fit in.

I wear designer stuff and I can guarantee you none of my friends know what 95% of is. Not insecure. I like nice things and can afford them.

[Anonymous]

Where I am it's very common and I assume lots of fake stuff, or blows whole budget on fashion. That being said, I agree with the other poster stating some high end designer things are worth it. Instead of 5 new blah purses, you can buy a very nice designer purse on The Real Real. Same with clothing. They have Tiffany's as well, and Ferragamo. But someone wearing these pieces tastefully wouldn't be all decked out, and some items would be older/vintage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would think it remarkable that you had the time and inclination to inventory her belongings and post about it. Interesting values all around.

This. Most of what you named is not stuff I would notice or recognize. You clearly spend a lot of time looking at expensive items you cannot afford. This is a you problem, not a her problem.

[Anonymous]

OP,

You're so mentally disturbed that you believe she's doing it to get you? Just like that guy who cut you off - he was insulting you, personally. And the person who bumped you while getting out of the metro. They're all out to get you. And when your relatives start to whisper at the table, they're all talking about you. Not in a nice way.

You see where I'm going with this. Therapist and meds for you, stat.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think about it. Life is so busy, how do you have time to analyze what someone else is wearing? Good for her for wearing the things she likes.

[Anonymous]

My cousins dress like this. They're super rich and also it's just the style of where they are from (NJ growing up, Long Island now).

What do I think? I think they have more money than I do - and different taste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

With labels everywhere, I find it really tacky and nouveau riche. Insecure and trying to show off. Christine from selling sunset comes to mind.

[Anonymous]

What do I think? I think they're cheesy.