What do you think of women dripping in designer items?

[Anonymous]

My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

[Anonymous]

These people are usually wearing knock offs.

People who can actually afford designer items are usually more subtle about it.

[Anonymous]

They’re using labels to hide their weight or insecurity.

[Anonymous]

That their lives are driven by a need for external validation stemming from a deep insecurity, usually an upbringing that was the opposite of the life they are trying to project.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin arrived to Thanksgiving this year fully decked out in designer items that are very recognizable — two Cartier line bracelets, Van-Cleef earrings, a Fergamo belt, a Goyard tote bag, Tiffany necklace. I could go on. And most of these items are new from the last time I saw her (where she was decked out in other jewelry and accessories). This is how she got off the plane. I know she and her husband make more than I do but they also have two kids in private school and she had lost her job not too long ago. It just seems so unnecessary and irresponsible.

Yes, I shouldn’t judge. But it seriously makes me feel like she’s trying to visually show that she’s better than me and my family because I don’t have anything like this stuff. Am I jealous? Yea, a little, so that’s probably driving this but at the same time I can’t imagine going out wearing that much money.

So what do you think if you see a woman with this much designer stuff on?

This whole issue is 150% you.

[Anonymous]

Make snide comments about how it's pointless to wear genuine jewelry from these brands because everyone will assume it's fake.

[Anonymous]

Don't get to tell other people how to spend their money. You are choosing to be unhappy

[Anonymous]

She lost her job.
She's trying to make herself feel better.
She likely bought most of these items before she lost her job. If you see her once a year, you wouldn't know, would you?

Why do you bring everything back to yourself?
Try not to be so insecure.
She's trying to do the best she can.
Do the best YOU can.

Also, you can never know the financial situation of others, OP. For example, outwardly, we look poor. We actually have 10M in a stock portfolio. Don't make assumptions, particularly the one where you think it's all about you. It NEVER is.

[Anonymous]

I think she just likes the stuff and she can afford some of it. Some things made her feel good and she got some more stuff.
Rich or poor, I never liked jewelry, shoes, or bags. I also never cared for private school for my kids.
Right now I cannot even bring myself to go shopping because stock market is so much more interesting. Not a good thing either.
You should not be affected so much what others do or prefer.
I would show up to your house in sweatpants. That's not a good look at all.

[Anonymous]

You just sound jealous. She can buy and wear whatever she wants. It doesn't sound like she's wearing brands splashed on every inch of her body like a celebrity, so overall it sounds pretty subtle and you're just noticing these items because you covet them. I bet I wouldn't even notice them, and I love designer stuff that I cannot afford. But really - you're judging because she's wearing a couple bracelets, earrings and a belt? Talk to me when she wears this:

[Anonymous]

First of all, I wouldn't be able to recognize these brands.
Secondly, I would think they are from China where this stuff is highly obsessed over or they are from the ghetto where this stuff is also highly obsessed over.
Or they are Sarah Palin who foolishly thought that the wardrobe budget the Republican Party gave her entitled her to buying really expensive designer clothing.
Regardless, it's all "have not" mentality.

[Anonymous]

I don't care about the $$ or the logos. I just find it boring when everyone has the same pieces, but that's more of a personal taste thing than a judgment of character.

And I plenty a lot of extremely wealthy people that do wear and appreciate logos. The quiet luxury thing is nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I wouldn't be able to recognize these brands.
Secondly, I would think they are from China where this stuff is highly obsessed over or they are from the ghetto where this stuff is also highly obsessed over.
Or they are Sarah Palin who foolishly thought that the wardrobe budget the Republican Party gave her entitled her to buying really expensive designer clothing.
Regardless, it's all "have not" mentality.

Your racism is a have not mentality

[Anonymous]

Insecure. Needs to wear designer items to feel like they fit in.

[Anonymous]

I would think it remarkable that you had the time and inclination to inventory her belongings and post about it. Interesting values all around.