are you buying your kid an ED school tee or sweatshirt before admissions are out?

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Anonymous wrote:We bought a tee and hid it away. If he doesn't get in, we'll throw it out. No big deal.

I should say he'd never wear it to school anyway. Not the kind of kid who likes to draw attention to himself.

Nobody will pay attention to his U of SC shirt.

Yeah, definitely where my 4.94 GPA, 36 ACT kid will be going...

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Anonymous wrote:I have a t shirt, in case.

But my kid is already pretty well aware there's no sweatshirt wearing til Spring. He even mentioned last year how uncool it was for people to add college to instagram bio in winter.

Wearing it around the house, or taking a picture in the sweatshirt to send to your sister, sure. The rest is not kind, as you say

Why did he think that was uncool? Kids need to be able to congratulate their friends when they get into a college.

I’m guessing by her tone the school her child is hoping for is very elitist. Otherwise she wouldn’t think it was “not kind” to tell others you got in there.

Then it's even more stupid, because top schools are NEVER a sure bet. The OP sounds completely delusional here.

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Most colleges release their decisions on a Friday. You have time to order by Monday.

Funny story: A number of years ago, I attended Accepted Student Day at Williams College with my child. Before we left, I said, “Let’s get you a hoodie!” He answered, “No thanks”. Why was I surprised he didn’t end up there?

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Anonymous wrote:OP..You can decide what works for you. Jinxes aren't real and if you want to run upstairs and grab a sweatshirt "if" he's accepted, then do it. These responses are ridiculous. Good grief.

This. DD’s school is a plane ride away so I had a UPS package with sweatshirt hidden - ready to open if she was accepted, ready to put in the goodwill pile if rejected. Turns out her wearing the new swag was a very cute and fun pic for her to send to older sibs and grandparents to share her happy news.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm in an alternative universe. College t-shirts and sweatshirts are extremely common where my DC goes to HS. They are worn by kids in all grades. And, yes, plenty of people do get gear when they have visited a school they actually like.

NP here. Love the divisive energy, people! You can tell folks are a little on edge waiting on those ED results. Let's everyone take a deep breath! For all of you bad mojo folks out there in the responses, I appreciate your perspective even though I don't share it. As we should all hopefully know from Crash Davis, if you have superstitions, you have to respect them. So if buying the gear before the decision comes in is bad, just like touching the Prince of Wales trophy before the Stanley Cup finals is bad, I respect your voodoo. But to PP's point above, maybe it shouldn't be this complicated. Kids of all ages wear all types of college gear for any number of reasons. My oldest went on a college visit w/in the last year and my youngest asked for a t-shit from the school. It's early but I bet younger sibling will have no actual interest in this school (or even this flavor of school). They just liked the gear. Maybe we should be a little less concerned about how people spend their t-shirt money.

It should go without saying that I wish you all good fortune in the wars to come.

A lot of the colleges handed out free swag to my oldest and my youngest wears all of them and hans't applied to any of those schools. People are weird about this stuff.

Good luck everyone!

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Unlimited swag for my kids. Only get to experience once for the kids and two times for me!

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Some of you are very blase about consumeristic waste. You can't even wait until you know the school? Gross. And a terrible lesson to teach your kids. Do you also leave the water running while brushing your teeth and the car running while you "run in real quick"?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

Buy it and don't tell them. Get's in you have it, doesn't, return it and they'll never know the difference. As far as it not being fair, codswallop, if they didn't ED that's on them. It's not your kids responsibility to manage other people's emotions.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm in an alternative universe. College t-shirts and sweatshirts are extremely common where my DC goes to HS. They are worn by kids in all grades. And, yes, plenty of people do get gear when they have visited a school they actually like.

Things change when active applications are out there.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but if a kid gets in to their ED, then huge congrats. Wear all the stuff and get excited. Isn't this why we applied ED? We have to hide it to not offend? Stop. Life is life. No thanks.

This! Mine was accepted EA but had some physical hurdles to clear before it was a sure thing, so we kept it quiet for two months. It was HARD. Let them wear the clothes and get excited!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm in an alternative universe. College t-shirts and sweatshirts are extremely common where my DC goes to HS. They are worn by kids in all grades. And, yes, plenty of people do get gear when they have visited a school they actually like.

Things change when active applications are out there.

My kid is a senior, still wearing college shirts/sweatshirts and so are their friends. Heck, they wore the heck out of the Pitt free tee and never even applied.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm in an alternative universe. College t-shirts and sweatshirts are extremely common where my DC goes to HS. They are worn by kids in all grades. And, yes, plenty of people do get gear when they have visited a school they actually like.

Things change when active applications are out there.

My kid is a senior, still wearing college shirts/sweatshirts and so are their friends. Heck, they wore the heck out of the Pitt free tee and never even applied.

I'm the one whose kid put all his clothes in the closet. I guess different kids handle stress differently. Also, super weird to wear a shirt you have zero connection (even mild interest) in.

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Anonymous wrote:Delayed gratification is one of the most powerful skills we can develop as humans. He sorely needs it!

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I would be superstitious about it and not purchase until admitted.

I think this is where I would fall.

My kid is a sophomore and currently plans (lots could change of course) to apply ED at my Alma mater, and he has had sweatshirts and t-shirts from there since early ES so it is a little different. (I have not tried to encourage this, by the way. While many of my college friends have happily sent their kids there, I’ve always kind of hoped my kids don’t pick it, though it is a great school and in state public so it would be nice in that respect.)

All that said when we start to look more seriously, if he falls in love with somewhere else, no swag until admitted, I think!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I'm in an alternative universe. College t-shirts and sweatshirts are extremely common where my DC goes to HS. They are worn by kids in all grades. And, yes, plenty of people do get gear when they have visited a school they actually like.

Things change when active applications are out there.

My kid is a senior, still wearing college shirts/sweatshirts and so are their friends. Heck, they wore the heck out of the Pitt free tee and never even applied.

I'm the one whose kid put all his clothes in the closet. I guess different kids handle stress differently. Also, super weird to wear a shirt you have zero connection (even mild interest) in.

Not in the least. At least for people who don't take this so dang seriously.