are you buying your kid an ED school tee or sweatshirt before admissions are out?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

NOOOOO....that is the kiss of death!!! Just be patient....then do your celebratory shopping afterwards.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

I know this is the epitome of magical thinking, but I would worry about jinxing it.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be superstitious about it and not purchase until admitted.

This. I will be happy to pay for expedited shipping, but I'm not buying anything ahead of time.

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If you are comfortable buying and returning if they are rejected, without ever ever hinting to your child that you did this, then it's fine to do so and keep it to yourself.

Obviously, most people would simply wait. You can still shop ahead, put it in your cart. Keep an eye on what you would want from Amazon or the school's Barnes and Noble website. Note shipping time and size availability, which may change as it gets closer to the holidays. If it's in your cart, you are ready to hit the purchase button when you hear the decision.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope! SCEA is one thing, but we're still chasing merit at a few other places. Positive news from the SCEA school takes off some of the pressure, but doesn't completely resolve things.

Positive news SCEA is highly unlikely unless recruited athlete. Not even remotely comparable to OP's.

OP, I bought a $7 pennant. But, kid's sib was at the school already, so I could reuse if the answer wasn't good. Even though this ED was a very tough admit, I had clues she was in, and she had a sib there, but, even so, I only risked the $7 pennant. It was nice to have something with the admit that she could hold up.

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Anonymous wrote:I know this is the epitome of magical thinking, but I would worry about jinxing it.

I should add that DS had wanted this dream school for years, so he did have some attire, but it somehow ended up in the back of the closet at the beginning of his junior year. I guess we're all superstitious around here.

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Anonymous wrote:OP -- assuming you meant that you wouldn't give it to them unless and until they got in, and the $20 or so you'd spend isn't a significant expense to you, go for it if you think it would make him feel really happy and wouldn't make you feel bad if he doesn't get in.

It's always hard to know whether the people posting here are actual parents with actual students going through this process. Kids frequently buy and wear college shirts long before they apply, let along know where they are going. It's really not unusual. Are those who say he shouldn't wear a shirt suggesting that he should keep his happy news to himself for months?

Whether he wears it the next day or not of course depends a ton on the type of school your kid goes to and their friend group. If a friend was applying to the same school and doesn't get in, sure it would be kind not to immediately wear it. But at my kids' large suburban DC school, tons of kids know the next day who got in where. The idea that you'd wait until April seems odd. It's just as important for kids to learn to be happy for each other as it is for them to learn to be kind to each other.

And the notion that getting into your ED school shouldn't be celebrated to the hilt in your home by giving him a t-shirt if that's how you want to celebrate is just odd

Reading comprehension fail.
We're saying, ***don't buy anything before you know he's in***. After that, he can wear it and flaunt it, no one will care.

And usually it's not $20. I bought one teeny weeny short-sleeve shirt for myself and it was $37! Colleges force you to pay exorbitant sums on tuition, room and board, and then fleece you at the gift shop as well!

Finally, NO, it's common for kids to walk about with swag from every school they like. Only the people with money than brains do that. The rest of us can't afford to throw money out of the window.

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Anonymous wrote:OP -- assuming you meant that you wouldn't give it to them unless and until they got in, and the $20 or so you'd spend isn't a significant expense to you, go for it if you think it would make him feel really happy and wouldn't make you feel bad if he doesn't get in.

It's always hard to know whether the people posting here are actual parents with actual students going through this process. Kids frequently buy and wear college shirts long before they apply, let along know where they are going. It's really not unusual. Are those who say he shouldn't wear a shirt suggesting that he should keep his happy news to himself for months?

Whether he wears it the next day or not of course depends a ton on the type of school your kid goes to and their friend group. If a friend was applying to the same school and doesn't get in, sure it would be kind not to immediately wear it. But at my kids' large suburban DC school, tons of kids know the next day who got in where. The idea that you'd wait until April seems odd. It's just as important for kids to learn to be happy for each other as it is for them to learn to be kind to each other.

And the notion that getting into your ED school shouldn't be celebrated to the hilt in your home by giving him a t-shirt if that's how you want to celebrate is just odd

Are you stupid? That's exactly what the kid wants to do. Wear swag before getting formally accepted. The rest of your idiocy is moot.

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OP..You can decide what works for you. Jinxes aren't real and if you want to run upstairs and grab a sweatshirt "if" he's accepted, then do it. These responses are ridiculous. Good grief.

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I understand OP. But I would advise anyone to unplug. I watched my kid read the ED deferral news. It’s hard. Not surprising with a super reach for all. Best for us to support, and in a few weeks help them to lean into other acceptances that do come. Ours was accepted in RD after deferral. But I’m very happy we didn’t have merch either way. Celebrated in April with friends who were accepted into various schools. Unless yours ED’d to a safety as one of mine did, just be there for support.

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Don’t tempt fate. My kid prematurely bought swag from his top choice school. Deferred and then waitlisted. Never got off the waitlist.

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Omg this isn’t why. Do you really believe this?

[Anonymous]

I bought a T-shirt to the first choice school. He doesn't know but it will be fun to give it to him if he is accepted. I'll return it if he doesn't get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP..You can decide what works for you. Jinxes aren't real and if you want to run upstairs and grab a sweatshirt "if" he's accepted, then do it. These responses are ridiculous. Good grief.

Seriously. Are people really this silly?