are you buying your kid an ED school tee or sweatshirt before admissions are out?

[Anonymous]

You could buy it and then give it to him if he gets in.

[Anonymous]

It sounds fun but I don't want to jinks anything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

I don't understand. Why can't he wear it out?

[Anonymous]

Tell him he was to wait. He will survive (and be the better for it.)

[Anonymous]

No. I would not buy anything hoping for an acceptance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

I don't understand. Why can't he wear it out?

Because then we're all going to laugh at him when he gets rejected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

I don't understand. Why can't he wear it out?

Because then we're all going to laugh at him when he gets rejected.

I think it is funny the mom thinks she has to advise her kid of this because it would bother her more than him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

No!!
No no no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds fun but I don't want to jinks anything!

I posted the above. I meant it sounds fun to buy something to have on hand to surprise him with in case he gets in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds fun but I don't want to jinks anything!

I posted the above. I meant it sounds fun to buy something to have on hand to surprise him with in case he gets in.

Not necessary. The admit is the gift already. Everything does not require manufactured consumerism.

[Anonymous]

No way.
I have 4 kids that have already been through this (youngest is a current college freshman) and we didn't buy anything until they had an acceptance in hand.
I'd be worried about jinxing it.

[Anonymous]

They have to be ready for the big social media announcement!! It won’t make any sense whatsoever if he’s not wearing the shirt.

[Anonymous]

No! Why would you do this and make the kid feel even worse if they get rejected?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid has no swag from his ED school--it was one of many we toured that we didn't buy anything from (we do have a random selection from others).
Per college counseling (based on past data), he has a good shot at ED. Yes, he (and we) realize that everything these days is a lottery.
He mentioned wanting to wear college gear as soon as possible. I'm not sure this is even kind if most of his friends are waiting although i know the recruited athletes are already wearing gear. I'm sure my son has not through through any of this.
So buy a tee shirt to have on hand (and then maybe advise him not to wear it out?) Buy for Christmas?
what are you doing?

No swag until acceptance.

[Anonymous]

OP -- assuming you meant that you wouldn't give it to them unless and until they got in, and the $20 or so you'd spend isn't a significant expense to you, go for it if you think it would make him feel really happy and wouldn't make you feel bad if he doesn't get in.

It's always hard to know whether the people posting here are actual parents with actual students going through this process. Kids frequently buy and wear college shirts long before they apply, let along know where they are going. It's really not unusual. Are those who say he shouldn't wear a shirt suggesting that he should keep his happy news to himself for months?

Whether he wears it the next day or not of course depends a ton on the type of school your kid goes to and their friend group. If a friend was applying to the same school and doesn't get in, sure it would be kind not to immediately wear it. But at my kids' large suburban DC school, tons of kids know the next day who got in where. The idea that you'd wait until April seems odd. It's just as important for kids to learn to be happy for each other as it is for them to learn to be kind to each other.

And the notion that getting into your ED school shouldn't be celebrated to the hilt in your home by giving him a t-shirt if that's how you want to celebrate is just odd