Not the attorney PP but fighting your OCD / hoarder elderly parent is definitely much less joyful than just letting go of your urge to throw their stuff out and enjoying your remaining time with them. |
OP -I'm in the same position. We children were not allowed access to the home for forty years. Call the fire department and ask for a welfare check. When my mother screamed at them and refused entry, we went to our county's elder abuse hotline. Every city/county/state has one - it might fall under hygiene, elder care, fire department, etc. Almost every county has an association that deals with hoarding and ask how you can access help. In the end, a tragic fall solved our problem. A neighbor called an ambulance and took them both because the non-injured parent had dirt under their nails and holes in their clothes. The ER notified social services. They ordered the house be cleared out down to the floors, fumigated and ok'd by them and the fire department before they were allowed to move back in. It was traumatic for relatives who had to drop everything and suddenly shove the contents of the house into pods, rip out everything and reinstall floors and fixtures in bathroom, kitchen, etc. Expensive, too, because parents had to go to a nursing home for six weeks while all
of the work was done. The hoarding resumed when they moved back in but we try to keep in under control now that we have access. Good luck |
Just curious...how were peoples' parents when you were a kid?
Is hoarding something that takes off when people get older, so are they hoarding in their 30s and the kids are 5. I guess if they have kept telephone bills from the 1970s, they were doing this all along. |
and get a permit for it. |
People can be pack rats, esp if they have a large house, and it doesn’t cause a problem. But over time it can get worse. Or a stress trigger can develop… maybe a spouse or parent dies, and the fall into full blown hoarding. |
What? People tell you they want to declutter and you tell them not to? That’s awful advice. Are you a hoarder yourself? |