Locker Room Teasing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have him ask the other kids why they are looking at his underwear. I’d tell him to say that’s a weird thing to be looking at.

+1 I would teach my DC to call out on those kids they look like losers probably suck at sports and not have anything better to do. Not their body and none of their business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The classic response(s) to such provocations (questioning the observer’s masculinity and/or a rap in the yap) unfortunately seem no longer available these days.

Wrong. Boys still call each other gay and all the slurs left and right. Rest assured the adults think they have curbed this behavior and they all still do it. Great news right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have him ask the other kids why they are looking at his underwear. I’d tell him to say that’s a weird thing to be looking at.

+1 I would teach my DC to call out on those kids they look like losers probably suck at sports and not have anything better to do. Not their body and none of their business.

They probably suck at sports! Good one! What worse fate could there be????

[Anonymous]

Moms, unless you were a teen boy, you shouldn’t be coaching your teen boys on what to say in the locker room.

Parent them. Don’t ask them to parrot you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have him ask the other kids why they are looking at his underwear. I’d tell him to say that’s a weird thing to be looking at.

I agree with this comment. He can say : “stop staring”
This is how to maintain what you are, what you want to wear. They laughed at what he is wearing, fine, they already laughed.
Now they can no longer laugh. And since he can say things such as that is not their business. He can also say if any of them make such a comment again, that he will report them. Make sure everyone hears it. Cause pay day is coming

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have him ask the other kids why they are looking at his underwear. I’d tell him to say that’s a weird thing to be looking at.

Never do this. Kids can smell "mom gave me a retort" and double their efforts.

Call them gay then , bullies deserve to be bullied back then

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Conscious that there are some weirdo’s using these forums to get their kicks, so please be mindful of what you share.

My DS 11 has just started at his new middle school, generally settling in well and has made a few new friends as well as a couple who followed from elementary. He’s a nice kid, generally gets on well with everyone even if not close friends, not one to cause trouble or pick on others etc. He is quite sensitive though, not overly so but also not crazy confident and loud.

He’s confided in me this afternoon that a few of the kids he doesn’t know have been making unkind comments when they’ve been changing for gym class, laughing at him and calling him a baby because he wears briefs not boxers/trunks as the majority of others seem to.

It’s his choice, he has always found them more comfortable since potty training - over the years I’ve bought him different underwear to try a few times (usually because they had a favourite character on and he wanted them!) but he’s never got on well with them, and they always end up shoved to the back of his drawer or worn as PJs. Fair enough, I wouldn’t want to wear something I found uncomfortable either! Glad he knows his mind and despite not being too confident he’s been assertive to make his own choices.

I don’t want him getting ahead of hard time and being bullied about it though, from my distant memories of middle school it can be tough enough without making yourself stand out and giving those who want to bully ammunition. I did ask whether it was just him, but he said there are a couple of other boys who got laughed at too.

Now I’m torn, the confident adult in me wants to tell him to own it, he should do him and let them do them etc. Why should he be uncomfortable just because of what others think, about something which is very much a personal choice and absolutely nothing to do with them? Besides, whilst not being male and having no first hand experience, I’d have thought briefs may be a better option for sports - particularly as the boys get older?

On the other hand, is this a hill to die on? Is it worth putting a target on his back over? Would it be kinder to gently encourage him to consider wearing boxers on the days he’s got to change for gym, even if he doesn’t really like them, just so he’s not singling himself out for ridicule?

Why do some kids have to make mountains out of the strangest molehills?

Arnold Schwarzenegger wore briefs in public.

Most kids are stupid. Most kids aren't confident and strong enough to overcome stupid kids. Your kid has to either grow an unusually thick skin, grow unusually large muscles, or conform to fashion, or get out of the environment.

Thanks for all those choices!

Nicely said. I support growing thick skin. A friend used to tell me :” fart and walk”. Don’t care about what others think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

Good for you?

Brave is good, but I prefer to be clothed. Maybe I'm cold or something

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

Good for you?

Brave is good, but I prefer to be clothed. Maybe I'm cold or something

People with big muscles or a lot of drugs are confident when naked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some
confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

Good for you?

Brave is good, but I prefer to be clothed. Maybe I'm cold or something

People with big muscles or a lot of drugs are confident when naked.

I don’t have either lol. I am an average sized mom. But I have a huge ego. He can put his clothes on and ask say the same stuff he planned to say. He can also say them at the locker room or somewhere else such as the cafeteria. The idea is to tell them that what they said is not acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

Easy to say from the comfort of your keyboard fatty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also would find it tough to defend myself while standing in my underwear. Get him boxer briefs. Tell him it's camouflage.
Get them tighter or looser, whatever his preference.

I can defend myself wearing whatever. Build some confidence. Be who you are not what they want you to be. Be brave

Wut



Good for you?

Brave is good, but I prefer to be clothed. Maybe I'm cold or something

People with big muscles or a lot of drugs are confident when naked.

[Anonymous]

Get boxer briefs. My 13 year old has some with designs on them so I won't say stay away entirely from characters but I guess it depends on what they are. DS has some with skulls, flames, and I think one with dragons or something. They are actually hilarious and he loves them.

[Anonymous]

My teen athlete loves Duluth Trading Company boxer briefs. He said they are really comfortable. I don’t actually think he’s ever changed for PE or a sport though at school though, other than switching jerseys if the other team is wearing the same color. It’s unfortunate that anyone has to.