Cannot night train 6 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS wet the bed until 10. When he turned 10, it was like a switch went off and his body was ready. I was relieved. We did pull-ups nightly and had special washable and disposable pee pads that were placed on top of the sheets so we wouldn’t have to change sheets daily.

We had previously tried waking up at midnight and limiting liquids but that never worked. We didn’t bother with the alarm.

If he had a pull-up then you shouldn’t have had to put down anything else. Was he peeing so much that the pull-up couldn’t hold up?

Some kids overflow pull ups some times. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes patience, time, positive encouragement, and dedication to train your kid to use the “potty” and then the toilet by 3y.

Yep. And staying dry all night has zero correlation with how patient, positive, and dedicated a child's parents are when it comes to daytime potty training. Believe me, I wish it did. Heck, I wish staying dry at time was correlated with how nasty, judgemental, and downright vicious parents were about staying dry at night, because then maybe I wouldn't have emotionally suffered for years. But it's not. A child will stay dry overnight when their body has matured enough to do so, and there is a extremely broad range of "normal." And for the kids who can't (and it definitely is can't, not won't), they wish they could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes patience, time, positive encouragement, and dedication to train your kid to use the “potty” and then the toilet by 3y.

Yep. And staying dry all night has zero correlation with how patient, positive, and dedicated a child's parents are when it comes to daytime potty training. Believe me, I wish it did. Heck, I wish staying dry at time was correlated with how nasty, judgemental, and downright vicious parents were about staying dry at night, because then maybe I wouldn't have emotionally suffered for years. But it's not. A child will stay dry overnight when their body has matured enough to do so, and there is an extremely broad range of "normal." And for the kids who can't (and it definitely is can't, not won't), they wish they could.

How old were you when you stopped?

[Anonymous]

You can’t night train. It’s a biological hormone that regulates waking up when needing to urinate.

Took my kids until near age 8.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up to 7 is common. After 7 is not “normal” whatever that is supposed to mean.

No.

My pediatrician wouldn’t even entertain looking into it until after age 9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes patience, time, positive encouragement, and dedication to train your kid to use the “potty” and then the toilet by 3y.

Yep. And staying dry all night has zero correlation with how patient, positive, and dedicated a child's parents are when it comes to daytime potty training. Believe me, I wish it did. Heck, I wish staying dry at time was correlated with how nasty, judgemental, and downright vicious parents were about staying dry at night, because then maybe I wouldn't have emotionally suffered for years. But it's not. A child will stay dry overnight when their body has matured enough to do so, and there is an extremely broad range of "normal." And for the kids who can't (and it definitely is can't, not won't), they wish they could.

How old were you when you stopped?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes patience, time, positive encouragement, and dedication to train your kid to use the “potty” and then the toilet by 3y.

Yep. And staying dry all night has zero correlation with how patient, positive, and dedicated a child's parents are when it comes to daytime potty training. Believe me, I wish it did. Heck, I wish staying dry at time was correlated with how nasty, judgemental, and downright vicious parents were about staying dry at night, because then maybe I wouldn't have emotionally suffered for years. But it's not. A child will stay dry overnight when their body has matured enough to do so, and there is an extremely broad range of "normal." And for the kids who can't (and it definitely is can't, not won't), they wish they could.

How old were you when you stopped?

15 or 16. It was awful. My parents called me every name in the book, accused me to doing it on purpose just to make life more difficult for them.

I have a 7 year old who cannot stay dry. I did pretty much the opposite of my parents: patient, positive, never calling him names. Kid still wets 99/100 nights. Went to a ped urologist just after he turned 7, and they said he was still within the "normal" range, and given my history, it's not surprising he's not overnight dry. There's no apparent medical issue causing this. Urologist said we could try alarms, but it's at best 50/50 to work. And since my son sleeps right through his alarm almost every morning, even though it's right next to his head, we decided it was unlikely to work for him. We're just sucking up the expense of pull ups for now. If it continues beyond the range of normal, then we'll investigate medical issues again.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you went through that. I think now that it is easy to find the pull-ups for bigger kids it has helped cut down on the social stigma.

[Anonymous]

Any more success?

[Anonymous]

Speaking from experience. You cannot night train a child.
I remember having to wear a diaper to bed till I think at least 8 or 9. I remember putting on myself and then going to my mom to check that it was on the right way before I went to bed. Yes it was embarrassing but, it was better than waking up wet which I hated.
She never yelled at me or anything and never really brought it up till bedtime.
My daughter is 7 and still wears a pull up to bed. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Some kids just take longer than others to stay dry at night. Just make sure there is no punishment involved. If that means wearing a pull up for a little longer, so be it. Just don't make it a punishment.

[Anonymous]

Is he having any more dry nights?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Up to 7 is common. After 7 is not “normal” whatever that is supposed to mean.

No.

My pediatrician wouldn’t even entertain looking into it until after age 9.

I was quoting the Mayo Clinic.

“Generally, bed-wetting before age 7 isn't a concern. At this age, your child may still be developing nighttime bladder control.”

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/bed-wetting/symptoms-causes/syc-20366685

[Anonymous]

In a similar situation, just keeping the nighttime diapers for now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No neurotypical or developmental issues at all. We cannot night train our 6 year old. We have tried everything. Limiting water. He goes right before bed at 8. We get him up at midnight and again at 5am and still wakes up wet. We have tried various ways- getting him up one time, not at all. Any advice or similar experiences?

Zero developmental concerns otherwise.

Of course you can’t train him not to do something while asleep! My kid is 11 and not night trained. Just a deep sleeper. NBD.