Cannot night train 6 year old

[Anonymous]

No neurotypical or developmental issues at all. We cannot night train our 6 year old. We have tried everything. Limiting water. He goes right before bed at 8. We get him up at midnight and again at 5am and still wakes up wet. We have tried various ways- getting him up one time, not at all. Any advice or similar experiences?

Zero developmental concerns otherwise.

[Anonymous]

You can’t “night train” him. So stop torturing him. He’ll stop wetting the bed at night when his body is ready. Get a waterproof mattress pad, layer the sheets, and let your kid sleep. My youngest was about 7 when he stopped wetting the bed, if that helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can’t “night train” him. So stop torturing him. He’ll stop wetting the bed at night when his body is ready. Get a waterproof mattress pad, layer the sheets, and let your kid sleep. My youngest was about 7 when he stopped wetting the bed, if that helps.

Thanks! did you keep him in pull ups then?

[Anonymous]

This IS a developmental issue. You cannot night train. His brain and body aren’t developed to do it yet. It will happen when his body gains that control. Right now he doesn’t have it. It isn’t your fault, it isn’t his fault. It will happen in time. Some boys don’t gain that control until early puberty. Just hang in there and support him and don’t give me a complex about it.

[Anonymous]

Ped here. It’s very common and runs in families. Don’t fight it. Just give him a pull up and stop waking him up. It will eventually course correct. I usually recommend my patients with this issue ask around in the family to see who else had late wetting issues and you can usually sort out roughly what age it might stop based on family history.

Up to 7 is considered typical though and not ‘late’.

[Anonymous]

My 7yo dd wet the bed every single night despite trying everything you mentioned including the bedwetting alarm for months with no progress. It was just torture for everyone. It wasn’t until we went to see a pediatric urologist where we learned that she actually wasn’t pooping frequently enough (never occurred to me) and they put her on a daily miralax regimen to get her going at least once if not twice per day. Within a week of getting her pooping daily, the bedwetting just stopped. Apparently her bladder just needed more space to hold the pee. You should get a referral to a urologist to see if something similar could be going on.

[Anonymous]

At age 6 it is not concerning at all for a child to still have accidents at night. Save yourself a lot of trouble and let him use a diaper. He will outgrow it when he gets older. Reassurance that he is still a big kid and that you are not upset with him will help his self confidence.

[Anonymous]

My kid wet the bed til 8. Did the bed wetting alarm( disaster), limiting liquids, night pee, all of it……. She was and still is a deep sleeper. She is 12 now with no issues. Just give it time OP and stop stressing him out, sleep is more important.

[Anonymous]

This happened to me into my teens OP. I just would not wake with pee urgency. It became more occasional as I got older because my bladder capacity was larger. But it wasn't until 14 or 15 that I fully stopped having nighttime accidents.

You are likely making it worse by making a big deal of it. I had such shame around it and it definitely made it worse because I would try to hide it.

[Anonymous]

My 7 yo is still in a pull up at night. His body isn’t ready. He has reported starting to wake at night to go to the bathroom and we’ve noticed that the pull up is lighter in the morning these days. It’s a process.

[Anonymous]

My dad and brother were bedwetters until puberty. (I was not.) My DS1 night trained by age 3 but DS2 wet the bed until he was almost 8. We kept it normal and no big deal at home (he wore pull-ups) but he was embarrassed about sleepovers so when the pediatrician mentioned trying a bedwetting alarm we gave it a go. I truly didn't think it would work but it did. It took about 10 days. Kind of amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me into my teens OP. I just would not wake with pee urgency. It became more occasional as I got older because my bladder capacity was larger. But it wasn't until 14 or 15 that I fully stopped having nighttime accidents.

You are likely making it worse by making a big deal of it. I had such shame around it and it definitely made it worse because I would try to hide it.

I was 15 when it completely stopped and got so much shame. It actually runs in my father’s side of the family and many of the girls have bladders that don’t grow as fast as the rest of them.

[Anonymous]

DD wet the bed one night in kindergarten, and then never again. They’ll stop when they stop.

[Anonymous]

My 6yo was still in pull ups until about 6 1/2. Woke up dry one day and has been dry since. It will happen. Nothing you can do to rush it.

[Anonymous]

DD 7 had two nighttime accidents the first week of school. None for months before that. This is just part of raising kids.