“Not a sign of good breeding”

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Saying "I don't like X" or "I hate X," especially regarding food.

The polite phrase is "I don't care for X."

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Anonymous wrote:I was told my an old money boyfriend thirty years ago to “make sure I didn’t dip anything” - like bread in sauce or whatever- in front of his grandmother or she’s consider me low class.

I remember being so shocked. I’m Italian. We dip. Apparently, Ill bred

Oh yes. Or pour something out of the side of a serving bowl.

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Anonymous wrote:It is the striving bourgeoisie who desperately seeks to judge others on their breeding, or lack thereof.

The poor and aristocrats don't care. The former because they believe they will never arrive, and the latter because their ancestors already secured their place for them. The middle classes are the ones who face the strongest social pressures and the most incentive to signal their belonging to desired groups.

- European aristocrat. My family would never think to judge you or anyone else on such ridiculous details as personal habits, casual remarks or clothing choices, OP. They will always be courteous no matter what.

You post here all the time. I find you incredibly irritating. Your so-called aristocratic status matters nothing at all. Half the European aristocracy have nothing but an old house and a silly costume these days, particularly in France. The fact that your great great uncle managed to save a small part of the family estate by making a side deal with Robespierre to kill all monarchists in the village, in exchange for some hectares of grape vines to avoid your mansion being sacked isn’t the impressive lineage you think it is. Weasel stock that avoided the guillotine. Hurray!!

Just stop bringing it up. Repeating it over and over again doesn’t make it more impressive or believable.

+1

It's ridiculous and makes me cringe every time. This PP must be insufferable IRL.

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Anonymous wrote:Today I learned that saying something like “I am going to order the eggs Benedict rather than the French toast because I can make French toast at home” marks me as someone who is ill-bred. I had no idea!

Wondering what other faux pas I commit on a regular basis. Someone please enlighten me! What other ideas, phrases and practices give me away as someone who was raised poor?

I would consider it ill bred not to be able to poach an egg and make hollandaise sauce. Seriously.

You didn’t understand the assignment.

Bless your heart.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is the striving bourgeoisie who desperately seeks to judge others on their breeding, or lack thereof.

The poor and aristocrats don't care. The former because they believe they will never arrive, and the latter because their ancestors already secured their place for them. The middle classes are the ones who face the strongest social pressures and the most incentive to signal their belonging to desired groups.

- European aristocrat. My family would never think to judge you or anyone else on such ridiculous details as personal habits, casual remarks or clothing choices, OP. They will always be courteous no matter what.

Why, oh why, is everyone "European" always so coy about the actual country? Do you think we'll instantly know who you are if say you're Lithuanian or Danish or Greek or whatever? It's really annoying, almost as if none of you know that Europe is a continent with 40+ countries

THANK YOU I hate this so much.

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Anonymous wrote:When you do major renovations in your house, don’t insist that everyone who comes over look at them. No tours, no long winded explanations about what you did. Just carry on like it’s always been that way.

lol this has no idea with “good breeding” you’re just jealous.

DP: I'm not sure why anyone would think having to suffer through an unsolicited renovation story is about jealousy. It's just being a bore-- plus it puts people in an uncomfortable position if they don't share your design taste.

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Anonymous wrote:When you do major renovations in your house, don’t insist that everyone who comes over look at them. No tours, no long winded explanations about what you did. Just carry on like it’s always been that way.

lol this has no idea with “good breeding” you’re just jealous.

Leading indicator of poor breeding is people who say “lol, you’re just jealous.”

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Asking for or giving "house tours" to dinner or party guests.

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Serving store-bought food in the plastic containers they come in. This is what pretty ceramic bowls are for.

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You guys are confusing the things you do to put on airs of being “old money” or “well bre from all the cues you learn on dcum, or maybe from your striver parents or grandparents vs the real world. Real world is none of this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you do major renovations in your house, don’t insist that everyone who comes over look at them. No tours, no long winded explanations about what you did. Just carry on like it’s always been that way.

lol this has no idea with “good breeding” you’re just jealous.

I think good manners is getting mixed up with "good breeding". I was told as a child that it is tacky and rude to make your guests go on a tour of your house.

Just like it's rude to not to have table manners (napkin on lap, no elbows on the table, fork and knife across your plate when you're finished, cut one piece of meat at a time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you do major renovations in your house, don’t insist that everyone who comes over look at them. No tours, no long winded explanations about what you did. Just carry on like it’s always been that way.

lol this has no idea with “good breeding” you’re just jealous.

I think good manners is getting mixed up with "good breeding". I was told as a child that it is tacky and rude to make your guests go on a tour of your house.

Just like it's rude to not to have table manners (napkin on lap, no elbows on the table, fork and knife across your plate when you're finished, cut one piece of meat at a time.

I’m picturing a Venn diagram with good manners in one circle and money in the other. Where they intersect is good breeding.

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Anonymous wrote:I was told my an old money boyfriend thirty years ago to “make sure I didn’t dip anything” - like bread in sauce or whatever- in front of his grandmother or she’s consider me low class.

I remember being so shocked. I’m Italian. We dip. Apparently, Ill bred

But your grandmother would think someone was low class if they put parm on seafood or put the wrong sauce on the wrong pasta.

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Anonymous wrote:A lot of times it shows up in physical ailments like deafness, blindness, and hip dysplasia, or psycho-emotional issues like aggression, anxiety, or stupidity.

Genetic diversity is really important, which is why I really stay away from purebreds.

lol, thank you

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Anonymous wrote:Going to Ocean City MD for vacation.

Or Bethany Beach.

+1. In particular the neighborhood The Reserves