What have you completely changed your mind about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be re a real *sshole about proper grammar. I still value it, but I do not judge people for it nearly as much. As long as I understand what you're trying to say, then we're all good. Pointing out other people's grammar mistakes in low stakes communication is just a petty way to undermine them and their ideas. Yes, we shouldn't have spelling errors on a printed handout. No, your comma splice doesn't mean your idea is stupid.

I believe you mean “No, we shouldn’t have….” Please fix. Thanks!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Abortion

But not like the other posters.

My mom is brainwashed by conservatives. I never understood it. And finally, my sister-in-law and I sat down with her to understand it.

It was wild.

She explained to me how babies were born after 38 weeks, fully formed and healthy. Then Doctors took a huge needle, stuck it in the babies head and killed it and threw it away in a trashcan.

This is why Republicans are against abortion because that’s what they think abortion is.

It’s wild, how propaganda controls the ignorant.

This is so interesting- I was watching the movie The Giver the other day, and this is exactly what they did in the movie - although they called it sending them to "elsewhere". I wonder if this is where they got this ridiculous idea from.

[Anonymous]

I was a staunch agnostic influenced by Carl Sagan ...now I am Catholic and a true believer. This happened around my late 20s. I was highly influenced by my colleagues among whom all religion is a joke.
Similarly with abortion, I used to feel it was regrettable but necessary. After 15 years in healthcare I have seen way too much glibness about this, too many patients with histories of 10+, too much postponement for weeks due to seeing if the father steps up. It should be taken much more soberly and seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nature/nurture

I used to think people were all pretty much born blank slates and became who they are because of their culture and education and experiences.

Having lived 50 years and raised children and known a lot of people, I think nature (inheritance from your parents) is a MUCH greater influence.

Absolutely agree.

Which makes me laugh at all the parents on here who attribute their kids behavior to their stellar parenting. It’s really not that. You got lucky with easy kids.

[Anonymous]

The color orange.

I used to hate it and think it was the ugliest color, but in the last couple years I've really liked a lot of orange things and even find myself seeking out orange things (clothes, luggage, etc.)

[Anonymous]

I used to believe in free will. Now I see people’s actions as understandable in light of their backgrounds/level of intellect/etc

[Anonymous]

Not a political voting change but a nuanced personal change in my view of abortion.

What did not change: My view is that the decision rests with the woman with consultation with her doctor and her partner.

What did change: When experiencing infertility after Clomid did not work a second time, I chose to not go to the next level of drugs because of the dramatically increased possibility of selective reduction. (This was 25+ years ago and when there were several women in the news for giving birth to 5+ children) I just couldn't do it if it was something that I did to cause it. Prior to being directly faced with it, I thought I would be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nature/nurture

I used to think people were all pretty much born blank slates and became who they are because of their culture and education and experiences.

Having lived 50 years and raised children and known a lot of people, I think nature (inheritance from your parents) is a MUCH greater influence.

Absolutely agree.

Which makes me laugh at all the parents on here who attribute their kids behavior to their stellar parenting. It’s really not that. You got lucky with easy kids.

I feel the opposite. My mom always told me “you can’t do anything, it’s all nature.” Of course nature has to do with a lot, but as a teacher who has seen a MAJOR decline in behavior and has seen how parents don’t make their kids accountable for any behaviors…I see how nurture is absolutely a huge factor in how kids are raised and how future adults are bread to be entitled. Not all, but many bullies and mean kids are learning from their parents OR their parents don’t care enough to teach their kids the right way to treat people. Little kids are handed phones and iPads instead of being taught how to delay gratification and be okay with their own selves.

I think the parents who say it’s all nature are the ones who have decided that parenting is too hard to do it all the time and they deserve more downtime and quiet dinners (enter iPad). The ones who watch their kid make giant messes of things they aren’t supposed to mess up, and instead of making them clean up, parents take videos and post on social media…what is that teaching them? Parents allow their kids to be snarky and dismissive, which translates to those kids being snarky and dismissive to teachers and coaches….do your job. It’s not easy. And those of us who look like we have “easy” kids have been putting in the time and effort for years. And they are far from perfect, neither am I, but we can’t throw our hands up in the air and blame every diagnosis for not teaching our kids how to be part of society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a staunch agnostic influenced by Carl Sagan ...now I am Catholic and a true believer. This happened around my late 20s. I was highly influenced by my colleagues among whom all religion is a joke.
Similarly with abortion, I used to feel it was regrettable but necessary. After 15 years in healthcare I have seen way too much glibness about this, too many patients with histories of 10+, too much postponement for weeks due to seeing if the father steps up. It should be taken much more soberly and seriously.

How did you come to your conclusion? Did you have an experience that cemented it?

[Anonymous]

Weed - it should not have been legalized. Many are incapable of the type of moderation that is required to both enjoy using MJ and maintaining adult responsibilities.


Guns - used to think no one should have one, now I think every decent law abiding person should have one and be proficient in the use of it. Police are not going to protect us. No one is coming to save you. It’s up to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things I used to believe in/love/trust, and no longer do:

— The NYT (really any and all “elite” media - it’s sad)
— That going to college should be everyone’s goal
— Recycling. I swallowed that personal responsibility bit hook-line-sinker, without real understanding of corporate and government responsibility for environmental health
— Merit (hahaha)

Things I believe in now that I didn’t used to:

— Religion is interesting
— Birds and gardening are interesting
— Rich and connected kids from functional families can actually achieve almost anything, even if they are unoriginal or painfully average


I could've written this exact list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things I used to believe in/love/trust, and no longer do:

— The NYT (really any and all “elite” media - it’s sad)
— That going to college should be everyone’s goal
— Recycling. I swallowed that personal responsibility bit hook-line-sinker, without real understanding of corporate and government responsibility for environmental health
— Merit (hahaha)

Things I believe in now that I didn’t used to:

— Religion is interesting
— Birds and gardening are interesting
— Rich and connected kids from functional families can actually achieve almost anything, even if they are unoriginal or painfully average

I don’t believe that about rich kids at all. Sure they will most likely figure out something to maintain their rich lifestyle, but money does not in fact buy high-level success (unless you consider inheriting a ton of money to be achievement). The number of wealthy kids that end up like Emma Navarro are few and far between; and people like her would likely succeed at high levels even without their family advantages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The color orange.

I used to hate it and think it was the ugliest color, but in the last couple years I've really liked a lot of orange things and even find myself seeking out orange things (clothes, luggage, etc.)

Love orange!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to trust main stream media, but the Kyle Rittenhouse case and the messaging on the vax changed everything for me.

I havent read the rest of the thread to see if this was answered, but I'm curious about the Rittenhouse case & MSM that changed your mind?