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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nature/nurture

I used to think people were all pretty much born blank slates and became who they are because of their culture and education and experiences.

Having lived 50 years and raised children and known a lot of people, I think nature (inheritance from your parents) is a MUCH greater influence.[/quote]

Absolutely agree.

Which makes me laugh at all the parents on here who attribute their kids behavior to their stellar parenting. It’s really not that. You got lucky with easy kids. [/quote]

I feel the opposite. My mom always told me “you can’t do anything, it’s all nature.” Of course nature has to do with a lot, but as a teacher who has seen a MAJOR decline in behavior and has seen how parents don’t make their kids accountable for any behaviors…I see how nurture is absolutely a huge factor in how kids are raised and how future adults are bread to be entitled. Not all, but many bullies and mean kids are learning from their parents OR their parents don’t care enough to teach their kids the right way to treat people. Little kids are handed phones and iPads instead of being taught how to delay gratification and be okay with their own selves.

I think the parents who say it’s all nature are the ones who have decided that parenting is too hard to do it all the time and they deserve more downtime and quiet dinners (enter iPad). The ones who watch their kid make giant messes of things they aren’t supposed to mess up, and instead of making them clean up, parents take videos and post on social media…what is that teaching them? Parents allow their kids to be snarky and dismissive, which translates to those kids being snarky and dismissive to teachers and coaches….do your job. It’s not easy. And those of us who look like we have “easy” kids have been putting in the time and effort for years. And they are far from perfect, neither am I, but we can’t throw our hands up in the air and blame every diagnosis for not teaching our kids how to be part of society. [/quote]

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