Feeling shame for wanting sex without relationships

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

And what about men who do the same?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

Because she got on her back, spread her legs wide, and let a classroom of men splodge in here? Maybe? Just a guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

Because she got on her back, spread her legs wide, and let a classroom of men splodge in here? Maybe? Just a guess.

And what about men who do the same? Why not judge them as harshly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

Because she got on her back, spread her legs wide, and let a classroom of men splodge in here? Maybe? Just a guess.

I’m a woman and this sounds hot to me. Not that I would find a good dozen of hot guys to do it to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

Because she got on her back, spread her legs wide, and let a classroom of men splodge in here? Maybe? Just a guess.

I’m a woman and this sounds hot to me. Not that I would find a good dozen of hot guys to do it to me

Then you’re not looking in the right places

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

As a guy I can understand thinking less of her if she didn’t like her behavior but kept doing it anyway. But if she slept with 30 guys in a year and felt good about herself, more power to her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

Because she got on her back, spread her legs wide, and let a classroom of men splodge in here? Maybe? Just a guess.

I’m a woman and this sounds hot to me. Not that I would find a good dozen of hot guys to do it to me

Then you’re not looking in the right places

X2. I’m quite confident that team DCUM could get that done for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

And what about men who do the same?

As a man I feel we (us promiscuous ones) do it out of a strong and unmet sexual drive. Pure horninese and hormones. Less so for validation

The slutty women I have come across do fit this comment: they are needy and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

And what about men who do the same?

As a man I feel we (us promiscuous ones) do it out of a strong and unmet sexual drive. Pure horninese and hormones. Less so for validation

The slutty women I have come across do fit this comment: they are needy and insecure.

Do you think women don't have hormones?

Do you think women never feel horny?

Did you ever think that maybe a divorced women spent the last couple years in a sexless, ungratifying marriage and may have some strong and unmet sexual drive to release?

You're saying men never sleep with women for validation? To up their ego aka self confidence aka insecurity?

If a man is promiscuous because of sexual drive and hormones, why can't he be in a long term relationship with someone sexually compatible, why the need to sleep with a lot of women to meet that need? It's beyond hormones, it's validation, ego driven, confidence boosting validation.

But a woman doing the same is "needy and insecure". She should only have her sexual needs, horniness, and hormones met in a long term relationship lest she be a slut.

FFS

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should feel shame about the sex. You might feel bad about what's driving you in this direction, if it's some sort of fear. I know a woman like you. She's very strong and independent in many ways but she also gets very scared when she starts to feel attached. Her solution, which may not be a bad one, is to date lots of men, have lots of sex, and break lots of hearts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

And what about men who do the same?

Male and female sexuality are entirely different for the vast majority of people. Lying about this reality helps no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

I consider myself a slutty man and eternal bachelor and I am nowhere close to 24 women. I am at 13 now and I feel like it's too much already. I like to sleep with the same partners until either they get tired of me or I get tired of them. However hoping from partner to partner every few or couple of weeks nah that's too much

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife's best friend was a nerdy (but hot) goodie two shoes her whole life. She and her DH divorced amicably and she was quite depressed at her stage at 33. She had slept with 7 men at that point.

She slept with, I kid you not, at least 2 dozen men in the first year of her singledom.

I'll be honest. I thought less of her for it. And she grew very upset with herself. I think she thoiught it would bring something it didn't.

Why would you think less of her PP?

People never respect women who sleep around for validation.

Promiscuous women are rarely confident and independent, usually they are needy and insecure.

And what about men who do the same?

As a man I feel we (us promiscuous ones) do it out of a strong and unmet sexual drive. Pure horninese and hormones. Less so for validation

The slutty women I have come across do fit this comment: they are needy and insecure.

Do you think women don't have hormones?

Do you think women never feel horny?

Did you ever think that maybe a divorced women spent the last couple years in a sexless, ungratifying marriage and may have some strong and unmet sexual drive to release?

You're saying men never sleep with women for validation? To up their ego aka self confidence aka insecurity?

If a man is promiscuous because of sexual drive and hormones, why can't he be in a long term relationship with someone sexually compatible, why the need to sleep with a lot of women to meet that need? It's beyond hormones, it's validation, ego driven, confidence boosting validation.

But a woman doing the same is "needy and insecure". She should only have her sexual needs, horniness, and hormones met in a long term relationship lest she be a slut.

FFS

Males desire much more variety in sexual partners than women. This is not just my opinion, it has been studied.

Of course there are some women who desire a lot of sexual variety but they are in the minority.

You keep trying to make equivalences between male and female sexual behavior when they are inherently different. Everyone knows this.