How upset would you be if husband went to a strip club and didn’t disclose it?

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Anonymous wrote:Is this DC Urban Moms or Afghanistan Urban Moms?

It's not an adventurous bunch here.

Women on DCUM want it both ways. They want a feminine man they can control. But, then are shocked when it doesn’t work out in the bedroom. And there are plenty of threads, where women are complaining about lack of affection from DH.

So wait, that means men want a women that will drop $500 at a club with male strippers without ever mentioning anything because this is proven to be the cure for complaints about lack of affection from DW? Who knew.

[Anonymous]

To PP, re male strippers. There simply is no mass market for this. There are a 100+ “gentlemen’s clubs” for every female club. Why? B/c women don’t have the desire for this. So your proposition is ridiculous.

The $500.00 is b/c it’s Vegas. It’s not the spend anywhere else.

And we don’t know the finances here. But, my guess is DH is the breadwinner.

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I’d roll my eyes and ask why? He’d likely have a decent answer. He’s not the type to do more than look and laugh and my body, excluding my natural Bs, could compete well. Maybe I need to put a pole in our bedroom.

[Anonymous]

If he spent $500, he wasn't getting too naughty. In Vegas, that costs a lot more.

[Anonymous]

I would be done with him just for going there! Let alone not disclosing it and being drunk and not remembering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be done with him just for going there! Let alone not disclosing it and being drunk and not remembering.

Really? If that’s the stupidest thing your husband ever does you’d be lucky. I’d be more upset that he wasted $500 than that he went and watched naked women dancing. I’m not a fan of strip clubs by any means but you can get in a lot more trouble in Vegas than that.

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Not telling yo7 would be a deal breaker for me

I wouldn’t care if it was once however again not telling me nope not ok

And now you go back you look at every card receipt and see what else the dummy is doing .
If my husband was dumb enough to spend more than $50 in a strip club id divorce his dumb butt and cancel his credit cards

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't really care at all that he went, but that he didn't disclose and then told you what sounds like a bullshit story about it would be a dealbreaker.

It's Vegas, and I'm pretty open to sexual content. I have friends in that industry; he didn't do anything beyond look at that price point in that venue. It's a stupid waste of money, but so's most everything in Vegas.

But the need to hide it from you suggests he knew it was trouble, or likely to be, and did it anyway. That behavior is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about strip clubs but a) being so drunk you don’t know where you are and what you’re buying and b) more likely lying that you were so drunk you don’t know where you are and what you’re buying would be major events in our marriage. Remaining functionally conscious and not telling dumbass lies are important to me.

Yes to all of this.

[Anonymous]

I wonder who the millions of men who go to strip clubs every year are married to if this is such a massive offense.

I don’t really go anymore, as I travel for work a lot less and am just kind of old for it at this point (50s). But it was quite common among my buddies (mostly professional, married, Ivy League types), not to mention guys at work and clients for the first half of my career. And in Vegas? Yeah, every guys trip to Vegas in history has involved a strip club (at a minimum).

Men like looking at naked women who pretend to like them. It’s pretty basic. If strip clubs are such a problem for you, I’d suggest getting naked and pretending to like your husband a lot more often.

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Marriage breaker? Are you nuts? Not a big deal.

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Bold of you to assume all he did was sit and watch! Notice how he wouldn't give you a straight answer on what exactly he did there, or even tell you unless you brought it up. A lot of strippers make extra money by performing sexual favors in the private rooms. Get tested.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this DC Urban Moms or Afghanistan Urban Moms?

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be done with him just for going there! Let alone not disclosing it and being drunk and not remembering.

Really? If that’s the stupidest thing your husband ever does you’d be lucky. I’d be more upset that he wasted $500 than that he went and watched naked women dancing. I’m not a fan of strip clubs by any means but you can get in a lot more trouble in Vegas than that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he spent $500, he wasn't getting too naughty. In Vegas, that costs a lot more.

This is true.