How upset would you be if husband went to a strip club and didn’t disclose it?

[Anonymous]

OP, and others on this thread, need to stop equating strip club activity w/cheating or prostitution. There is zero sex happening in a strip club. They would lose their liquor license pronto, if that got out. No license, no business.
The management of these places is not that stupid.

But, if you have decided in your mind that strip clubs are cheating, then yes move for divorce immediately. But, unless you stand to get 5-10 mil, you’d better factor in your age and job history, b/c it’s hard out there for 50+.

That’s really the decision you face.

[Anonymous]

You don’t need to rebuild. He did a dumb, stupid thing that he now regrets. Help him deal with the drinking issue but don’t hang this over his head for months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, and others on this thread, need to stop equating strip club activity w/cheating or prostitution. There is zero sex happening in a strip club. They would lose their liquor license pronto, if that got out. No license, no business.
The management of these places is not that stupid.

But, if you have decided in your mind that strip clubs are cheating, then yes move for divorce immediately. But, unless you stand to get 5-10 mil, you’d better factor in your age and job history, b/c it’s hard out there for 50+.

That’s really the decision you face.

Haha “There is zero sex happening in a strip club”. DCUM can be so naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, and others on this thread, need to stop equating strip club activity w/cheating or prostitution. There is zero sex happening in a strip club. They would lose their liquor license pronto, if that got out. No license, no business.
The management of these places is not that stupid.

But, if you have decided in your mind that strip clubs are cheating, then yes move for divorce immediately. But, unless you stand to get 5-10 mil, you’d better factor in your age and job history, b/c it’s hard out there for 50+.

That’s really the decision you face.

If your husband spent $500 with a stripper and he DIDN'T at least give your husband a handy, your husband is a real rube.

But seriously, yes, sex acts happen in EVERY strip club. Maybe the manager looks the other way, but the strippers need to make their money and a few bucks here and there for a pole dance isn't doing it. At the very least for $500 your husband is getting a lapdance "to completion", which is pretty common and a liquor inspector wouldn't look twice at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, and others on this thread, need to stop equating strip club activity w/cheating or prostitution. There is zero sex happening in a strip club. They would lose their liquor license pronto, if that got out. No license, no business.
The management of these places is not that stupid.

But, if you have decided in your mind that strip clubs are cheating, then yes move for divorce immediately. But, unless you stand to get 5-10 mil, you’d better factor in your age and job history, b/c it’s hard out there for 50+.

That’s really the decision you face.

If your husband spent $500 with a stripper and he DIDN'T at least give your husband a handy, your husband is a real rube.

But seriously, yes, sex acts happen in EVERY strip club. Maybe the manager looks the other way, but the strippers need to make their money and a few bucks here and there for a pole dance isn't doing it. At the very least for $500 your husband is getting a lapdance "to completion", which is pretty common and a liquor inspector wouldn't look twice at.

Read the entire thread before you comment, he spent $250 in “bistro”. That’s food. Only $240 in the club. No way you’re getting sex for that in a Vegas strip club, or anywhere else for that matter. And doesn’t even consider the cost of the drinks, which were apparently substantial.

He got a little “bump & grind” in lap dance for that, like millions of other men have done. Should he get divorced over this ? Don’t think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, and others on this thread, need to stop equating strip club activity w/cheating or prostitution. There is zero sex happening in a strip club. They would lose their liquor license pronto, if that got out. No license, no business.
The management of these places is not that stupid.

But, if you have decided in your mind that strip clubs are cheating, then yes move for divorce immediately. But, unless you stand to get 5-10 mil, you’d better factor in your age and job history, b/c it’s hard out there for 50+.

That’s really the decision you face.

If your husband spent $500 with a stripper and he DIDN'T at least give your husband a handy, your husband is a real rube.

But seriously, yes, sex acts happen in EVERY strip club. Maybe the manager looks the other way, but the strippers need to make their money and a few bucks here and there for a pole dance isn't doing it. At the very least for $500 your husband is getting a lapdance "to completion", which is pretty common and a liquor inspector wouldn't look twice at.

Read the entire thread before you comment, he spent $250 in “bistro”. That’s food. Only $240 in the club. No way you’re getting sex for that in a Vegas strip club, or anywhere else for that matter. And doesn’t even consider the cost of the drinks, which were apparently substantial.

He got a little “bump & grind” in lap dance for that, like millions of other men have done. Should he get divorced over this ? Don’t think so.

If you think he ate $250 worth of food then I'm sure you believe $240 can't buy you sex in Vegas. Anyway, I'm not saying he necessarily had sex with a male dancer, it might have just been a hand or blowjob.

[Anonymous]

Every woman should go to a strip club at least once and then you will think differently about the whole silly, pathetic thing that they represent. No man is getting sex at the strip club. He's only losing his money.

[Anonymous]

I would be very upset - most especially because he never told you about it.

Which means there underlies a more serious offense > your husband’s lack of integrity.

Which that alone can destroy trust which is the foundation for any + all good relationships, marriage included.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned if my middle aged husband got blackout drunk on a business trip and ended up spending hundreds of dollars that he doesn’t remember.
That’s a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset - most especially because he never told you about it.

Which means there underlies a more serious offense > your husband’s lack of integrity.

Which that alone can destroy trust which is the foundation for any + all good relationships, marriage included.

Really, the scenario you’re talking about covers probably 95% married men, who have been to Vegas (or the like) for a guy trip. Everybody gambles and goes to strip clubs. That’s just what happens. Nobody gives a play-by-play to their wife, afterwards.

So all those marriages are damaged in your view ? The real world doesn’t work that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very upset - most especially because he never told you about it.

Which means there underlies a more serious offense > your husband’s lack of integrity.

Which that alone can destroy trust which is the foundation for any + all good relationships, marriage included.

Really, the scenario you’re talking about covers probably 95% married men, who have been to Vegas (or the like) for a guy trip. Everybody gambles and goes to strip clubs. That’s just what happens. Nobody gives a play-by-play to their wife, afterwards.

So all those marriages are damaged in your view ? The real world doesn’t work that way.

The problem is not that this guy hung with some friends in a not so savory environment. It’s that he lied.

[Anonymous]

Some of the women and men here are very naive. If you frequent strip clubs enough you know your away around getting extras at least in NYC I don't know about Vegas. Money talks folks. If you are not a creep, act weird, know how to ask for extras discreetly, you will get said extras not in all clubs of course but at quite a few of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman should go to a strip club at least once and then you will think differently about the whole silly, pathetic thing that they represent. No man is getting sex at the strip club. He's only losing his money.

On the reality show Grand Cayman, bachelor party and dude hooked up with the stripper for $400. He was wasted and they gladly took his $

[Anonymous]

It really depends on your husband. My husband was in sales in the 90s. He would go to these on occasion when at conventions in Vegas but always told me about it. They expensed it. Some guys would get lap dances. I never worried about it because as he described it it sounded dumb and he didn't seem into it. He is not in that field anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on your husband. My husband was in sales in the 90s. He would go to these on occasion when at conventions in Vegas but always told me about it. They expensed it. Some guys would get lap dances. I never worried about it because as he described it it sounded dumb and he didn't seem into it. He is not in that field anymore.

I’ve had a lap dance since I got married. It was fine, but I wasn’t going to give her anymore money and it didn’t change t he way I felt about my wife.

But to be clear it was at the spearmint rhino in Vegas and she made it very clear she would have sex with me. It’s a high chance she was just trying to scam me, but women should know that if there man wants to cheat at a “reputable” strip club there are people happy to enable him. But also plenty of men can get a lap dance and not endanger their marriages.