How upset would you be if husband went to a strip club and didn’t disclose it?

[Anonymous]

OK OP lied and that's the sin...Women though think it's okay for them to go to a strip club and gaze at all the muscular men get lap dances from them etc. Id you let a woman dictates what's appropriate for you to do or not do she will laugh at you all the way to the bank

[Anonymous]

I don’t care about strip clubs but a) being so drunk you don’t know where you are and what you’re buying and b) more likely lying that you were so drunk you don’t know where you are and what you’re buying would be major events in our marriage. Remaining functionally conscious and not telling dumbass lies are important to me.

[Anonymous]

Run away from that perverse husband. Hire a divorce attorney.

[Anonymous]

I would not be ok with this.

First, I am not ok with men I am in exclusive relationships with going to strip clubs and I make that clear I consider that cheating. This is in convos I have early in dating when we are discussing exclusivity.

Second, being drunk enough not to remember is a problem.

Third, I think he’s lying, did something inappropriate, and is using the drunk excuse to excuse himself from lying in case someone else’s tells on him.

I wouldn’t have sex with him until several months from now when he goes for std tests and you see the results on paper.

Also, go get the hpv vaccine if you haven’t already.

And get std testing done on yourself

[Anonymous]

I think it depends. My husband got silly drunk with a group of friends and went to a strip club. He told me about it and it was no big deal. I wasn’t happy about it but just thought it was stupid. He was also way too cheap and mature enough (barely) to get a lap dance. So, not an issue at all and we joke about it. But that’s because I knew that’s not his thing.

If he had gone alone or hid it from me, that would be a different story and I would be upset and assume that this was not his first or last time or that he was doing much more in that club just having a beer and watching bored naked women. I don’t care if it’s transactional, getting a lap dance and whatever else goes on in the private rooms is not cool if you are married.

[Anonymous]

Better than finding him in bed with a woman

[Anonymous]

OP - being drunk is not a defense.

[Anonymous]

Going out with business friends and getting blackout drunk at a strip club?
Actually not that unusual in Las Vegas.
I would tell him to avoid physical contact with the "workers" and drink a little less.
If this gives massive trust issues and it wasn't a prior agreement not to go to such places, your spider sense is reacting to other stuff imo.

[Anonymous]

10 out of 10. First of all, so trashy. Number 2, lying.

[Anonymous]

Op back with another question. Say you’ve discussed strip clubs in the past with your spouse (with regards to discussing another friend’s husband who went). Spouse responded that he thinks strip clubs are “disgusting” and offers nothing else to the conversation. You find out he has gone before in fact (not a dealbreaker for me simply going but a dealbreaker hiding it). When asked about it he says “that’s TRUE! I do find them disgusting”.
Lie by omission?

[Anonymous]

Lied, was drunk, then doesn't remember? Ok! Your marriage has big problems here. Many, not just one.

Time to take your head out of the sand since he "travels a lot of work." Hhhmmmm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you know that men who visit strip clubs are also into prostitutes? Run…

+1000 This is true!

[Anonymous]

A lot of strip clubs don't allow touching, even for lap dances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of strip clubs don't allow touching, even for lap dances.

Lol sure. I don't go those.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of strip clubs don't allow touching, even for lap dances.

In Vegas they do. As a man, I was shocked at what they allow.

Yes, I told my wife.