How upset would you be if husband went to a strip club and didn’t disclose it?

[Anonymous]

Just watch this season of Grand Cayman to see what can happen... its shocking. Dude paid $400 to "go downtown" on a stripper in a back room.

[Anonymous]

OP- how much was the charge for??!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- how much was the charge for??!!

$250 at the bistro and $240 at the club

[Anonymous]

I’d quietly start getting my act together, in case I felt that I needed to divorce. Therapy and no s*x until he gets STD-treated. The problems are that he:

1. Didn’t check it with you first
2. “Doesn’t remember”/got so drunk he didn’t remember

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- how much was the charge for??!!

$250 at the bistro and $240 at the club

I don't think going to a strip club in Vegas for a work thing or a bachelor party is a big deal by itself. The not communicating though is terrible. Now you are going to have to worry about what else he's up to on his business trips. And no one drops $500 at a strip club if they're just a passive observer putting a few dollars into the garter whatever to go along to get along. The bistro charge will likely be "drinks" for the girls. So that's some one on one time. He's either an idiot and easily divested of his money. Or he was smitten by a dancer. And if he was so inebriated that he genuinely can't remember, that's another problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- how much was the charge for??!!

$250 at the bistro and $240 at the club

If anyone actually has experience with how they break up the charges, I would love the feedback. I looked online but didn’t find anything.

[Anonymous]

He is lying to your face.

[Anonymous]

All of your DH's have been in a strip club. Well, maybe not literally every single one, but the vast majority of them.

-- worked as a stripper in my early 20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of your DH's have been in a strip club. Well, maybe not literally every single one, but the vast majority of them.

-- worked as a stripper in my early 20s

Agree w/this. I am a DH, and every man I know has been multiple times. At least the ones w/normal sex drives. So I would advise OP to get over it.

And, The fact that OP’s DH put this on his CC, suggests he is a novice. Real “pros” only deal in cash. Not just for consealment, but to keep from getting ripped off. I would never hand a CC to a dancer, regardless of drink.

BTW, the clubs in the DMV universally suck. So unless OP DH travels a lot, really not much of an issue.

[Anonymous]

He got drunk and went to a strip club in Vegas. He’s probably embarrassed/ashamed so is going with a blacked out/ don’t remember story. Cut him some slack.

[Anonymous]

Is this DC Urban Moms or Afghanistan Urban Moms?

[Anonymous]

Also, $500 at a strip club is nothing. To me, it’s means he “came to his senses” and restrained himself, especially if he charged it. Strip clubs make a living taking drunk guys for a credit card ride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this DC Urban Moms or Afghanistan Urban Moms?

It's not an adventurous bunch here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Geez, Louise! Good thing you are not my wife. You sound pedantic and controlling. What, do you audit all your man's activities? You are like a cat and mouse, or you enjoy being a private investigator? How does anyone trust or love you?

You…don’t know what “pedantic” means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this DC Urban Moms or Afghanistan Urban Moms?

It's not an adventurous bunch here.

Women on DCUM want it both ways. They want a feminine man they can control. But, then are shocked when it doesn’t work out in the bedroom. And there are plenty of threads, where women are complaining about lack of affection from DH.