Agreed. Most times I pick my kid up early out of mom guilt, he’s bored and no other kids are home yet to play outside. I have a relatively flexible job but I pay for before and aftercare and camp (all summer + during school holidays). And I’m a single parent/breadwinner/have primary custody. It’s possible but you have to be organized and a little lucky. But there are def times when I have to hop on a call or do work while my kid is in pajamas. |
You're just mean and judgmental. You offer zero data to back up your claims. You seem to be a troll who gets off and making others feel bad. |
So a private company? |
I’m right there with you. It’s so hard. Keep on keeping on! |
Grass is equally brown on both sides, no matter if you are a full time or part time parent on a budget. If you want peace be full time SAHM or full day outside mom with nanny and maid. |
Had a similar sentiment at the start of camp (our first summer needing it). Work flexibility/WFH and family-friendly culture are key - things have shifted this way especially after COVID but still a ways to go. Also wish we could do away with the outdated notion of the 40-hour work week. |
+2. It’s really the second child that makes life very complex. I have two, and were it not for some flexibility in my job and involved grandparents, I would quit. With just one, I wouldn’t need any of those things really. Honestly, we need more PT options in this country, especially in competitive fields like law, finance, consulting. And I mean real PT options, not poorly paid ones or ones that are stealth FT jobs. |
The Baby brings the bread. Old German saying. Every kid I had I got a promotion at work. |
I have the flexible job and I’ve tried to make it perfect- 150k, 1 mile from home, telework 3x a week but I’m still drowning. I really wish I was part time and 75k.
I can’t ever seem to make everything work. And when we get home from daycare, school and work, there’s no dinner waiting for me and the house is always a mess. |
we live in a tiny apartment in nyc so my kids have always done after school activities and sports till about 5-5.30 since they were pretty young. the alternative would be them sitting in our apartment on ipads even if i stayed home so I don't feel like it's a bad thing |
this is wildly untrue. at our private the aftercare is classes and sports. at camp it's extra sports. granted those are 'nice' options but I toured a public middle for my oldest one and their aftercare is 2 activities (sports or classes). Idk where you guys are sending your kids that the aftercare is so terrible but mine given the option choose aftercare rather than going home early even if given the option bc that's what their friends are doing and where they hang out rather than being alone on ipad. |
If we had less than a 40 hour work week, people would take on more hours somewhere else or another job even to get ahead of others--just like people thought two income household's would get them ahead, but now it evens out |
+1 |
+1. After care at our school was actually pretty good and my kid often wanted to stay longer when I picked him up. |
People will take two of these pt jobs to get ahead. |