Dating and splitting costs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you go find out for your self? I’m a guy but I’m older and I still believe in picking up the check.

I’m married with two sons. I was more curious for them.

Why don’t you let them figure out their own dating lives?

My son earns enough to pay for his girls’ Ubers, drinks and ice cream

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well lucky you aren’t dating these days I guess? What’s the point of this post?

Meh. 20 years ago was 2004. There were girls back then who paid for half of everything too. There are always women who have accepted that and ones who haven’t.

It’s not that different now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you go find out for your self? I’m a guy but I’m older and I still believe in picking up the check.

I’m married with two sons. I was more curious for them.

Why don’t you let them figure out their own dating lives?

My son earns enough to pay for his girls’ Ubers, drinks and ice cream

Such a strange response. You’re very strange.

[Anonymous]

20+ years ago, we split or rotated. My husband didn't have a lot of money back then. He's doing well now and pays for everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:20+ years ago, we split or rotated. My husband didn't have a lot of money back then. He's doing well now and pays for everything.

Do you have a job as well? Do you not have combined finances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am mid 40s and divorced. I usually date younger men (30s). They always pay.

When I was dating 20 years ago, the guys also always paid. If I was in a relationship, then eventually I split costs or paid sometimes.

I don't think it has changed at least for people 30 and above. I have no idea about 20s.

Cougar in the house lol!

I am not the pursuer, but whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you go find out for your self? I’m a guy but I’m older and I still believe in picking up the check.

I’m married with two sons. I was more curious for them.

Why don’t you let them figure out their own dating lives?

My son earns enough to pay for his girls’ Ubers, drinks and ice cream

Such a strange response. You’re very strange.

He would be ashamed not being able offer a drink to the girl he likes. He’s tall, athletic and handsome and has plenty of options.
He saw how hard his mom worked raising him, contributing to family. My son values women and understands they contribute more in relationships in non-financial way. I’m proud of him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am mid 40s and divorced. I usually date younger men (30s). They always pay.

When I was dating 20 years ago, the guys also always paid. If I was in a relationship, then eventually I split costs or paid sometimes.

I don't think it has changed at least for people 30 and above. I have no idea about 20s.

Cougar in the house lol!

I am not the pursuer, but whatever.

Exactly - women who have options don’t need to pursue men and demonstrate fake non-existent “equality” by splitting bills or Venmo minuscular expenses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you go find out for your self? I’m a guy but I’m older and I still believe in picking up the check.

I’m married with two sons. I was more curious for them.

Why don’t you let them figure out their own dating lives?

My son earns enough to pay for his girls’ Ubers, drinks and ice cream

Such a strange response. You’re very strange.

He would be ashamed not being able offer a drink to the girl he likes. He’s tall, athletic and handsome and has plenty of options.
He saw how hard his mom worked raising him, contributing to family. My son values women and understands they contribute more in relationships in non-financial way. I’m proud of him

Who cares. A million others just like him. I can afford to pay for my own drinks and so can the men I date. It’s patronizing to women when men assume they need to be taken care of. I strive for equality in every aspect of my relationship. But I also don’t date mama’s boys like your son so all is well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am mid 40s and divorced. I usually date younger men (30s). They always pay.

When I was dating 20 years ago, the guys also always paid. If I was in a relationship, then eventually I split costs or paid sometimes.

I don't think it has changed at least for people 30 and above. I have no idea about 20s.

Cougar in the house lol!

I am not the pursuer, but whatever.

Exactly - women who have options don’t need to pursue men and demonstrate fake non-existent “equality” by splitting bills or Venmo minuscular expenses

I’m sure he appreciates your a lot more when you put out at the end of the date to thank him for that drink.

[Anonymous]

Men have always paid for dates with me, whether as first or early dates or in relationships. It’s a turnoff if a guy expects you to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men have always paid for dates with me, whether as first or early dates or in relationships. It’s a turnoff if a guy expects you to pay.

For me it’s a turn off when a guy treats me like a non-equal partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men have always paid for dates with me, whether as first or early dates or in relationships. It’s a turnoff if a guy expects you to pay.

For me it’s a turn off when a guy treats me like a non-equal partner.

He actually treats you fairly and equitably when he pays. Women give more in other aspects of the relationship. Any woman who was married for a long time understands it
My son is not a mommy’s boy. He did all his college visits on his own, travels with friends living independently. He just values what women bring to the table beside money and doesn’t value everything in life in monetary terms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you go find out for your self? I’m a guy but I’m older and I still believe in picking up the check.

I’m married with two sons. I was more curious for them.

Why don’t you let them figure out their own dating lives?

My son earns enough to pay for his girls’ Ubers, drinks and ice cream

Such a strange response. You’re very strange.

He would be ashamed not being able offer a drink to the girl he likes. He’s tall, athletic and handsome and has plenty of options.
He saw how hard his mom worked raising him, contributing to family. My son values women and understands they contribute more in relationships in non-financial way. I’m proud of him

Who cares. A million others just like him. I can afford to pay for my own drinks and so can the men I date. It’s patronizing to women when men assume they need to be taken care of. I strive for equality in every aspect of my relationship. But I also don’t date mama’s boys like your son so all is well.

No there is no million others like him. It’s actually very hard to find a generous, understanding and truly equal partner among men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men have always paid for dates with me, whether as first or early dates or in relationships. It’s a turnoff if a guy expects you to pay.

For me it’s a turn off when a guy treats me like a non-equal partner.

He actually treats you fairly and equitably when he pays. Women give more in other aspects of the relationship. Any woman who was married for a long time understands it
My son is not a mommy’s boy. He did all his college visits on his own, travels with friends living independently. He just values what women bring to the table beside money and doesn’t value everything in life in monetary terms

I’m sure he will find himself a nice trad wife and will be very happy. I don’t do more than my partner in any aspect of my relationship. We are very equal in everything.