I am so torn between having to work and caring for my sick daughter

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for your advice, everyone. Since we moved to our current town two years ago we saw several pediatricians (all within the same practice). All seemed chill about DD's issues. Now I realize that we should have been demanding treatments or other solutions more vocally.

My daughter is not missing school every week. It was 6 days in September, none in October, unfortunately 12 in December (she had Covid, she alone in the family, none of us parents), 1 in January, 3 in February, and 4 in March. She has been home today and yesterday, too, complaining of a sore throat. She really does have a sore throat, she is not pretending.

As I said, we had to do extensive mold remediation in our home. Old carpeting may be an issue, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for your advice, everyone. Since we moved to our current town two years ago we saw several pediatricians (all within the same practice). All seemed chill about DD's issues. Now I realize that we should have been demanding treatments or other solutions more vocally.

My daughter is not missing school every week. It was 6 days in September, none in October, unfortunately 12 in December (she had Covid, she alone in the family, none of us parents), 1 in January, 3 in February, and 4 in March. She has been home today and yesterday, too, complaining of a sore throat. She really does have a sore throat, she is not pretending.

As I said, we had to do extensive mold remediation in our home. Old carpeting may be an issue, too.

Is she sick or is she “sick”? Would she be complaining of a sore throat (and honestly who keeps their kid out of school for two days for a sore throat??) if you didn’t coddle her when she is home? If she had to fend for herself and staying home was boring because you weren’t there to keep her company and take care of her would she even have any ailments?

[Anonymous]

I cannot get over how much you coddle your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth did you buy a house that expensive KNOWING your work was suffering because of all the illnesses. You appear to have no common sense. Your kid has a sore throat. You should be working. Shes fine entertaining herself. Good Lord

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for your advice, everyone. Since we moved to our current town two years ago we saw several pediatricians (all within the same practice). All seemed chill about DD's issues. Now I realize that we should have been demanding treatments or other solutions more vocally.

My daughter is not missing school every week. It was 6 days in September, none in October, unfortunately 12 in December (she had Covid, she alone in the family, none of us parents), 1 in January, 3 in February, and 4 in March. She has been home today and yesterday, too, complaining of a sore throat. She really does have a sore throat, she is not pretending.

As I said, we had to do extensive mold remediation in our home. Old carpeting may be an issue, too.

So she's home for 2 days with a sore throat. Why exactly can you not work?

[Anonymous]

Why is she staying home for just a sore throat? Take some cough drops and go to school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your husband make good money as a doctor? I would hire help do you can focus on your career.

This. Call an agency to send a babysitter on the days she is sick. You will pay around $25 per hour. If your husband is an MD just spend the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t your husband make good money as a doctor? I would hire help do you can focus on your career.

This. Call an agency to send a babysitter on the days she is sick. You will pay around $25 per hour. If your husband is an MD just spend the money.

The kid is 12 and home with a sore throat. She doesn't need a babysitter, she needs a kick in the *ss to learn to push through a bit of discomfort.

[Anonymous]

Replace all carpet with tile. I have the wood look tile which looks nice. Alternatively you can install real wood floors. Avoid the chemically coated wood floors.

Replace drapes and curtains with wood blinds.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had to establish a hard no fever no staying home rule. I will test for Covid, but a sore throat only is not enough. I’ll give cough drops and ibuprofen and allergy meds if it the right time of year. If they are home the do school work or read, I will allow some screens, but I have plenty of time to work.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for OPs daughter. She's going to have a tough life

[Anonymous]

You chose to buy a mansion instead of care for your child. Enjoy your decision.

[Anonymous]

If m’y kids stayed home for sniffles they would hardly ever be in school during winter and allergy season.

[Anonymous]

Maybe get a HEPA air filter for her bedroom and see if that helps.

[Anonymous]

My 7 year old can entertain herself when she’s home sick from school, OP. Your daughter certainly can. (And my daughter has autism and ADHD.) Also, I almost never keep her home for only a sore throat. You have a sore throat for several days at the beginning of each cold, and then the cold lasts for two weeks. No one can stay home for all of that.