47 with a 9 yo. Feel exhausted

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Anonymous wrote:i recommend having all your kids by early 30s

Super helpful. There you go, OP. Problem solved.

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That’s the worst time career wise though. That will permanently mommytrack your career right when it needs to ramp up leaving you with very little flexibility and young kids. There’s always trade offs. I did late thirties but other friends did mid twenties and were able to take advantage of the mid thirties lean in to get good promotions and leverage options like telework.

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Hormone therapy has made a huge difference in my sleep and energy levels. Also, hire help and try not to feel to guilty about it. Sometimes I need an afternoon to myself to go for a run, and my kid is going to be fine staying home with a sitter.

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Anonymous wrote:The reason you are tired is that you aren't getting enough sleep. Period. And if you are feeling this tired, it's likely that it will take some time to make up the sleep deficit.

Start making it a priority to get more sleep. Go to bed earlier or sleep later. Your kids are old enough that you should be able to exercise around them. Leave your DH in charge of dinner one night a week and exercise after work. Exercise while your kid is at practice. Exercise on your lunch hour. Cut back on the exercise if you need to. Sleep is more important.

This plus a checkup. TSH should be 2.5 or lower. Vitamin D should be at the higher end of the normal range. Also check your B12 levels. Mine were low and I definitely feel better since I started supplementing that.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for responding. OP here I do have thyroid. I see my other friends being done in 3-4 years but I am in long haul as the 9 yo will not be in college anytime soon. I dream of retired life where I am not waking up early in morning to pack lunches and make breakfast or rushing home to cook dinner and drive around activities. I know it sounds horrible but I just would like to get a book and curl up or for once just live for my self. Sounds horrible I know but I didn’t really live my life on my terms or my way just living for others all the time.

You can’t curl up with a book on Sunday mornings?

OP here - Sunday school

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 57 with a 13 yo. I think it will be much easier in 3 years, at which point no one will need one-on-one supervision. You can then operate on your own schedule to a much greater extent. I think it also helps that we see travel sports as a road to nowhere.

Too old to become a parent to a new baby at 44.

Ok incel

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My daughter's dance teacher is 23 and has been married for five years. She is expecting her first. She is so lucky that she'll be a young mom. I'm almost 50 with two teens, am trying to sell my house, and I'm divorced. I'm exhausted.

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Anonymous wrote:I had my last on at 38. I feel so exhausted with job, sports/ activities for kids and housework. I worry sometimes if I would be able to launch my last one successfully. I just wish sometimes I had my kids when I was younger. I love them all so much but just don’t have enough energy and time to do everything. Does anyone else feel the same way?

You sound out of shape. Eat healthy and work out.

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Thank you all for helpful suggestions. OP here. I think aging is for sure a factor, we all age differently. I do have two teens one who I had in twenties and thirties. I dealt with infertility. My last one was a surprise as I thought I would never get pregnant naturally at that age. I was able to do much more for my first born. I wonder how much will I be present in my youngest's life and how much will I be able to be there for him. I hope I am able to give him a good launch. I will prioritize sleep. At the end of the day its a battle between sleep and little bit of me time (reels, tv, surfing etc). Its a bad habit I need to get rid of but thats not the only thing even if i dont do some screen time I am able to get to bed a little late due to endless list of things to do. I fall asleep pretty quickly as I am so tired not trouble there.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for helpful suggestions. OP here. I think aging is for sure a factor, we all age differently. I do have two teens one who I had in twenties and thirties. I dealt with infertility. My last one was a surprise as I thought I would never get pregnant naturally at that age. I was able to do much more for my first born. I wonder how much will I be present in my youngest's life and how much will I be able to be there for him. I hope I am able to give him a good launch. I will prioritize sleep. At the end of the day its a battle between sleep and little bit of me time (reels, tv, surfing etc). Its a bad habit I need to get rid of but thats not the only thing even if i dont do some screen time I am able to get to bed a little late due to endless list of things to do. I fall asleep pretty quickly as I am so tired not trouble there.

OP here excuse typos.

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Anonymous wrote:I had my last on at 38. I feel so exhausted with job, sports/ activities for kids and housework. I worry sometimes if I would be able to launch my last one successfully. I just wish sometimes I had my kids when I was younger. I love them all so much but just don’t have enough energy and time to do everything. Does anyone else feel the same way?

You sound out of shape. Eat healthy and work out.

OP here - I eat very healthy and do work out, that is not an issue.

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Screens before bed can also have a negative impact on sleep quality, OP.

My doc recommended a 10pm bedtime and a 30 min walk at lunch so I could catch up on sleep. No screens for 2 hours before bed. Made a HUGE difference. I also started Natural Calm mag supplement at bedtime, I think that helped a bit with feeling more rested.

Try walking 3 days a week on a work break and doing more intense exercise on the weekend. If you go to bed earlier and sleep later, should help loads. Think of the "treat" as feeling better, not socials.

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This is an obvious troll thread.

But Op your issue is poor time management and not that you had a kid at 38. Give me a break!

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Anonymous wrote:i recommend having all your kids by early 30s

Super helpful. There you go, OP. Problem solved.

DP here. I did that. I’m still exhausted at 44. It’s the age.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i recommend having all your kids by early 30s

Super helpful. There you go, OP. Problem solved.

DP here. I did that. I’m still exhausted at 44. It’s the age.

I agree its the age.

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Anonymous wrote:This is an obvious troll thread.

But Op your issue is poor time management and not that you had a kid at 38. Give me a break!

You bring everyone a lot of joy … when you leave the room.