Please give me suggestions of what a teens (14) wear for a bat mitzvah

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:15:20, the Dillards link is closest to correct, for the party. Short and tight (I know that's not what most parents want to hear, but it's what they wear) with sneakers. Think homecoming, or look at your friends social media pics from homecoming. I've seen some skater style too. If a kid has an alternative style that's fine too - I've seen girls in one piece pants jumpers and other styles.

For the service, yes, shoulders covered. Church or grandmas birthday party. I've seen girls wear very short dresses the the service and I think it's inappropriate (short enough that they're constantly tugging them down to stay covered. )

Yes, listen to this poster and not the scary trolls. In my area the more mature girls do the more bodycon dresses that give me flashbacks to 2000s bandage dresses, but most girls are still doing skater dresses. Short and tight is better at 13 than 17 and there’s only a short window of time in one’s life when you can wear a $30 dress from the juniors department and not look cheap. Embrace it.

A short tight dress from the juniors department always looks cheap. It looks lascivious on a 13 year old child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

None of the dresses are right on this thread.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/un-deux-trois-kids-pleated-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7204973?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7621121?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=401

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-ruffle-satin-dress-big-kid/7507478?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=675

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/zunie-kids-lace-fit-flare-dress-big-girl/5836264?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=412

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-mesh-insert-skater-dress-big-kid/6835369?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

The lace one is probably closest to what I'd suggest, the others are ok.

I think obviously there are 1 or more trolls on the thread posting insane things for kicks. The other dresses posted are mostly insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.newyorkdress.com/products/gatti-nolli-couture-ed4637ed4631?variant=32269444808817

Well I am going to a bat mitzvah next weekend and totally wearing this dress

It’s $2,100.00

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something like this. It is a religious ceremony so be covered up. Not too frilly a dress. If needed cover with a cardigan for the ceremony.

Have you been to one recently? The girls wear short and mostly tight dresses. My kid has been to 6 this year and I haven’t seen a single girl dressed like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry girl moms, but a lot of the short skirt dresses look really trashy. Just like all the leggings that girls go around in to high school. I have a teen boy, and he comments a lot that the girls at his school dress poorly thinking they look good/sexy/flirty when they'd look much better in a less clingy outfit or a full sweater. And if I had a girl, I wouldn't buy her mid-thigh hem dresses. They are just too hard to sit in.

I do like the Nordstrom Rack dress that is high/low with the jeweled belt.

I sense that the divide here is between the moms who think their daughters are dressing fun and flirty and the rest of us who think we're wading through a sea of garbage fast fashion.

In particular, I know many women wish trendy dresses would go back to having sleeves. It's a pain to try and coordinate appropriately matching shrugs/cardigans/etc. to go stylishly with the all too common sleeveless dresses. Same problem applies to many of these occasion dresses suggested for teens. Have to find that topper that works with the bust size and also works correctly with the dress's waist so the line's not spoiled. More wasted time for mom.

You don't have a teen DD. Until you do, your opinion on this matter is irrelevant. And you have no idea what you'd do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP

None of the dresses are right on this thread.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/un-deux-trois-kids-pleated-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7204973?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7621121?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=401

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-ruffle-satin-dress-big-kid/7507478?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=675

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/zunie-kids-lace-fit-flare-dress-big-girl/5836264?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=412

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-mesh-insert-skater-dress-big-kid/6835369?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

These seem right to me. Not old lady, but not bodycon either, and are appropriate for a service. These are also the kinds of dresses I see girls wearing at music recitals and awards ceremonies.

[Anonymous]

OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like this. It is a religious ceremony so be covered up. Not too frilly a dress. If needed cover with a cardigan for the ceremony.

Have you been to one recently? The girls wear short and mostly tight dresses. My kid has been to 6 this year and I haven’t seen a single girl dressed like this.

+1. This is not what the kids are wearing. Your child will feel very out of place with most of these suggestions.

[Anonymous]

OP, do NOT, I repeat, NOT take the fashion advice of people posting dresses from old lady stores. I work for a DC catering company, and have been to quite a few of these events. Plus, we are Jewish. These are pretty fashionable teen girl events. The "shoulders to knees" type coverage is only for the ceremony. If the ceremony is in the morning and the party at night, then they don't even have to wear the same thing. Otherwise, just put on a cardigan, as you suggested. Dresses will not be overly sexy, but they will be party dresses for tween girls, and will look like it. You are in luck that many of these events are photographed professionally, and the photos are posted online on the blogs of the photographers. Just do a Google search for local bas mitzvah planners and photographers and you'll be able to get a good idea of what they look like. Here's one:

https://anaisabelphotography.com/about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP

None of the dresses are right on this thread.

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/un-deux-trois-kids-pleated-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7204973?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-high-low-party-dress-big-kid/7621121?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=401

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-ruffle-satin-dress-big-kid/7507478?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=675

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/zunie-kids-lace-fit-flare-dress-big-girl/5836264?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=412

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/ava-and-yelly-kids-mesh-insert-skater-dress-big-kid/6835369?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=001

These seem right to me. Not old lady, but not bodycon either, and are appropriate for a service. These are also the kinds of dresses I see girls wearing at music recitals and awards ceremonies.

+1 my favorite are #4 and 5.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised at the tennis shoes with the fancy dress but at least the kids are comfortable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Are you crazy? They’re 14 not 24!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.newyorkdress.com/products/gatti-nolli-couture-ed4637ed4631?variant=32269444808817

Well I am going to a bat mitzvah next weekend and totally wearing this dress

It’s $2,100.00

Money is no object when fashion is on the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Are you crazy? They’re 14 not 24!

This is how they dress to events like homecoming.

-Mom of an almost 14 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- My child had a Bat Mitzvah this year and we have been to a lot. This thread is terrible- people are making things up or do not have teen girls or have not been to actual Bat Mitzvahs.

Like it or not, kids are wearing short, tight dresses. You can get one that is not quite as short or quite as tight (size up, or slight Aline on short dress), so it looks less skimpy. But that is what the majority of the kids are wearing.

Some posters are posting from Nordstrom Kids dept- that is fine if you have an early 7th grade 12 year old. OP said her daughter is 14!

This type of thing is what most girls wear to Bat Mitzvahs (like it or not, this is what they wear, and they where cute sneakers like Nikes with the dress, little sweater over it for service). Mine always wear little bike shorts under the dress. The ones that wear dresses like in some of the early links look ridiculous.

https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-square-neck-linen-mini-dress/516286773

https://www.dillards.com/p/b.-darlin-one-shoulder-ruched-side-bodycon-dress/512639722

Katie J is very trendy, you can size up to have the dress not be as short (but these are pricier than Dillards/Macys):

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-maddy-sequin-dress-big-kid?ID=4490784&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-ava-dress-big-kid?ID=4091572&CategoryID=3866

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-tween-scarlett-nylon-stretch-ruched-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4951862&CategoryID=3866

If you want less tight:
https://www.dillards.com/p/gb-textured-sleeveless-wrap-dress/513070804

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-cali-crepe-party-dress-big-kid?ID=4200428&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/city-studios-juniors-double-strap-v-neck-skater-dress?ID=16287072

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/crystal-doll-juniors-tulle-sleeve-a-line-dress?ID=16540472&tdp=cm_app~zMCOM-NAVAPP~xcm_zone~zPDP_ZONE_A~xcm_choiceId~zcidM05RUB-323dbc55-2cb3-47bc-9e63-38108a5e9197%40HDI%40Others%2Byou%2Bmay%2Blike%2418109%2416540472~xcm_pos~zPos2~xcm_srcCatID~z18109

For morning service, without party right after:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/katiejnyc-girls-molly-long-sleeve-dress-big-kid?ID=4452984&CategoryID=3866

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/bcx-juniors-flutter-sleeve-tiered-skirt-a-line-dress?ID=17350481

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/speechless-juniors-square-neck-mesh-tiered-skirt-dress?ID=17262326

Are you crazy? They’re 14 not 24!

This is how they dress to events like homecoming.

-Mom of an almost 14 year old

Exactly. Some of you all are seriously out of touch.