Please give me suggestions of what a teens (14) wear for a bat mitzvah

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry girl moms, but a lot of the short skirt dresses look really trashy. Just like all the leggings that girls go around in to high school. I have a teen boy, and he comments a lot that the girls at his school dress poorly thinking they look good/sexy/flirty when they'd look much better in a less clingy outfit or a full sweater. And if I had a girl, I wouldn't buy her mid-thigh hem dresses. They are just too hard to sit in.

I do like the Nordstrom Rack dress that is high/low with the jeweled belt.

I sense that the divide here is between the moms who think their daughters are dressing fun and flirty and the rest of us who think we're wading through a sea of garbage fast fashion.

In particular, I know many women wish trendy dresses would go back to having sleeves. It's a pain to try and coordinate appropriately matching shrugs/cardigans/etc. to go stylishly with the all too common sleeveless dresses. Same problem applies to many of these occasion dresses suggested for teens. Have to find that topper that works with the bust size and also works correctly with the dress's waist so the line's not spoiled. More wasted time for mom.

You don't have a teen DD. Until you do, your opinion on this matter is irrelevant. And you have no idea what you'd do.

Are these girls dressing for themselves? Get real, girl mom! We were both teens once. Who tells them these dresses are in fashion? Who tells them they look pretty? Teens buy what the stores stock without thinking about it and to fit in. A lot of this stuff brings two words to mind: "Inappropriately sexualized". And girl moms are enabling it. So many of these dresses are flimsy junk.

I have a pretty good idea of what I'd do. Just like my mom did. I had a miniskirt in high school but I wasn't allowed to have any tube tops. Also, my mom was more conservative but now I can look back at my high school pictures and think how nicely dressed I was for the time instead of "so cringe". My mom taught me early that trendy fashion doesn't have to be a big part of your value as a woman. Also that it's appropriate to go more modest when visiting a religious building. It doesn't matter what you can get away with, or what other people do, it's about respecting the norms of the congregation you are visiting.

I went to the service part of a Bar Mitzvah 2 years ago out here in flyover country and none of the girls were wearing bodycon dresses or anything skimpy. I did not attend the party. Millionaire family, reform synagogue.

I attended a friend's kid's Bat Mitzvah, but have no child that age of my own. Every girl...I mean every girl...was wearing the uniform of short skirt/dress and nike ponies (not sure why they all had ponies vs. Converse). Most of the girls were members of the congregation. Seemed like they all kept their winter jackets on during the service, so maybe that was their way of showing modesty during the religious service.

Interesting, the Bat Mitzvah girl herself had a more modest knee length dress...yet her mother told me she wears the other outfits for her friends' Bat Mitzvahs.

This is interesting.

Did the winter jackets look stupid with the dresses? Sounds like outerwear...like puffer over a satin sheath...suggests a maladapted fashion strategy.

Of course the Bat Mitzvah girl needed to dress the most appropriately. To show respect. And clothes that cover a little more usually work better for standing, sitting, and public speaking. Unless one is a professional spokesmodel. In which case, bring on the sequined satin sheath...

It was a reform service so relatively short…I can’t say if it looked stupid or not since I wasn’t paying attention to what was underneath. Plenty of parkas and fashionable winter coats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure she wears shorts under her dress. Kids often play games where they are running around or climbing on each other.

-Event Planner.

Mine wears Nike Pro’s under her dress

[Anonymous]

https://www.thedressoutlet.com/products/doe-and-rae-26070d-short-ruffle-layered-dress

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Op here. We went to Anthropologie on a whim and she (and I) really liked this dress.

However, even the small size was too big for her (she disagreed) and I also thought the fabric was not right for this kind of event.

What do you think?

Can I find something similar but appropriate size?

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/by-anthropologie-long-sleeve-square-neck-denim-babydoll-mini-dress?category=dresses-tunic-swing&color=066&type=PETITE&quantity=1

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Op again - the smallest size they had at the store was S.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.talbots.com/belted-fit-and-flare-shirtdress---daytona-dots/P241036110.html?cgid=apparel-dresses&dwvar_P241036110_color=INDIA%20INK/IVORY&dwvar_P241036110_sizeType=MS

Did you just post a dress from Talbots for a 14 year old? Girl, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We went to Anthropologie on a whim and she (and I) really liked this dress.

However, even the small size was too big for her (she disagreed) and I also thought the fabric was not right for this kind of event.

What do you think?

Can I find something similar but appropriate size?

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/by-anthropologie-long-sleeve-square-neck-denim-babydoll-mini-dress?category=dresses-tunic-swing&color=066&type=PETITE&quantity=1

Definitely not the right thing for an evening party. (I have kids this age and we had a Bat Mitzvah last year). Maybe ok for the day service, but still not really what the kids are wearing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We went to Anthropologie on a whim and she (and I) really liked this dress.

However, even the small size was too big for her (she disagreed) and I also thought the fabric was not right for this kind of event.

What do you think?

Can I find something similar but appropriate size?

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/by-anthropologie-long-sleeve-square-neck-denim-babydoll-mini-dress?category=dresses-tunic-swing&color=066&type=PETITE&quantity=1

OP, these come in XS.

https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=7530430120000

https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-6483507/juniors-so-long-sleeve-babydoll-dress.jsp

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=792876002

[Anonymous]

One more:

https://www.altardstate.com/as/clothing/dresses/mini-dresses/aurora-babydoll-dress/1003967286.html

[Anonymous]

Is this a night party or a day party? Or is the dress just for a service and luncheon? That makes a big difference. The dresses in the last post are more for service during the day, not a night party.

[Anonymous]

I mean I'm having my bat mitzah in a couple of months & it's one Purim so everyone's going to wear costumes I have the option to wear a costume (last year me & my brother went as bigtan & teresh) but I don't have to (I'm the bat mitzah girl)

[Anonymous]

I am planning on wearing a choker either platforms or boots & a dress (I don't like wearing dresses) & I haven't been to one (besides my brother's bar mitzah) so I have nothing to offer just enjoying the drama