Not attractive enough for the men I am attracted to

[Anonymous]

OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

[Anonymous]

I am naturally pretty and have to put in work to maintain my appearance at my age. I am mid 40s. I get hit on by men 20s-50s. Women who are attractive still have to put in work. OP: you have to figure out how to maximize your attractiveness. And put in a lot of effort. Still, you may have to accept you still may not be able to get the man with the level of attractiveness that you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

Don't do this. You'll attract weirdos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally pretty and have to put in work to maintain my appearance at my age. I am mid 40s. I get hit on by men 20s-50s. Women who are attractive still have to put in work. OP: you have to figure out how to maximize your attractiveness. And put in a lot of effort. Still, you may have to accept you still may not be able to get the man with the level of attractiveness that you want.

NP. Could you give examples of the things you do? I’m not doing anything at the moment and it shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

What?
You mean like a full face mask? A little one over your eyes/nose?
I've been to plenty of parties/get togethers/happy hours and have never seen anyone wearing a mask.
If I was going to be interested in someone, I'd have to have a peek behind the mask very soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

What?
You mean like a full face mask? A little one over your eyes/nose?
I've been to plenty of parties/get togethers/happy hours and have never seen anyone wearing a mask.
If I was going to be interested in someone, I'd have to have a peek behind the mask very soon.

Glad you asked! Full face is covered, one is a chimpanzee head, kind of speaks to my playful side. Have tried smaller ones, cat-eye fun-girl feel with sparkles, but feel like the ones that cover full face get better results. You really just have to kind of follow your instincts and hope it matches with your outfit, in terms of color pallette.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

What?
You mean like a full face mask? A little one over your eyes/nose?
I've been to plenty of parties/get togethers/happy hours and have never seen anyone wearing a mask.
If I was going to be interested in someone, I'd have to have a peek behind the mask very soon.

Glad you asked! Full face is covered, one is a chimpanzee head, kind of speaks to my playful side. Have tried smaller ones, cat-eye fun-girl feel with sparkles, but feel like the ones that cover full face get better results. You really just have to kind of follow your instincts and hope it matches with your outfit, in terms of color pallette.

[Anonymous]

Are you ugly or just average? Makeup and lashes can do wonders.

If your nose is that bad, I would get a nose job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

Yeah, i know a man who thinks there is no ugly woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am naturally pretty and have to put in work to maintain my appearance at my age. I am mid 40s. I get hit on by men 20s-50s. Women who are attractive still have to put in work. OP: you have to figure out how to maximize your attractiveness. And put in a lot of effort. Still, you may have to accept you still may not be able to get the man with the level of attractiveness that you want.

NP. Could you give examples of the things you do? I’m not doing anything at the moment and it shows.

Not the pp. I am in my mid forties. I have friends who still have it. I kind of have it but don’t try as much.

I know my friends in their forties do Botox. Some of them have had a mommy makeover with either a breast lift or implants, tummy tuck and probably other procedures. You can get your brows microbladed or nanobladed or other permanent/semi permanent makeup. Lashes make a huge difference.

You have to work at your diet and fitness. Many of my friends still look fantastic. They drink lots of water, eat healthy, run, workout most days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with all the PPs that there are ways to improve yourself -- cosmetic surgery, style, etc. So let's say in looks you are a 4, that might take you to a 6. But I also think you should adjust your expectations in the looks department for men as well. Face it -- the rich, gorgeous 8 to 10s get taken by the women who are 8 to 10 or so.

I have a single never married 40yo cousin who had very high standards for looks in men. She wanted someone who was tall and good looking. My cousin wasn’t bad looking but fairly average. She was average height, average weight and had an ok face. She could have easily married but her standards were too high for men. She wanted a 9-10 when she was probably a 6-7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

Don't do this. You'll attract weirdos.

+1. And a mask is not “just another accessory!” Dear lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, it will sound silly, but I've begun wearing a mask in certain social situations (parties, get-togethers, happy-hours.) If you think about it, a mask is really just another accessory like a hairband, earrings, whatever. They can also add to a woman's mystery. Who is she? Who's behind the mask? etc. Not saying it works in every situation, but for many they do. YMMV

Don't do this. You'll attract weirdos.

+1. And a mask is not “just another accessory!” Dear lord.

I beg to differ. It's just another way of accessorizing, i have a lot of fun with it and feel like it adds to a feeling of mystery.. Who is she? Who's the woman behind the mask? yada yada. If youre not happy with your looks, its time to flip the script and a mask might be just the thing. again, YMMV lol

[Anonymous]

I think the mask comment, especially the chimpanzee example, will go down in DCUM history. I can’t stop laughing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the mask comment, especially the chimpanzee example, will go down in DCUM history. I can’t stop laughing.

I don’t get DCUM jokes. That mask person was joking, right?