Not attractive enough for the men I am attracted to

[Anonymous]

I want what every woman wants: a good man with a sense of direction and a financially successful. A good heart and good values.

I know when I spot them but they do not even see me. I know why, I am not conventionally attractive. I know the kind of women they want. Feminine, attractive, put together but also down to earth.

I believe i have the character traits but my face and body do not signal my worthiness.

Do I just lower my standards? I can't seem to know how to downgrade!

[Anonymous]

Well, at least you're attracted to the right men! Some women like the wrong 'uns.

[Anonymous]

Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

You can get a nose job. But most importantly, you need to work on your self-confidence. This will make you more able to pursue men you want. Sometimes it's the woman who needs to chase, and that's perfectly fine too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

You can’t do much about your appearance so don’t make it worse by calling yourself ugly. I am not suggesting you should be with an ugly man as well, but you will find someone who will overlook what you perceive to be your flaws. Men are very visual and very harsh in terms of judging women’s looks. When I hear the way my friends sometimes describe women no wonder women doubt our sincerity.

[Anonymous]

I got a nose job because I hated my nose and the confidence I gained was amazing.

Totally worth it, would do it again in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

Op, there is a saying about being "beautiful", something like 3 points for traits, 7 points for makeup!

You can learn to contour/make up from youtubers, dress feminine clothing that brings out your natural beauty and confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My body is thin but not toned.

Can't you solve the not toned problem by visiting the gym?

[Anonymous]

Get a good plastic surgeon.

[Anonymous]

Nose job and go see a med spa to fix the rest, you’re all set. Do you have $ to pay for things?

[Anonymous]

Who is attracted to you? Has anyone pursued you? If you just want people who don't want you, you're just chasing a dream.

That said, change your attitude about your looks and make the best of what you have--anyone can do this. Put some effort into how you look. If necessary, get plastic surgery because in some cases, it really helps. But be sure you're not just being overly critical of yourself. Everyone has something about them that's attractive. Emphasize your best features. Get in better shape if you feel.yii need that.

Remember too that attraction is not all about looks.

When I wanted to get married, I made an effort and devoted some time (working out) to look my best and was open to meeting people. I made a decision that I wanted that and found someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want what every woman wants: a good man with a sense of direction and a financially successful. A good heart and good values.

I know when I spot them but they do not even see me. I know why, I am not conventionally attractive. I know the kind of women they want. Feminine, attractive, put together but also down to earth.

I believe i have the character traits but my face and body do not signal my worthiness.

Do I just lower my standards? I can't seem to know how to downgrade!

Become exceptionally successful and use money to improve your looks and style. Half of the celebrities are average looking and a lot of make up, grooming, styling and plastic surgery makes them look luxurious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

You can get a nose job. But most importantly, you need to work on your self-confidence. This will make you more able to pursue men you want. Sometimes it's the woman who needs to chase, and that's perfectly fine too.

The women must always chase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a nose job because I hated my nose and the confidence I gained was amazing.

Totally worth it, would do it again in a heartbeat.

What if your daughter ends up with the same nose? I guess surgery all over again for her too down the line…