S/O "doggy bags" on early dates

[Anonymous]

My hot take: normal people come on dates reasonably hungry, order according to their appetite and eat it all. Full stop. It may be a salad if you aren’t hungry but no, a normal, emotionally and mentally healthy person doesn’t order what he or she doesn’t eat.
I don’t care what your issue is but if you aren’t ordering one item and finishing it (well maybe leaving a few bites) you are not the one for me.
No doggie bags and no huge leftovers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

+1

I was the poster PP was responding to. The presumption that there isn’t a big population of women who have their hand out for a freebie is naive. It’s like assuming there aren’t a lot of pickpockets in a tourist trap. Many people try to get something extra through sleight of hand/sneakiness or trading on their beauty or whatever. I’m not interested in saying whether any of these folks have moral faults or it’s totally acceptable because everyone knows what they are getting or whatever.

It’s just ludicrous to suggest that it doesn’t happen.

People who complain about women using men for dinner and drinks on dates assume that most women are extremely hot and not actually interested in a relationship. The 99% of women who cannot make a living based on getting men to get them freebies don't exist to these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My hot take: normal people come on dates reasonably hungry, order according to their appetite and eat it all. Full stop. It may be a salad if you aren’t hungry but no, a normal, emotionally and mentally healthy person doesn’t order what he or she doesn’t eat.
I don’t care what your issue is but if you aren’t ordering one item and finishing it (well maybe leaving a few bites) you are not the one for me.
No doggie bags and no huge leftovers.

Wow I bet you're a fun date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't get a doggy bag if you are on a date, at a work dinner, or generally not with a close friend or family.

Once I asked for a doggy bag at a work dinner. I obliterated my food and there were only bones left which the waiter pointed out. I told him I have an actual dog which my coworkers well knew but it was funny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

It does happen, but only because men go along with it. They don’t have to. They buy the pretty woman’s dinner because they know that if they don’t, there are 25 other guys lining up to take her out and treat her.

Less attractive women don’t really have those expectations or opportunities, but men want to date the hottest woman who’ll have them.

[Anonymous]

I always thought doggie bags were for poor people. A regular human should order an amount of food to match their appetite. A regular restaurant should not serve gigantic portions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would find it awkward at best if I were on a date and someone had leftover food and asked for a doggy bag. I doubt I'd go out with them again. It's not appropriate given the context -- if you were in a nice restaurant with clients and you had a bit of food left, would you ask for a doggy bag? No. The only people here who would say that they would do so have never been in a nice restaurant with clients. It's a similar thing. If you are with your sibling, fine. Spouse, fine. Even bff, fine. But an early date? No. Business clients? No.

There are rules, people. And if you tell me "I don't care about things like that," I'll know your social skills are far below par. So, I guess you don't really have to care about that because you would be on dates with people at your level -- like 6 and below? -- who aren't in any position to be annoyed or not about doggy bags.

This is part of why I am in favor of a doggy bag on the first date if there is leftover food. I am not so fancy (or wanna-be fancy) that I would waste food just because it's a first date, and I always wanted to marry someone thrifty and down-to-earth. If that makes me a 6 or below to snobs, so be it. I'm out to have fun in life, not worry what others think about me.

[Anonymous]

Stop going to TGI Fridays for first dates.

[Anonymous]

I went on a date once where she ordered something to take home for her kid. I was paying of course. I thought that was pretty damn rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would find it awkward at best if I were on a date and someone had leftover food and asked for a doggy bag. I doubt I'd go out with them again. It's not appropriate given the context -- if you were in a nice restaurant with clients and you had a bit of food left, would you ask for a doggy bag? No. The only people here who would say that they would do so have never been in a nice restaurant with clients. It's a similar thing. If you are with your sibling, fine. Spouse, fine. Even bff, fine. But an early date? No. Business clients? No.

There are rules, people. And if you tell me "I don't care about things like that," I'll know your social skills are far below par. So, I guess you don't really have to care about that because you would be on dates with people at your level -- like 6 and below? -- who aren't in any position to be annoyed or not about doggy bags.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always thought doggie bags were for poor people. A regular human should order an amount of food to match their appetite. A regular restaurant should not serve gigantic portions.

Have you dined out lately? Your expectations are not in line with reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would find it awkward at best if I were on a date and someone had leftover food and asked for a doggy bag. I doubt I'd go out with them again. It's not appropriate given the context -- if you were in a nice restaurant with clients and you had a bit of food left, would you ask for a doggy bag? No. The only people here who would say that they would do so have never been in a nice restaurant with clients. It's a similar thing. If you are with your sibling, fine. Spouse, fine. Even bff, fine. But an early date? No. Business clients? No.

There are rules, people. And if you tell me "I don't care about things like that," I'll know your social skills are far below par. So, I guess you don't really have to care about that because you would be on dates with people at your level -- like 6 and below? -- who aren't in any position to be annoyed or not about doggy bags.

This is part of why I am in favor of a doggy bag on the first date if there is leftover food. I am not so fancy (or wanna-be fancy) that I would waste food just because it's a first date, and I always wanted to marry someone thrifty and down-to-earth. If that makes me a 6 or below to snobs, so be it. I'm out to have fun in life, not worry what others think about me.

This! I’m not interested in male pearl-clutchers who are more interested in appearances than practicalities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

Nobody is forcing these guys to buy drinks or dinner for pretty women.

But now you’re admitting that it does happen.

Tell the rest of the loons in this thread who insist “women don’t have time to go on dates just for a free meal!”

They say we are lying, but it’s absolutely the truth.

+1

I was the poster PP was responding to. The presumption that there isn’t a big population of women who have their hand out for a freebie is naive. It’s like assuming there aren’t a lot of pickpockets in a tourist trap. Many people try to get something extra through sleight of hand/sneakiness or trading on their beauty or whatever. I’m not interested in saying whether any of these folks have moral faults or it’s totally acceptable because everyone knows what they are getting or whatever.

It’s just ludicrous to suggest that it doesn’t happen.

People who complain about women using men for dinner and drinks on dates assume that most women are extremely hot and not actually interested in a relationship. The 99% of women who cannot make a living based on getting men to get them freebies don't exist to these people.

Excuse me? I just said it was ridiculous to assume that it doesn’t happen. I didn’t suggest that it was the majority. Sheesh - clearly most normal people don’t behave this way.