S/O "doggy bags" on early dates

[Anonymous]

He gave the bag to a homeless guy on our walk back to the subway and I was really impressed.

Similar experience.We went for a walk after dinner and made a bit of a detour onto a church plaza.He knew there were homeless who camped out there. I later learned from his friends that he almost always did it.

[Anonymous]

Don't get a doggy bag if you are on a date, at a work dinner, or generally not with a close friend or family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

They 100% do not.

It would never be worth the time it takes to get ready, the possible threat to your safety, waste of time, use of beauty products and dry cleaning bill, not to mention the mental energy it takes to go on a date for a “free meal” 99% of women would rather eat a 99¢ cup of ramen for dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's rude, but I did most of my dating in my 20s when it was understood we were all trying to stretch a dollar. I still remember a date with one guy who asked for his to be boxed up and asked if he could have mine too. I thought it was a little presumptuous but I didn't really have a "full" lunch/meal left so I gave it to him. He gave the bag to a homeless guy on our walk back to the subway and I was really impressed.

Did he give the homeless guy your meal or his?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s cheap.

It’s smart and frugal, which is an attractive trait to me. Not interested in people who are more concerned with appearances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's rude, but I did most of my dating in my 20s when it was understood we were all trying to stretch a dollar. I still remember a date with one guy who asked for his to be boxed up and asked if he could have mine too. I thought it was a little presumptuous but I didn't really have a "full" lunch/meal left so I gave it to him. He gave the bag to a homeless guy on our walk back to the subway and I was really impressed.

Did he give the homeless guy your meal or his?

Read the freakin thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He gave the bag to a homeless guy on our walk back to the subway and I was really impressed.

Similar experience.We went for a walk after dinner and made a bit of a detour onto a church plaza.He knew there were homeless who camped out there. I later learned from his friends that he almost always did it.

Now we have tent cities thanks to bass bowls like these guys.

[Anonymous]

I always doggy bag my leftovers. I am really not interested in the leftovers of what someone else has ordered. You can order less, you can get doggy bags or you can give it to a homeless person. I am cool with all three options. It is shameful to waste food.

I am quite comfortable in asking about the portion sizes in a restaurant before I order a meal. It is a good trait to be mindful about food waste in all situations - date, business meeting, casual dining with friends and family.

Finally, I know I will get flak from people for this but I always went dutch on dates. I felt more in control when I paid for my own meal. The only guy I allowed to pay for me was my now DH.

I think it is a huge privilege a woman bestows on a man when she allows him to pay for her, but then the woman also has to respect herself enough to think like that. When my DD started to date in college, we gave her a credit card and a car. She did not need a date to pay for her dinner or provide transportation to her.

[Anonymous]

When I was in France it was considered low-class to ask to take leftovers home from a restaurant. Even the cheapest hole-in-the-wall Lebanese places never offered to package up leftovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in France it was considered low-class to ask to take leftovers home from a restaurant. Even the cheapest hole-in-the-wall Lebanese places never offered to package up leftovers.

Did they serve food in the portion sizes we see here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in France it was considered low-class to ask to take leftovers home from a restaurant. Even the cheapest hole-in-the-wall Lebanese places never offered to package up leftovers.

This proves Americans are low class. Good to know.

[Anonymous]

I couldn’t imagine not asking for a doggy bag if I had some good food leftover. I did it even when my date was paying. I just can’t handle that kind of waste and I love leftovers. I honestly wouldn’t have cared if someone thought it was rude. If my date thought that, then we just wouldn’t be compatible and a second date wouldn’t happen. (I do not ask for doggy bags for professional situations though)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

No they don't.

I have a colleague who met her husband on Tinder and went on a dinner date with him because she just wanted a free meal (grad student at the time). She ended up liking him.

Totally common. Just like pretty young women who go to bars with the intention of not paying for a single drink.

[Anonymous]

I generally wouldn't eat more than half of an entree so leftovers are a usual thing for me. I'm fine with splitting the check or paying, and I hate wasting food. If we are doing something after dinner and it would be awkward to carry around leftovers, I'll order something smaller. Otherwise I don't mind taking something to go. I wouldn't think less of a guy for taking his food home either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women go on OLD sites for free meals without any interest in dating. It sends a signal that you are one of those women

I think you are the troll from the other thread. Seriously, women don't have the time to go out for free food. The OP was vulgar and shouldn't have been eating her meal. And was probably overweight. Sent all the wrong messages.