Divorced dad looking for a wealthy woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: I'm a good looking mid 40s woman making around 380K/year. I do date men who are lower income but 120K is WAY too low. My date would be a university professor, a public figure/official, or someone otherwise very distinguished and/or educated. I just like men who are interesting. But it's never that high income discrepancy as you describe: they were all making between 170-300K.
Also, I'm not really looking for wealthy men: they are often unattractive, boring and very limited in their world and life outlook. There are plenty of men on apps who are real estate developers, in IT, contractors etc who make millions a year. Not one of them ever caught my attention for anything long term

So OP - if you get a great career, a name in your field, a slightly higher salary - why not?

120k is WAY too low....Just imagine dating a woman who speaks this way....

OP has 2 kids and likely pays CS. You can't afford dating on this salary in dmv, leaving alone dating a well-off woman. She would expect nice dates/concerts/dinners courting. There will be several men available to her ready to offer that, besides OP. I don't see how he will pull it off, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: I'm a good looking mid 40s woman making around 380K/year. I do date men who are lower income but 120K is WAY too low. My date would be a university professor, a public figure/official, or someone otherwise very distinguished and/or educated. I just like men who are interesting. But it's never that high income discrepancy as you describe: they were all making between 170-300K.
Also, I'm not really looking for wealthy men: they are often unattractive, boring and very limited in their world and life outlook. There are plenty of men on apps who are real estate developers, in IT, contractors etc who make millions a year. Not one of them ever caught my attention for anything long term

So OP - if you get a great career, a name in your field, a slightly higher salary - why not?

120k is WAY too low....Just imagine dating a woman who speaks this way....

OP is shooting for a very limited category of women (probably, less than 20 single 30-40 yo available females in whole dmv would meet his criteria, and even fewer would be physically attractive). Speaking from my own perspective, I'm rarely single and available to date. I always have a very good looking, successful man on my elbow.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50, fit and attractive for my age, and make $600k. I’d consider dating someone who made a lot less than me, and wouldn’t even mind paying for him to join me at the things I love to do (travel, ski etc), but he would have to add so much to my life that I dont imagine most men would. Attractive and good in bed are the obvious, but also plan dates and weekends (not spending my money - I also like to hike and have a picnic, esp if I’m not the one shopping and planning the route!); make my life easier (pick up my dry cleaning just because you can!), be sweet and thoughtful (I saw your favorite wine on sale so I bought you a bottle!), etc. Basically all the things women do that men suck at (I know, huge generalization, but still mostly true).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 50, fit and attractive for my age, and make $600k. I’d consider dating someone who made a lot less than me, and wouldn’t even mind paying for him to join me at the things I love to do (travel, ski etc), but he would have to add so much to my life that I dont imagine most men would. Attractive and good in bed are the obvious, but also plan dates and weekends (not spending my money - I also like to hike and have a picnic, esp if I’m not the one shopping and planning the route!); make my life easier (pick up my dry cleaning just because you can!), be sweet and thoughtful (I saw your favorite wine on sale so I bought you a bottle!), etc. Basically all the things women do that men suck at (I know, huge generalization, but still mostly true).

Exactly! I dated a man who worked in education and was ready to pay for expensive dates whereby he would plan picnics. He lacked the planning ability altogether and couldn't handle the demands of being a "woman" in the relationship. He became very resentful of very reasonable expectations (all the stuff you list which men usually expect from women) and bailed out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 50, fit and attractive for my age, and make $600k. I’d consider dating someone who made a lot less than me, and wouldn’t even mind paying for him to join me at the things I love to do (travel, ski etc), but he would have to add so much to my life that I dont imagine most men would. Attractive and good in bed are the obvious, but also plan dates and weekends (not spending my money - I also like to hike and have a picnic, esp if I’m not the one shopping and planning the route!); make my life easier (pick up my dry cleaning just because you can!), be sweet and thoughtful (I saw your favorite wine on sale so I bought you a bottle!), etc. Basically all the things women do that men suck at (I know, huge generalization, but still mostly true).

Exactly! I dated a man who worked in education and was ready to pay for expensive dates whereby he would plan picnics. He lacked the planning ability altogether and couldn't handle the demands of being a "woman" in the relationship. He became very resentful of very reasonable expectations (all the stuff you list which men usually expect from women) and bailed out

And ah, yea - his justification for not doing all these things was "but I also work same hours as you !"

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Anonymous wrote:I have a child-free friend that makes $250k as a pilot. Her DH is also a pilot but makes less. She also received a substantial inheritance from her family. Yet he feels she should do more around the house like his mother and MIL do. She loves him but if something happens to him, he has no intention of remarrying. She has no desire to be some new guy's nurse or purse, particularly one with kids.

A lot of identifying info here.

Haha! She wouldn't be caught dead on here.

Ma’am that’s not the point. Anybody who knows 2 pilots will think this is her situation

[Anonymous]

TBH you sound fine but are probably not going to be able to attract such a woman….if you don’t make a lot of $ they are going to want someone with some level of prestige or influence (local celebrity type, probably). Most will not want to deal with your kids either- whether they have their own or not.

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Anonymous wrote:So how do I go about finding one of those wealthy woman? I am divorced 44 2 kids good looking in great shape and work as an Economist. Which App is best for meeting a single lady that earn significantly more than I do ( I make 120k).

Society thinks it’s totally Okay for women to seek wealthy men. Well I am seeking a similarly wealthy single woman.

Why would a wealthy single woman want to deal with a broke man or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think first you probably need to abandon your children.

😮 um no. He might find himself a barren woman happy with a man with 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

OP woman that make the kind of money that you want are IMPOSSIBLE to date. First they will have to find you and not the other way around. Second wealthy women have an extensive list of demands from potential partner.

Forget it brother get yourself a nice teacher or nurse you will enjoy life more....

Look at how some are putting down a 120k salary. Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

When a woman does not need a man's money to have a wide range of experiences, most men will not be able to meet her needs. At that level of wealth women may have criteria such as good sex(which most men are terrible at) etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: I'm a good looking mid 40s woman making around 380K/year. I do date men who are lower income but 120K is WAY too low. My date would be a university professor, a public figure/official, or someone otherwise very distinguished and/or educated. I just like men who are interesting. But it's never that high income discrepancy as you describe: they were all making between 170-300K.
Also, I'm not really looking for wealthy men: they are often unattractive, boring and very limited in their world and life outlook. There are plenty of men on apps who are real estate developers, in IT, contractors etc who make millions a year. Not one of them ever caught my attention for anything long term

So OP - if you get a great career, a name in your field, a slightly higher salary - why not?

120k is WAY too low....Just imagine dating a woman who speaks this way....

OP has 2 kids and likely pays CS. You can't afford dating on this salary in dmv, leaving alone dating a well-off woman. She would expect nice dates/concerts/dinners courting. There will be several men available to her ready to offer that, besides OP. I don't see how he will pull it off, honestly.

Yep thats me around 120k and I am paying child support and since I am not the custodial parent I am transferring the money to her essentially increasing her take home net pay to the point where she takes home more than I do. When we say that the legal system as far divorce settlement is unfair toward men this is what I mean. I am now dating a women who doesn't need my money, but she is so respectful and always look for things to do and/or places to go that she know will be affordable for me. Not every women is hell bent on going to a fancy nice place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When a woman does not need a man's money to have a wide range of experiences, most men will not be able to meet her needs. At that level of wealth women may have criteria such as good sex(which most men are terrible at) etc...

Yes, good in bed, great body, educated, well-read and tall are the major criteria for me when dating.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I both make about 77K as teachers. (He has 2 masters; I only have one.) Thank goddess we don't have the complications so many posters here do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: I'm a good looking mid 40s woman making around 380K/year. I do date men who are lower income but 120K is WAY too low. My date would be a university professor, a public figure/official, or someone otherwise very distinguished and/or educated. I just like men who are interesting. But it's never that high income discrepancy as you describe: they were all making between 170-300K.
Also, I'm not really looking for wealthy men: they are often unattractive, boring and very limited in their world and life outlook. There are plenty of men on apps who are real estate developers, in IT, contractors etc who make millions a year. Not one of them ever caught my attention for anything long term

So OP - if you get a great career, a name in your field, a slightly higher salary - why not?

120k is WAY too low....Just imagine dating a woman who speaks this way....

OP has 2 kids and likely pays CS. You can't afford dating on this salary in dmv, leaving alone dating a well-off woman. She would expect nice dates/concerts/dinners courting. There will be several men available to her ready to offer that, besides OP. I don't see how he will pull it off, honestly.

Yep thats me around 120k and I am paying child support and since I am not the custodial parent I am transferring the money to her essentially increasing her take home net pay to the point where she takes home more than I do. When we say that the legal system as far divorce settlement is unfair toward men this is what I mean. I am now dating a women who doesn't need my money, but she is so respectful and always look for things to do and/or places to go that she know will be affordable for me. Not every women is hell bent on going to a fancy nice place.

Why does the woman you date look for places to go/what to do, and not you offer her and then discuss? As we can see wealthy women put up a lot of crap for hot men