Divorced dad looking for a wealthy woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why would a wealthy single woman want to deal with a broke man or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate women.

Why would a wealthy single man want to deal with a broke woman or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm wealthy - if you're willing to be a SAHD who really fully manages all of the domestic work for our combined 5 kids, i'd be down. I've always said what i need in life is an awesome sah wife!

But I'm sure you'd make him sign a prenup. So if things blow up, he'll be really screwed because he won't get child support, obviously, and won't have any assets to his name, and won't have a career? OP needs to get a good-paying job if OP needs more money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why would a wealthy single woman want to deal with a broke man or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate women.

Why would a wealthy single man want to deal with a broke woman or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate men.

When I was younger we knew an older American man who had married and brought over a woman from Russia who had a 10 year old and was the spitting image of Lucy Lawless at her prettiest.

Have you ever heard of an older woman doing something like that? Poor or rich? Men will do anything if the woman is hot and they are in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm wealthy - if you're willing to be a SAHD who really fully manages all of the domestic work for our combined 5 kids, i'd be down. I've always said what i need in life is an awesome sah wife!

But I'm sure you'd make him sign a prenup. So if things blow up, he'll be really screwed because he won't get child support, obviously, and won't have any assets to his name, and won't have a career? OP needs to get a good-paying job if OP needs more money.

No, my pre-marriage assets would be protected. My during marriage earnings would be equally his because his managing the home front would allow me to keep building my company

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm wealthy - if you're willing to be a SAHD who really fully manages all of the domestic work for our combined 5 kids, i'd be down. I've always said what i need in life is an awesome sah wife!

But I'm sure you'd make him sign a prenup. So if things blow up, he'll be really screwed because he won't get child support, obviously, and won't have any assets to his name, and won't have a career? OP needs to get a good-paying job if OP needs more money.

No, my pre-marriage assets would be protected. My during marriage earnings would be equally his because his managing the home front would allow me to keep building my company

Jut be careful: it's cheaper to hire staff to manage your household and split expenses pro-rata incomes than having a man do that for his share of marital assets. It does make sense only if there are joint kids and it's a female that provides a solid home front+works at lower paid job. Men tend to cheat, cut the corners on their household duties etc. I never saw this story ending well for the wife.

In the case of that nice man with 2 kids -he will dump the PP and will go dating younger women once his kids are grown and income not tied up. I would never let a man date me on my borrowed time and money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP- For women who earn over $200K, there are extremely few men who are single and even semi-attractive to date. There is a big difference between earning $350K and dating a PhD professor you met at a conference and dating someone who earns $75K and was on the hunt for a woman with money. I could see you having your feelings hurt about the latter, but not the former.

Thankfully women like that who are attractive themselves are also VERY rare. They are even fewer than the attractive men wanting to date them (who might be making slightly less, but to me 250K or 380K doesn't make a much difference - you still end up a pretty well-off couple). It would be under 10 attractive female profiles in dmv area, and these women with nice photos and lifestyle all date local small celebrities and executives. DC is very small, everyone knows everybody so even with online dating it ends up dating within your own social circle pretty much, max one Linkedin connection away.

I'm one of these women, currently in my 40s. I'm probably a 7 on attraction scale, make close to 400k, and dated exclusively these types of men in fist year post divorce. In fact most "regular" men would avoid me backing off after a few weeks, realizing my lifestyle. Only "execs" would stick as men don't want to date a woman who regularly lunches with her girlfriends at 1789. And execs don't want to date women who want them for money or connections only. In fact, one man I was dating was way above myself on the attraction scale, and more attractive than myself. He had an experience of dating a younger woman with 2 kids who was using him for money. Never again, he said.

[Anonymous]

currently in my 40s. I'm probably a 7 on attraction scale, make close to 400k, and ... most "regular" men would avoid me backing off after a few weeks, realizing my lifestyle ... . ... one man I was dating had an experience of dating a younger woman.

Most attractive men will not court you for weeks nor tolerate your pretentious bragging about Clyde's 1789 restaurant. These men will just stack a bunch young women on Tinder dates and then "back off" you, and onto those young women. It sounds like your juice is not worth the squeeze.

[Anonymous]

OP, you’re late in the game. If you were still in your 20s, you would have a better chance. This is the same deal with divorce age 40 women, who are also in competition with 20yr old hotties.

[Anonymous]

I think your best bet would be to find an older never married woman. Any high earning woman who has already divorced or been widowed will probably just use you as a boyfriend. I had a family member who basically did this. Got divorced from some horrible professional athlete who cheated all the time and then had some boyfriend for like over a decade. He really loved her too and nursed her through cancer which ultimately caused her death and she barely left him anything! I was shocked she didn’t at least leave him with a life estate in her house. She left everything to her (1) son who is a plastic surgeon so isn’t hurting for money and (2) party girl daughter.

[Anonymous]

My DH out earns me, but I have more wealth (ie inherited). I also do more of the domestic and mental labor. He pitches in, but he goes to bed at 10:30 each night while up up to midnight to keep things going. I think if the OP also took over the mental / labor load in a relationship that could be a fair dynamic. But good luck finding a woman who would trust that she could *just* work while the OP took on the rest.

By that way, my DH actually does a lot of doctors’ appointments and bedtimes and soccer games. It’s just that there’s still so much to do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Why would a wealthy single woman want to deal with a broke man or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate women.

Why would a wealthy single man want to deal with a broke woman or 2 kids? Those are deal breakers for all but the poorest and most desperate men.

But weirdly women like this can find wealthy guys. Men will put up with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP- For women who earn over $200K, there are extremely few men who are single and even semi-attractive to date. There is a big difference between earning $350K and dating a PhD professor you met at a conference and dating someone who earns $75K and was on the hunt for a woman with money. I could see you having your feelings hurt about the latter, but not the former.

Thankfully women like that who are attractive themselves are also VERY rare. They are even fewer than the attractive men wanting to date them (who might be making slightly less, but to me 250K or 380K doesn't make a much difference - you still end up a pretty well-off couple). It would be under 10 attractive female profiles in dmv area, and these women with nice photos and lifestyle all date local small celebrities and executives. DC is very small, everyone knows everybody so even with online dating it ends up dating within your own social circle pretty much, max one Linkedin connection away.

I'm one of these women, currently in my 40s. I'm probably a 7 on attraction scale, make close to 400k, and dated exclusively these types of men in fist year post divorce. In fact most "regular" men would avoid me backing off after a few weeks, realizing my lifestyle. Only "execs" would stick as men don't want to date a woman who regularly lunches with her girlfriends at 1789. And execs don't want to date women who want them for money or connections only. In fact, one man I was dating was way above myself on the attraction scale, and more attractive than myself. He had an experience of dating a younger woman with 2 kids who was using him for money. Never again, he said.

I make $550-750 and at no point did I think he was taking about me.
$400 in todays world is peanuts. Assume he wants $10-15m+ net worth (maybe you also have this)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your best bet would be to find an older never married woman. Any high earning woman who has already divorced or been widowed will probably just use you as a boyfriend. I had a family member who basically did this. Got divorced from some horrible professional athlete who cheated all the time and then had some boyfriend for like over a decade. He really loved her too and nursed her through cancer which ultimately caused her death and she barely left him anything! I was shocked she didn’t at least leave him with a life estate in her house. She left everything to her (1) son who is a plastic surgeon so isn’t hurting for money and (2) party girl daughter.

This happens all the time to caretakers who aren’t married. If he/she won’t marry you, don’t do their caretaking. They are using you.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 50yo divorced mom who makes $240K and has $3M NW and I thought I was doing okay until this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 50yo divorced mom who makes $240K and has $3M NW and I thought I was doing okay until this thread.

You should be making twice from what you stated if your assets are well-managed