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Anonymous
There are gay Catholics. There have always been gay Catholics. And gays of other faiths. Fundamentalists don't own religion, nor do progressives get to define a religion. |
Anonymous
| My kids went to Catholic school for two years. One of the many reasons we pulled them out and moved them to an independent school was the homophobia among their peers. I didn’t want them thinking that type of thinking was normal. I can’t speak to Landon, but any Catholic school would be a hard pass. |
Anonymous
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This would be a helpful if non-Catholics and others with no personal knowledge or connection to Gonzaga or Prep would kindly stay away. Their prejudices are obvious, completely irrelevant and unhelpful. They wouldn’t send their own kids to these schools if their kid was the friggin’ Pope.
One of the most frustrating things about this website is that there are so many non-catholic Catholic bashers who seem to glob on to any thread having anything to do with the Catholic faith, religion, traditions, or schools, just to start talking trash. It’s so odd. |
Anonymous
Absolutely not. STA community is very conservative. Lots of Trump families there. Absolutely do not send a kid that is gay there. |
Anonymous
Mr. Gay Dude chiming in again. While my single-sex schools were secular, I know plenty of gays and lesbians who went to Catholic schools and schools of other denominations. Some had a terrible time, some had a fine time, and others loved their time and are loyal alums. I can't obviously speak for all gays and lesbians. But life is more complicated than stereotypes and cliches. And it's also true that what used to be defined as gay/lesbian has morphed into a much bigger and controversial umbrella now called LGBPTWhatever+ (aka Queers+ straight allies with their purple hair and nose piercings) and the latest furore has less to do with some of the letters and more with the newly fashionable letters and identities. There are plenty of gays and lesbians who have disagreements with aspects of this new queer politics and trends and find it amusing/challenging/annoying that the "allies" in their calls for diversity still stubbornly persist in thinking of the whole alphabet as a monolithic bloc with identikit beliefs and life experiences. And I see this mindset on this thread. Only OP and his son knows what's best for them. Visit the schools. The boy will know soon enough whether he feels comfortable or not. |
Anonymous
Plenty of gay men voted for Turnip. Your point is? |
Anonymous
Sure I bet! We are not talking about that. We are talking about boys schools and particularly STA and the Trump supporting families I know at STA would not support or welcome a gay boy socially. It would be isolating. |
Anonymous
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OP- call the admissions office and ask them about whether the school
has a gsa (your son doesn’t have to join- it’s just an indicator of school culture) as well as whether your son would be permitted to bring a same-sex date to dances at the school. If you get good responses there then apply but ask a lot of questions along the way and have your son ask as well. There is a difference between not being bullied and being fully accepted and your son deserves a school where he feels fully accepted. |
Anonymous
Cool story. There are definitely gay grads of STA. Last I checked, the ones I know had a good time and valued their education. |
Anonymous
| My gay son turned down STA for Sidwell a couple of years ago and it was the best decision he/we ever made. He is/was hetero “passing” and it would have been an absolutely miserable experience for him had he gone to STA. Ironically, it can be hardest for passing gay males because no one suspects and the subtle and nuanced anti-gay words and actions tend to come out causing your son to keep his true identity hidden for much longer than he should. Sidwell, on the other hand, was ideal; he had a great group of male friends (all straight) and being gay was a total non issue. STA is a terrific school but not a place where a gay boy will thrive IMO. Think very carefully about this decision. |
Anonymous
| Definitely not prep. Maybe Gonzaga, but probably not. You know that the catholic religion teaches that gay people are going to h3ll right? |
Anonymous
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I agree that STA would probably be the best of the boy's schools for a gay kid. There is an element of the "bro" culture (that I imagine might be hard for a gay kid) but nothing like Gonzaga or Prep or Landon. There are a good number of boys in my son's class (50%?) who are just serious kids who are interested in academics, music, politics, etc.
There are Trump administration families but it doesn't mean that their kids are over-the-top a$$holes. They're regular kids--ranging from outgoing to quiet and studious. Some are conservatives themselves and others are liberal. By high school kids are their own people and make their own friends. |
Anonymous
By high school parents have about ZERO influence in who their kids are friends with. It's really a non-event. I say this as a quiet fed who has pretty much nothing in common with the fancy families at my kid's school but whose charismatic kid is invited to anything and everything by the popular crowd: parties, dances, dinners out, ball games, trips, vacations etc. |
Anonymous
No one said anything about the Trump administration families. They actually tend to be more under the radar. The vocal pro Trump families I am referring to do not work in the administration and their kids and they are outwardly against many things including being gay. |
Anonymous
LOL I'm sure he'll be very happy there 
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