All Boys School For Gay Son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

This is OP. STA is exceptionally hard to get into. My son is a strong student (straight-A's) but he's not type-A and doesn't want a pressure cooker academic environment.

STA is not as much of a pressure cooker as NCS. I don’t think it’s significantly worse than Landon. It is more competitive to get into, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

Great point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have to have an environment where no one notices or no one cares, neither of these three schools would meet your son’s needs.

Large proportions of the families that send their sons to these schools are socially conservative.

I would agree. Landon, Gonzaga and Prep are quite conservative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay man who went to all boys schools back in the 1990s. Answer is it depends on kid's personality.

Some gay boys need to be flamboyant and are destined to become the next Queer for Palestine activist. Others are laid back and don't need their sexuality to be their identity. The latter will likely be fine and happy enough in an all boys environment.

I am not gay but went to an all boy catholic school very similar to GZ... I agree with the above, if he is flamboyant it's a no-go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a gay son, and he's interested in attending Gonzaga, Georgetown Prep, and Landon. Although he's gay, he reads as masculine and most people wouldn't really suspect him to be gay. I am worried about how he will be treated at an all-boys school, because they are stereotyped as being homophobic.

Would it be wise to consider attending one of these schools, or should we look for a more progressive environment?

Most all boys schools believe the benefit of all male education comes in part because it does not have the distractions that might occur in a coed setting. You will find it in their promotional material. You can infer what that means about their world view.

[Anonymous]

He won't get in to Prep. The admin interview team has flawless gay-dar. Gonzaga would be fine. 50/50 on Landon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a gay son, and he's interested in attending Gonzaga, Georgetown Prep, and Landon. Although he's gay, he reads as masculine and most people wouldn't really suspect him to be gay. I am worried about how he will be treated at an all-boys school, because they are stereotyped as being homophobic.

Would it be wise to consider attending one of these schools, or should we look for a more progressive environment?

Most all boys schools believe the benefit of all male education comes in part because it does not have the distractions that might occur in a coed setting. You will find it in their promotional material. You can infer what that means about their world view.

I'm amused by your fears. It wasn't difficult for me to attend an all boys school as a gay boy and teen. I wasn't interested in my classmates nor did I develop crushes on them. Because they weren't gay, you know? Where's the attraction? Might as well be attracted to a totem pole. Speaking of which, I definitely had less sex than many of the boys did with girls from the sister schools in the high school years, which is to say none whatsoever. Not a bad way of keeping a gay teen a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

so much this!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

so much this!!!!!!

+1. We wonder the same about gay couples who send their DC to Catholic schools. At our school one of the moms was upset she couldn’t join the Father’s Club. It was really awkward and odd. Why would you pay $20k to a school that does not recognize your marriage and be surrounded by other families who don’t either? Seems like a horrible position to put your kid in during a challenging time in their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

so much this!!!!!!

+1. We wonder the same about gay couples who send their DC to Catholic schools. At our school one of the moms was upset she couldn’t join the Father’s Club. It was really awkward and odd. Why would you pay $20k to a school that does not recognize your marriage and be surrounded by other families who don’t either? Seems like a horrible position to put your kid in during a challenging time in their life.

That's odd

St John's mother's club allows men.

[Anonymous]

There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

This flies in the face of what I know about the many Gonzaga families (alums, students, etc) and their quite conservative, traditional outlooks and attitudes. The priests may be more open minded. Much of the surrounding “community” is not.

[Anonymous]

No way OP. Boys are bullies when together and will torture him in the locker room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't get in to Prep. The admin interview team has flawless gay-dar. Gonzaga would be fine. 50/50 on Landon.

The Prep staff may be reacting to the fallout from a wrenching experience several years ago. No one there wants to go throughout something like that again and the Admissions staff knows this.

[Anonymous]

Why would you send your son to a religious school? Do you understand Catholic beliefs?