All Boys School For Gay Son?

[Anonymous]

No. It's one thing to send your son without knowing, and then to have him come out while attending such a school.

It's quite another to send him there knowingly.

This. The latter is a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might work out. My nephew is gay and looking at an all boys school as well. He feels like there is less pressure re: popularity with girls, etc. and dating if there are just no girls there. He also does not read as gay - very masculine, plays football, loves sports, etc.

so.. he's in the closet?

[Anonymous]

If you have to have an environment where no one notices or no one cares, neither of these three schools would meet your son’s needs.

Large proportions of the families that send their sons to these schools are socially conservative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might work out. My nephew is gay and looking at an all boys school as well. He feels like there is less pressure re: popularity with girls, etc. and dating if there are just no girls there. He also does not read as gay - very masculine, plays football, loves sports, etc.

Umm...It's actually the opposite. If he's not comfortable coming out yet, he can blend in at a coed school.

[Anonymous]

You do realize the only reason a gay student wants more of his gender is because he has a certain image in his mind of what that entails?

If the student wanted to blend in, co-ed offers a whole lot more camouflage.

So no, I would not indulge that.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons attended Gonzaga and both have gay friends who were out in HS. It was truly NBD.

Wrong answer. You don’t know what that young man thinks or feels.

Another former Gonzaga mom here. My son had a friend who was gay at GZ. My son is not gay. He and the other guys all were friends and were in the Drama Club. The school is very accepting of it and I agree it is not a big deal. He will find his people.

Who wants to tell her?

LOL I was waiting for this response. My son likes women...no doubt in my mind at all lol. He's already graduated from college, so I don't see anything changing either. Nice try though!!

Bad read and also homophobic to assume drama = gay… gander to try another guess?

Never assumed anything. His friend was gay. He knew him from drama. Why do you think I am assuming anything.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

[Anonymous]

The Heights would be a good option to check out

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons attended Gonzaga and both have gay friends who were out in HS. It was truly NBD.

Wrong answer. You don’t know what that young man thinks or feels.

Another former Gonzaga mom here. My son had a friend who was gay at GZ. My son is not gay. He and the other guys all were friends and were in the Drama Club. The school is very accepting of it and I agree it is not a big deal. He will find his people.

Who wants to tell her?

LOL I was waiting for this response. My son likes women...no doubt in my mind at all lol. He's already graduated from college, so I don't see anything changing either. Nice try though!!

Bad read and also homophobic to assume drama = gay… gander to try another guess?

Never assumed anything. His friend was gay. He knew him from drama. Why do you think I am assuming anything.

Nice deflection.

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Anonymous wrote:The Heights would be a good option to check out

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons attended Gonzaga and both have gay friends who were out in HS. It was truly NBD.

Wrong answer. You don’t know what that young man thinks or feels.

Another former Gonzaga mom here. My son had a friend who was gay at GZ. My son is not gay. He and the other guys all were friends and were in the Drama Club. The school is very accepting of it and I agree it is not a big deal. He will find his people.

Who wants to tell her?

LOL !!! Nearly fell off of my chair laughing so hard .

[Anonymous]

My son went to a shadow day at Gonzaga (does not attend so very small window of observation) and he said that the boys were all dropping the f-slur non stop. Not sure which kids, if they were otherwise nice, or how ill meaning the word was meant. But it was evidently a pretty normal word to be thrown around.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

Gay man who went to all boys schools back in the 1990s. Answer is it depends on kid's personality.

Some gay boys need to be flamboyant and are destined to become the next Queer for Palestine activist. Others are laid back and don't need their sexuality to be their identity. The latter will likely be fine and happy enough in an all boys environment.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

This is OP. STA is exceptionally hard to get into. My son is a strong student (straight-A's) but he's not type-A and doesn't want a pressure cooker academic environment.