All Boys School For Gay Son?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

Absolutely not. STA community is very conservative. Lots of Trump families there. Absolutely do not send a kid that is gay there.

Plenty of gay men voted for Turnip. Your point is?

Sure I bet! We are not talking about that. We are talking about boys schools and particularly STA and the Trump supporting families I know at STA would not support or welcome a gay boy socially. It would be isolating.

Cool story. There are definitely gay grads of STA. Last I checked, the ones I know had a good time and valued their education.

The ones that did okay came out after being at the school for years. They were already friends with the boys.

Coming to the school as a new student being openly gay nope.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

Absolutely not. STA community is very conservative. Lots of Trump families there. Absolutely do not send a kid that is gay there.

Plenty of gay men voted for Turnip. Your point is?

Sure I bet! We are not talking about that. We are talking about boys schools and particularly STA and the Trump supporting families I know at STA would not support or welcome a gay boy socially. It would be isolating.

Cool story. There are definitely gay grads of STA. Last I checked, the ones I know had a good time and valued their education.

The ones that did okay came out after being at the school for years. They were already friends with the boys.

Coming to the school as a new student being openly gay nope.

More projections, eh?

I'll repeat what I said earlier. Only OP and his son will know. Visit the schools and let instinct guide them. The fit will involve a lot more than just sexuality. The last thing OP should do is to listen to a bunch of "allies" with their cliché views and prejudices.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

Absolutely not. STA community is very conservative. Lots of Trump families there. Absolutely do not send a kid that is gay there.

Plenty of gay men voted for Turnip. Your point is?

Sure I bet! We are not talking about that. We are talking about boys schools and particularly STA and the Trump supporting families I know at STA would not support or welcome a gay boy socially. It would be isolating.

Cool story. There are definitely gay grads of STA. Last I checked, the ones I know had a good time and valued their education.

The ones that did okay came out after being at the school for years. They were already friends with the boys.

Coming to the school as a new student being openly gay nope.

More projections, eh?

I'll repeat what I said earlier. Only OP and his son will know. Visit the schools and let instinct guide them. The fit will involve a lot more than just sexuality. The last thing OP should do is to listen to a bunch of "allies" with their cliché views and prejudices.

Nope. Trying to give honest advice to op based on facts. She can either take the advice or not.

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Anonymous wrote:I genuinely don’t think it would be an issue at Gonzaga. Maybe I’m naive and maybe my boys aren’t cool enough to know the kids who would bully a kid for being gay. But there are rainbow ally stickers around and I think the administration would not condone homophonic behavior. My boys have had at least one openly gay teacher.

This is fabulous to hear.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to have an environment where no one notices or no one cares, neither of these three schools would meet your son’s needs.

Large proportions of the families that send their sons to these schools are socially conservative.

Right…you mean socially conservative like Dick Cheney, right? Point is, more and more people of all political persuasions have someone in their family who is LGBTQ? and they love them and want the best for them.

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^^also the school taught things like masturbation is a sin, but don't have sex, too.

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Anonymous wrote:If you have to have an environment where no one notices or no one cares, neither of these three schools would meet your son’s needs.

Large proportions of the families that send their sons to these schools are socially conservative.

Right…you mean socially conservative like Dick Cheney, right? Point is, more and more people of all political persuasions have someone in their family who is LGBTQ? and they love them and want the best for them.

Not to mention the formerly married Catholic men who come out after having kids. I know a few and guess what? All their kids (who are straight) attend or attended Catholic schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you or your son want to send him to a school that generally believes that his sexual orientation is a fast track to eternal damnation? I understand that there are some marginally more accepting leaders than before in the Church, but the orthodoxy still is intolerant.

I’m not Catholic so I can accept whatever criticism anyone wants to levy…but I’d like to think that if I subscribed to a religion that was in direct conflict with my kid’s identity, I’d throw it overboard in support of my child.

Even if you are politically conservative or moderate, why not suggest that he go somewhere that he can be as open as chooses to be or not be. I’m not suggesting that he needs to decide today how “out” he is, but there’s no way to gauge how he will feel next year or three years from now. Sending him to Georgetown Prep feels to me like a prayer for repression.

Right. Stick with you’re not Catholic. There is a big difference between the official line of the worldwide church and what happens in local institutions. You would be surprised; read what people are posting.

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Anonymous wrote:The Heights would be a good option to check out

FU, I assume this is a joke since this is the most conservative Catholic school around.

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Anonymous wrote:There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

Truthfully, with OP's description of her son, I think he would feel more comfortable at Gonzaga than GDS. GZ is very accepting. There is a unity club and several openly gay, married teachers. The Pride flag is displayed. Jesuits are on the liberal side.

People have a stereotype of what they think all gay men are like. They are very different- just like the general population. Some tend to be more conservative than others--in dress, in views, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

This flies in the face of what I know about the many Gonzaga families (alums, students, etc) and their quite conservative, traditional outlooks and attitudes. The priests may be more open minded. Much of the surrounding “community” is not.

This is the world we live in. Let the kid go to a shadow day and decide for himself. My son is at arch-rival St. John’s and my understanding is there are gay kids there and it is NBD for the students. I don’t think the admin is quite as open; it sounds like Gonzaga may be better, but check both out, OP! Good luck to you.

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Anonymous wrote:There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

Truthfully, with OP's description of her son, I think he would feel more comfortable at Gonzaga than GDS. GZ is very accepting. There is a unity club and several openly gay, married teachers. The Pride flag is displayed. Jesuits are on the liberal side.

People have a stereotype of what they think all gay men are like. They are very different- just like the general population. Some tend to be more conservative than others--in dress, in views, etc.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:This would be a helpful if non-Catholics and others with no personal knowledge or connection to Gonzaga or Prep would kindly stay away. Their prejudices are obvious, completely irrelevant and unhelpful. They wouldn’t send their own kids to these schools if their kid was the friggin’ Pope.

One of the most frustrating things about this website is that there are so many non-catholic Catholic bashers who seem to glob on to any thread having anything to do with the Catholic faith, religion, traditions, or schools, just to start talking trash. It’s so odd.

+1 I am not Catholic, but Episcopalian. I sent both my kids to Catholic HS at their request and I have learned a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I’d suggest STA over any of the schools you mentioned.

Absolutely not. STA community is very conservative. Lots of Trump families there. Absolutely do not send a kid that is gay there.

Plenty of gay men voted for Turnip. Your point is?

Sure I bet! We are not talking about that. We are talking about boys schools and particularly STA and the Trump supporting families I know at STA would not support or welcome a gay boy socially. It would be isolating.

Again, this is life. I know plenty of progressives at STA. We need more mixing of people with different outlooks. You may just learn tolerance!

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Anonymous wrote:There are definitely gay boys at Gonzaga. There are also openly gay, married teachers (my son has 2 this year). Pride flags in many classrooms. Would I send my son to Gonzaga if he was out in 8th grade? Probably not. We would go public or GDS or something. However, Gonzaga is pretty liberal. I think non-Catholics would be surprised how accepting Jesuits schools can be.

pps lumping Gonzaga in as a generic "catholic" unwelcoming culture do not know Gonzaga. I have a recent grad and current boy at Gonzaga. Besides openly gay teachers, men and women, some married, there are staff children who are gay and many other gay boys and clubs, etc.