How often are you having sex lately?

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Anonymous wrote:A lot right now. This is the first year all of the kids are in school, so the house is empty during the day. I don’t know that the actual number of times is more, but we are having multi hour sexy day-dates, which is a lot of fun.
We are 42/44. Married for 17 years.

You don’t work while they’re in school?

NP who also has sex when the kids are at school. We both also work, but we make time for "dates"... honestly it's probably 30 minutes which still feels a lot more involved than a typical sleepy quickie, and it's extremely easy to find 30 minutes of free time in a WFH day.

Multiple "Multi-hour" day dates seems like a lot !

30 minutes during lunch makes sense. But the PP specifically said "multi hour sexy day-dates." That's not lunch.

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Early 40s, married 17 yrs, 3 kids. 1-2x week. DH would like daily, but I just can’t.

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43M, married 15+years, and not since July. Every time we have sex, I think to myself that it might be the last time we ever do since my wife's interest is so low and our relationship isn't great any more.

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37 and 40, I work three nights a week so usually 2 of the nights i'm home plus the day he works from home at lunch time. Together 14 years. We definitely make appointments beforehand ("I'll be home Friday and I miss you") ...
My friends all seem to think this is a lot but of course the DCUM crowd is doing it every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:37 and 40, I work three nights a week so usually 2 of the nights i'm home plus the day he works from home at lunch time. Together 14 years. We definitely make appointments beforehand ("I'll be home Friday and I miss you") ...
My friends all seem to think this is a lot but of course the DCUM crowd is doing it every day.

The people answering this thread are a self-selecting group. Probably a lot of 1x per week or 1x per month people look at this thread and don’t bother responding.

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50, married for 25 years....what's sex?

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Lately? None! My DH left Sunday and won’t be back until Thursday. I’ll check back on Friday.

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Not at all, divorced (7 years), and loving it

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While I was in a 20+ year marriage, it had declined to 3-4 times per year.

Now that I am in a post-divorce LTR, 1 or 2 times per week.

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I'm 48, DH is 55, haven't had sex in months. I want it more than he does I think but at this point we are in a dry zone. Marriage is great otherwise, I wonder if he has some health issues like ED that he doesn't want to share. He just doesn't seem interested.

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58, been together 35 years. We went from 2x a week to 1x a week. I miss the closeness. And I worry that we are aging.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:45, married 15 years. Like 1–2x/mo lately. It sucks. He doesn’t seem to want it much and when he initiates it’s tepid AF. And though my drive is naturally high, it’s just dead within the confines of long-term monogamy (and his extra weight tbh). I’m unhappy.

This was my story, and now I’m getting divorced. It’s been a year.

It feels awful.

Is this the driving reason for the divorce?

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Not as often as I'd like to, but more often than I want to. I'm just not sexually attracted to my husband any more - and he's good, makes sure I come first most of the time, we've got it down. But I'm really just not interested. So, I try for 1x/week, but I know some weeks slip (especially when I have my period). I don't have to turn him down though, he doesn't reach out for sex often.
No way would I be down for multi-hour sexy day date time.
53, married 25 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:58, been together 35 years. We went from 2x a week to 1x a week. I miss the closeness. And I worry that we are aging.

That’s not bad at 58. We are older and we are at once a week, sometimes twice. I’m happy that we are both very “enthusiastic” so the one time is always very good. So think about quality versus quantity.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot right now. This is the first year all of the kids are in school, so the house is empty during the day. I don’t know that the actual number of times is more, but we are having multi hour sexy day-dates, which is a lot of fun.
We are 42/44. Married for 17 years.

You don’t work while they’re in school?

NP who also has sex when the kids are at school. We both also work, but we make time for "dates"... honestly it's probably 30 minutes which still feels a lot more involved than a typical sleepy quickie, and it's extremely easy to find 30 minutes of free time in a WFH day.

Multiple "Multi-hour" day dates seems like a lot !

30 minutes during lunch makes sense. But the PP specifically said "multi hour sexy day-dates." That's not lunch.

Pp who said that. DH and I have non-traditional work schedules. We both work in person. Sometimes we work evenings, weekends, and overnights, and sometimes we are both off during the school day.