Another one - what’s wrong with my MIL??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And it affects you how? Leave her alone and focus on your life, which must not be that great if you're picking hers apart.

+10000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And it affects you how? Leave her alone and focus on your life, which must not be that great if you're picking hers apart.

+1 Also, shouldn’t we all think we’re incredible?! I guess I’m at the age where I’m tired of hating myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:What's with your video op? Are you calling her a donkey or a mule?

This is the new ad placement on DCUM. Not part of the OP. You'll notice it on all posts.

LOL! I love that someone thought OP did that. If only! That's hilarious.

In my defense.... OP was very whiney, like a mule!

[Anonymous]

Start with what she did to you. Then we can rag on her.

[Anonymous]

She’s anxious and immature. There’s some arrested development there. She might not have NPD, but she is narcissistic. But she is who she is, and she’s not going to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, let’s suspend my role in any issues here. Tell me what you think rbis is or if I’m looking for a fight. The woman is just odd and I can’t put my finger on it. She is obsessed with looking young, yet is chubby. She gets Botox, filler, lip injections, lasers, has designer clothes and bags I would never get - $7k style - on a low income. She’s obsessed with health, her own. She spends hours every day figuring out what to eat, drinking water and supplements, making Keri/paleo/whatever the hell meals. She talks about it constantly. She has to assign blame to anyone that has a health issue and figure out “why”. She is incredibly codependent on her husband. She can’t go anywhere without him, he does all the chores, cooks, etc. She leaves the house really rarely. She’s got intense anxiety. She’s also on top of all this competitive and very self congratulatory. She thinks she is simply incredible. This is not insecurity. She really does. She is also always trying to get stuff for free - like at restaurants etc., returning stuff she’s worn.

Any thoughts? I am simply puzzled.

Her problem is you. You sound like a horrible piece of shit human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She makes it all of our business by endlessly talking about it, making sure we work around it, have her food ready when she comes, only has that food when we visit, etc. She is also making it my business by spending a fortune on it and then asking for $. Trust me, I want zero to do with it.

You're only making it your business by "working around it" (your words), catering to what sounds like an unreasonably long list of food requests (a few is acceptable for a guest), and engaging on any level with requests for money outside of a firm or polite "no." It need not be your business that she spends a lot of money on things unless you agree to help with $$. Not your problem.

Be polite but don't engage. If you need to go low-contact, do that too. You're letting this occupy far too much head space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, let’s suspend my role in any issues here. Tell me what you think rbis is or if I’m looking for a fight. The woman is just odd and I can’t put my finger on it. She is obsessed with looking young, yet is chubby. She gets Botox, filler, lip injections, lasers, has designer clothes and bags I would never get - $7k style - on a low income. She’s obsessed with health, her own. She spends hours every day figuring out what to eat, drinking water and supplements, making Keri/paleo/whatever the hell meals. She talks about it constantly. She has to assign blame to anyone that has a health issue and figure out “why”. She is incredibly codependent on her husband. She can’t go anywhere without him, he does all the chores, cooks, etc. She leaves the house really rarely. She’s got intense anxiety. She’s also on top of all this competitive and very self congratulatory. She thinks she is simply incredible. This is not insecurity. She really does. She is also always trying to get stuff for free - like at restaurants etc., returning stuff she’s worn.

Any thoughts? I am simply puzzled.

How are her choices harming you? Mind your own business and thke care of the plank in your own eye.