Another one - what’s wrong with my MIL??

[Anonymous]

Okay, let’s suspend my role in any issues here. Tell me what you think rbis is or if I’m looking for a fight. The woman is just odd and I can’t put my finger on it. She is obsessed with looking young, yet is chubby. She gets Botox, filler, lip injections, lasers, has designer clothes and bags I would never get - $7k style - on a low income. She’s obsessed with health, her own. She spends hours every day figuring out what to eat, drinking water and supplements, making Keri/paleo/whatever the hell meals. She talks about it constantly. She has to assign blame to anyone that has a health issue and figure out “why”. She is incredibly codependent on her husband. She can’t go anywhere without him, he does all the chores, cooks, etc. She leaves the house really rarely. She’s got intense anxiety. She’s also on top of all this competitive and very self congratulatory. She thinks she is simply incredible. This is not insecurity. She really does. She is also always trying to get stuff for free - like at restaurants etc., returning stuff she’s worn.

Any thoughts? I am simply puzzled.

[Anonymous]

She's an old lady. Stop being so judgmental. Maybe the issue is you? Love her for who she is, not who you want her to be.

[Anonymous]

No, it is actually anxiety, OP. It's ALL anxiety. This reads like a list of anxious behaviors, even the fake confidence and projecting blame on others' health issues, because she knows something isn't quite right with her.

Leave her alone. I doubt she'd seek medication and therapy at her age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's an old lady. Stop being so judgmental. Maybe the issue is you? Love her for who she is, not who you want her to be.

Well, she’s 67.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's an old lady. Stop being so judgmental. Maybe the issue is you? Love her for who she is, not who you want her to be.

Well, she’s 67.

OK, and?

[Anonymous]

She is missing a greater purpose in life and feels the need to reassure herself that she matters.

[Anonymous]

All I get out of this is that you think chubby people don't look young.

[Anonymous]

Thoughts, meaning what? She is who she is, she does what she does. Say hi and goodbye and be nice and leave it at that.

What, you want us to gossip and speculate and pick over her every flaw with you? Sorry, that doesn’t sound fun. A hobby might be fun for you; get one.

[Anonymous]

What’s the question??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, let’s suspend my role in any issues here. Tell me what you think rbis is or if I’m looking for a fight. The woman is just odd and I can’t put my finger on it. She is obsessed with looking young, yet is chubby. She gets Botox, filler, lip injections, lasers, has designer clothes and bags I would never get - $7k style - on a low income. She’s obsessed with health, her own. She spends hours every day figuring out what to eat, drinking water and supplements, making Keri/paleo/whatever the hell meals. She talks about it constantly. She has to assign blame to anyone that has a health issue and figure out “why”. She is incredibly codependent on her husband. She can’t go anywhere without him, he does all the chores, cooks, etc. She leaves the house really rarely. She’s got intense anxiety. She’s also on top of all this competitive and very self congratulatory. She thinks she is simply incredible. This is not insecurity. She really does. She is also always trying to get stuff for free - like at restaurants etc., returning stuff she’s worn.

Any thoughts? I am simply puzzled.

What exactly would you “fight” her over? That’s the most puzzling part of this post.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to “ fight” her for being who she is or having anxiety issue ?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think any of this needs to impact you. Just go gray rock and don’t engage on the oddness.

The only part of your post that is potentially concerning is if she is overspending and your husband (their own kid) is worried about their financial sustainability. If so, he could have a conversation (without you there!) about how he is worried about their retirement and that he’s happy to help do some financial planning with them.

[Anonymous]

Stop judging her OP. Let her live her life. None of the things you point out impact you in any way. So yes, it’s you.

[Anonymous]

She’s cray cray.

[Anonymous]

And it affects you how? Leave her alone and focus on your life, which must not be that great if you're picking hers apart.