Bride wants black tie, women wear white but nothing “bridal”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I refuse to spend money on a dress I won't wear again because brides think it's okay to tell guests what color to wear. I think OP's dress is fine. If you ask for formal, white, and "not bridal," you're an idiot who deserves what you get, really, but the dress comes as close to satisfying the "requirements" as anything.

Plus OP says she looks great in it.

But, this may be the stupidest dress code ever.

My plan was to do a rent the runway for a white gown if the one I own isn’t right for the wedding. I like the suggestions ingot here!

Thanks everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP pay your tax.

Tell us more about crazy stuff this Bridezilla does.

Hahah!

Bride isn’t too bad. Only things that are somewhat annoying (besides the dress code):

She has a lot of pricey (over $1000) items on her registries.

The couple is having a weekend long wedding with no kids allowed on the premises at all. So several people are having to pay to stay at the venue and also pay for a sitter/relative to stay with the kids at home or in a hotel near by. Some have opted to just stay in the other hotel the whole weekend and go back and forth to the venue but the people in the wedding party can’t do that.

They are asking that everyone eat all meals together for the whole weekend. Which again, for those with kids staying off premises, is a lot to juggle.

Yeah, all of that is BS. Bet they aren't paying for all those meals they are expecting people to attend, either. A weekend long wedding is nonsense to begin with.

[Anonymous]

This bride sounds like a lot. A LOT.

[Anonymous]

That bride is terrible.

Spend the delress plus travel plus babysitting money on a fabulous long weekend fo you and partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I refuse to spend money on a dress I won't wear again because brides think it's okay to tell guests what color to wear. I think OP's dress is fine. If you ask for formal, white, and "not bridal," you're an idiot who deserves what you get, really, but the dress comes as close to satisfying the "requirements" as anything.

Plus OP says she looks great in it.

But, this may be the stupidest dress code ever.

My plan was to do a rent the runway for a white gown if the one I own isn’t right for the wedding. I like the suggestions ingot here!

Thanks everyone!

The don't seem to have much. Maybe this: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/hah/white_reversible_take_a_bow_dress

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear that dress. It strikes me as 1) too bridal, and 2) closer to white tie than black tie. I'd wear something more like one of these:

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/chiara-boni-la-petite-robe-glenaly-flower-applique-dress-100-exclusive?ID=3460598&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/likely-cameron-dress?ID=4481482&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/eliza-j-illusion-neck-dress?ID=4721721&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/galvan-salina-dress?ID=4299223&CategoryID=1005210

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/aqua-rhinestone-embellished-strapless-crepe-midi-dress-100-exclusive?ID=4686900&CategoryID=1005210

The all-white wedding is a trend, it seems. https://www.theknot.com/content/white-wedding-party-attire

With that in mind, I think these look great. They're simpler than the dress you have, OP. Only the third looks bridal imo.

And if you can rock the dress that you posted, OP, pretty sure you're going to also look great in something similar to these that pp posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I refuse to spend money on a dress I won't wear again because brides think it's okay to tell guests what color to wear. I think OP's dress is fine. If you ask for formal, white, and "not bridal," you're an idiot who deserves what you get, really, but the dress comes as close to satisfying the "requirements" as anything.

Plus OP says she looks great in it.

But, this may be the stupidest dress code ever.

My plan was to do a rent the runway for a white gown if the one I own isn’t right for the wedding. I like the suggestions ingot here!

Thanks everyone!

The don't seem to have much. Maybe this: https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/hah/white_reversible_take_a_bow_dress

No to this. Pretty but very bridal!

[Anonymous]

I’d just RSVP no. Don’t reward insane demands by acquiescing to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP pay your tax.

Tell us more about crazy stuff this Bridezilla does.

Hahah!

Bride isn’t too bad. Only things that are somewhat annoying (besides the dress code):

She has a lot of pricey (over $1000) items on her registries.

The couple is having a weekend long wedding with no kids allowed on the premises at all. So several people are having to pay to stay at the venue and also pay for a sitter/relative to stay with the kids at home or in a hotel near by. Some have opted to just stay in the other hotel the whole weekend and go back and forth to the venue but the people in the wedding party can’t do that.

They are asking that everyone eat all meals together for the whole weekend. Which again, for those with kids staying off premises, is a lot to juggle.

This is insane. I hope you really like this person, because otherwise all of this would be a hard no from me. And any money I have to spend on your stupid wedding add-ons would be deducted from the amount I spend on your gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear that dress. It strikes me as 1) too bridal, and 2) closer to white tie than black tie. I'd wear something more like one of these:

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/chiara-boni-la-petite-robe-glenaly-flower-applique-dress-100-exclusive?ID=3460598&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/likely-cameron-dress?ID=4481482&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/eliza-j-illusion-neck-dress?ID=4721721&CategoryID=1005206

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/galvan-salina-dress?ID=4299223&CategoryID=1005210

https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/aqua-rhinestone-embellished-strapless-crepe-midi-dress-100-exclusive?ID=4686900&CategoryID=1005210

The all-white wedding is a trend, it seems. https://www.theknot.com/content/white-wedding-party-attire

With that in mind, I think these look great. They're simpler than the dress you have, OP. Only the third looks bridal imo.

And if you can rock the dress that you posted, OP, pretty sure you're going to also look great in something similar to these that pp posted.

This is the dumbest trend ever. Not the all white trend specifically, but the general trend of dictating what color everyone should wear to your wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I’m getting set up regardless of what I pick in this situation. You all have helped me before and I’m hoping you can do it again. As usual I’m starting with dresses I already own. I have this at home and it’s been tailored to fit my body and look pretty dang awesome!


https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/Mac-Duggal-One-Shoulder-Jersey-Ruched-Side-Slit-Gown-0400013522201.html?dwvar_0400013522201_size=16&dwvar_0400013522201_color=WHITE&site_refer=CSE_GGLPLA:Womens_Dresses:Mac+Duggal&country=US¤cy=USD&CSE_CID=G_Saks_PLA_US_Women%27s+Apparel_Dresses_High+LTV:All+Dresses&gbraid=0AAAAADO6JtTmfKka_6y7nIGePeMLN1pCG&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzbDLu6TkgAMVk87ICh0yxge1EAQYBCABEgLSs_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

I think this is super bridal.

I’d do something like this with fancy jewelry and some great heels.

https://www.thereformation.com/products/besse-dress/1310067IVO.html?glCountry=US&glCurrency=USD&gclid=Cj0KCQjw0IGnBhDUARIsAMwFDLk5xw4Hr-_xbS8xLQbwb9weZ-6WVMckGxxtQD34nDYAMhnN_lvgqPgaApxPEALw_wcB

[Anonymous]

Maybe the bride isn’t wearing a white dress and wants to stick out from the crowd?

I would wear that dress- sounds like you feel confident wearing it and it’s lovely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like I’m getting set up regardless of what I pick in this situation. You all have helped me before and I’m hoping you can do it again. As usual I’m starting with dresses I already own. I have this at home and it’s been tailored to fit my body and look pretty dang awesome!


https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/product/Mac-Duggal-One-Shoulder-Jersey-Ruched-Side-Slit-Gown-0400013522201.html?dwvar_0400013522201_size=16&dwvar_0400013522201_color=WHITE&site_refer=CSE_GGLPLA:Womens_Dresses:Mac+Duggal&country=US¤cy=USD&CSE_CID=G_Saks_PLA_US_Women%27s+Apparel_Dresses_High+LTV:All+Dresses&gbraid=0AAAAADO6JtTmfKka_6y7nIGePeMLN1pCG&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzbDLu6TkgAMVk87ICh0yxge1EAQYBCABEgLSs_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

I think this is super bridal.

I’d do something like this with fancy jewelry and some great heels.

https://www.thereformation.com/products/besse-dress/1310067IVO.html?glCountry=US&glCurrency=USD&gclid=Cj0KCQjw0IGnBhDUARIsAMwFDLk5xw4Hr-_xbS8xLQbwb9weZ-6WVMckGxxtQD34nDYAMhnN_lvgqPgaApxPEALw_wcB

Or this https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/draped-high-neck-shell-midi-dress-53182819?seq=01&cmp=SOC%3AEVG23%3AA%3AD%3AUS%3ACNV%3AFBIG%3ADPA%3AACQ_RNT%3AX%3AX%3AX%3APDP%3Ax%3ADynamicASCBAU&fbclid=PAAabvCa3Bm8UL5-TUDEGOv7AYL5wdup6gYBUh4gc6cVy4S6Tn82vkd4HYC-w_aem_AXpmVpQGHBfcFyCPNAwCcivBxcxQukGyPrnxdmN5aIhoY3wte8s53EQ4mrtWHBtEoC34KTpodupGstXVwLi6Vle1&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=paid&campaign_id=6396992481366&ad_id=6396993093966

[Anonymous]

OP what time of day and what season is the wedding?

[Anonymous]

I agree. Wear the dress you have. Enjoy!