Son/DIL now have a ‘no adjoining room’ policy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t gently suggest anything. They set a boundary and made it clear what works for their family and now you go with the flow. It may not seem like a big deal to you but overtired kids for days on end is a royal pita to deal with and can ruin vacations.

THIS. And I'm usually very pro IL/grandparent time

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MIL, I can’t imagine wanting to be in an adjoining room with my son and DIL and their kids. My spouse and I would prefer to have some privacy, especially in a vacation situation.

How do you manage intimate time together with your spouse with your son, his wife, and their kids right there on the other side of the door? No thanks! My spouse and I would feel very uncomfortable in that situation, and it would affect our ability to enjoy each other. We would greatly prefer separate rooms, on different floors or wings of the hotel, if possible.

You can’t not be intimate (gag me) for a weekend trip?

People can also forgo food and water for a weekend; should they?

You need sex to survive? You should probably get that checked out.

The point is there are many things we can do without for a brief period of time, but why should we?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you get a suite and offer to keep the kids southern can sleep in? Then adjoins rooms aren't a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll

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Unclear why it took so many sentences either.

Nothing difficult with walking down a hallway and knocking Hello.

It’s difficult enough to get hotel or resort rooms in the same building, let alone demand adjoining rooms.

The family is maturing Op. it’s not all about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MIL, I can’t imagine wanting to be in an adjoining room with my son and DIL and their kids. My spouse and I would prefer to have some privacy, especially in a vacation situation.

How do you manage intimate time together with your spouse with your son, his wife, and their kids right there on the other side of the door? No thanks! My spouse and I would feel very uncomfortable in that situation, and it would affect our ability to enjoy each other. We would greatly prefer separate rooms, on different floors or wings of the hotel, if possible.

You can’t not be intimate (gag me) for a weekend trip?

People can also forgo food and water for a weekend; should they?

You need sex to survive? You should probably get that checked out.

The point is there are many things we can do without for a brief period of time, but why should we?

Right. I don’t get why people are freaking out about people in their sixties having sex. If anything, we should be thrilled to hear that our parents are still enjoying sec, because that bodes really well for our own future someday.

[Anonymous]

Please abide by their wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are absolutely making a mistake if you “gently” try to suggest staying with adjoining rooms. [b]Your son has told you what they plan to do (and the story they told you is BS - they’ve been wanting to get out of adjoining rooms with you for a while now).took[/b I’m just surprised it took this long for them to bring it up. No sane/ rationale couple wants to have adjoining rooms with the grandparents.

The only appropriate response is to say, “Of course - I totally understand! Let us know if there is anything we can do in the mornings to help. We’d be delighted to take the kids to breakfast while you and Larla pack up the room.”

This a million times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DIL is clearly a DCUM mom who is self-centered and hates her MIL. She probably logs on here and complains incessantly about you while all the other DCUM mom egg her on.

Don’t expect any support on this website.

It's crazy Mil lady. Hiiiiiiii. Have you found a hobby yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DIL is clearly a DCUM mom who is self-centered and hates her MIL. She probably logs on here and complains incessantly about you while all the other DCUM mom egg her on.

Don’t expect any support on this website.

Yawwwwwwnnnnnnnnnnnn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a MIL, I can’t imagine wanting to be in an adjoining room with my son and DIL and their kids. My spouse and I would prefer to have some privacy, especially in a vacation situation.

How do you manage intimate time together with your spouse with your son, his wife, and their kids right there on the other side of the door? No thanks! My spouse and I would feel very uncomfortable in that situation, and it would affect our ability to enjoy each other. We would greatly prefer separate rooms, on different floors or wings of the hotel, if possible.

You can’t not be intimate (gag me) for a weekend trip?

People can also forgo food and water for a weekend; should they?

Oh dear. You really tried this. Sad. Here’s a sticker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll

+1

Unclear why it took so many sentences either.

Nothing difficult with walking down a hallway and knocking Hello.

It’s difficult enough to get hotel or resort rooms in the same building, let alone demand adjoining rooms.

The family is maturing Op. it’s not all about you.

What is with some of you and the knocking? Never knock or call. Text. Just text! That way if anyone is sleeping, or showering, or in the bathroom, or undressed, you won’t be disturbing. Text!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This took an interesting turn. Is sex Grandma the same person as OP, who wants adjoining rooms? That’s what I want to know.

Obviously not. Sec grandma does not want adjoining rooms, but OP does.

I think both are trolls. But it’s interesting to me that DCUM is ok with parents wanting nonadjoining rooms for privacy/sleep but many are not ok with nonadjoining rooms for grandparents for privacy/sex reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we travel with my son’s family, we usually get adjoining rooms so we can spend more time together, play board games with the kids, etc.


In my mind, this is a big deal because we won’t be able to see them as much and spend as much time together, especially kids. This is a hotel reservation that I usually make, but it is true son pays us back for his share. Now he says he’d rather book his own room anyway to get points.

Any ideas of how to gently suggest things stay the same?

Son/DIL likely want 2 adjoining rooms for themselves and their kids. Or a suite. You get a non-adjoining room, suite, whatever you want. As a GM/MIL my guess is they are trying to gently do that so just be glad you are invited at all. Silly that the couple has paid you back for accomodations where you get the points. It's your son- give him cash to pay for trip and let him get the points.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we travel with my son’s family, we usually get adjoining rooms so we can spend more time together, play board games with the kids, etc.


In my mind, this is a big deal because we won’t be able to see them as much and spend as much time together, especially kids. This is a hotel reservation that I usually make, but it is true son pays us back for his share. Now he says he’d rather book his own room anyway to get points.

Any ideas of how to gently suggest things stay the same?

Son/DIL likely want 2 adjoining rooms for themselves and their kids. Or a suite. You get a non-adjoining room, suite, whatever you want. As a GM/MIL my guess is they are trying to gently do that so just be glad you are invited at all. Silly that the couple has paid you back for accomodations where you get the points. It's your son- give him cash to pay for trip and let him get the points.

Agreed. My FIL used to insist on paying for this or that and getting paid back—and I mean down to the penny, with itemized receipts—until I saw through the ruse and said hey Fred, I’d rather pay our share with my Discover card so we can start getting the cash back bonus that you’ve been enjoying on our dime for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DIL is clearly a DCUM mom who is self-centered and hates her MIL. She probably logs on here and complains incessantly about you while all the other DCUM mom egg her on.

Don’t expect any support on this website.

Troll post that snagged crazy MIL lady. Well done!