Are some people just cheerful, or is she being fake?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to stop calling others fake. It takes so much energy and effort to put on an act, PP. 99.99% of people aren't going to do that. They might exaggerate part of their personality for the workplace if they find it works for them... but it's not fake in the sense that they already have tendencies to be that way naturally.

I would have to fake it. That's why I worried.

I mean either you are depressed, or a narcisist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lot like that, I am not fake. I enjoy life, I am hard working.
You sound like a narcissist. Narcs can't understand that other people are different than their own twisted, sick fragile egos!

+1

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lot like that, I am not fake. I enjoy life, I am hard working.
You sound like a narcissist. Narcs can't understand that other people are different than their own twisted, sick fragile egos!

You sound like a cheerful, friendly, not-hateful person who is great company! 😀

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently hired a freelance contractor for a project. We chatted a bit online, then switched to email. She was perky throughout the entire interaction, and I realize this might be my dour personality coming out, but...she seemed faked. Who says "We're going to have so much fun!" in a an email? Not worried about the lack of professionalism as much as I am that she's manipulated me into hiring her by being over the top friendly. Or are some people just like this?

Some people learned good manners. It's OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a lot like that, I am not fake. I enjoy life, I am hard working.
You sound like a narcissist. Narcs can't understand that other people are different than their own twisted, sick fragile egos!

+1

And yet somehow you can't understand that other people do not enjoy life and have personalities different from you. That doesn't make them narcissists. It might make YOU one, though.

[Anonymous]

I had a detailee, who wanted a job from me, call me out for being fake and too friendly. Guess who didn't get the job?!

Earlier in my career, my POC coworkers would all call me "rebecca of sunnbrook farm". It was hurtful, particularly since I was the only white person and only one of a few women.

I'm not being fake at work, but I'm definitely more friendly at work than I am in real life. As a manager I'm just not going to scream and curse people out, so I smile. Being kind is part of my work persona.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to stop calling others fake. It takes so much energy and effort to put on an act, PP. 99.99% of people aren't going to do that. They might exaggerate part of their personality for the workplace if they find it works for them... but it's not fake in the sense that they already have tendencies to be that way naturally.

I would have to fake it. That's why I worried.

I mean either you are depressed, or a narcisist.

Yeah, I'm not a narcissist because I don't like being manipulated into hiring someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not being fake at work, but I'm definitely more friendly at work than I am in real life. As a manager I'm just not going to scream and curse people out, so I smile. Being kind is part of my work persona.

How is that not faking it? What do you get from being friendlier at work? Something, right? Otherwise why bother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a lot like that, I am not fake. I enjoy life, I am hard working.
You sound like a narcissist. Narcs can't understand that other people are different than their own twisted, sick fragile egos!

You sound like a cheerful, friendly, not-hateful person who is great company! 😀

Thanks so much, I am. However, narcs have entered my world(you being clearly one of them) and now I see you, that bothers you hence why you bully me thinking I will not stand up to you, but I do. I am nice, not a narc supply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to stop calling others fake. It takes so much energy and effort to put on an act, PP. 99.99% of people aren't going to do that. They might exaggerate part of their personality for the workplace if they find it works for them... but it's not fake in the sense that they already have tendencies to be that way naturally.

I would have to fake it. That's why I worried.

I mean either you are depressed, or a narcisist.

Yeah, I'm not a narcissist because I don't like being manipulated into hiring someone.

LOL! Not a narc! Manipulated to hire someone??? Bcs you manipulate people all the time, and all you see is that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm not being fake at work, but I'm definitely more friendly at work than I am in real life. As a manager I'm just not going to scream and curse people out, so I smile. Being kind is part of my work persona.

How is that not faking it? What do you get from being friendlier at work? Something, right? Otherwise why bother?

If my family or dh or friends did half the shit that my coworkers or employees did, I would scream at them. Or just would stop being friends with them. You don't have that ability with coworkers.

When I give trainings and people ask dumb questions, I welcome dumb questions. If dh asked dumb question after dumb question, I'd tell him he was an idiot and he needed to figure it out himself. Most people are friendlier in public than they are in real life.

[Anonymous]

We watch the US swimming team on TV. It drives me nuts how the women swimmers always say "that was so fun", while the guys say "the last length was brutal, really felt the piano drop on me in the last 25 meters".

I think the women's fake positivity started when one swimmer at the 2012 was known for her cheerful personality and the others had to start pretending their races were fun instead of being tough.

[Anonymous]

If everyone could just dial up the cheerfulness at work we wouldn't have half the hostile workplace and harassment lawsuits. At work you deal with a lot more different kinds of people than you see in your everyday life and you have to give everyone grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a lot like that, I am not fake. I enjoy life, I am hard working.
You sound like a narcissist. Narcs can't understand that other people are different than their own twisted, sick fragile egos!

+1

And yet somehow you can't understand that other people do not enjoy life and have personalities different from you. That doesn't make them narcissists. It might make YOU one, though.

Oh, lol, lol, lol! Narcs doing what they do best. Accusing others of being what they are. Plus gaslighting the post that had nothing of the sort they project in it! You also won't stop, cause you can't, being a narc and all.