Why are women so heightist, and then complain when it turns out that a man lied about his height?

[Anonymous]

I never much cared, but I'm also a 5'10" woman and many guys are shorter than I am.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re confused OP. You’re not actually entitled to any time, or attention, from any woman.

Why they choose not to give that to you could be because you’re short, could be because you’re a liar, or both. One of those features is in your power to fix.

[Anonymous]

These posts are always interesting to me because the guys that lie are like "I have to, you deserve it for being shallow enough to care!" But . . . you're lying to *everyone* you match with, not just the woman who would have otherwise screened you out. When I was on OKC I agreed to meet a guy for a first date at a bar and genuinely could not locate him. His profile had a headshot (cute) and listed him at 6'2". I circled the bar 3 times before he grabbed my arm - he was 5'9", which I can state with certainty because so am I. It was so deeply weird to me to lie about something so blatant and easily disproved, I spent the date uneasily wondering what his deal was and not really getting to know him.

And I didn't have any height filter on my profile, and am now happily married to a guy who is 5'9". It's not the height, it's the insecurity and the misogyny that is used to defend the lie (looking at you, guy who says women's preferences are not valid).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are men boobist, weightist & careerist?

+1 Barely 5' woman here.

Some guys have told me that I was "cute" but too short. And I'm flat chested. I'm pretty sure OP would have swiped left on me.

I eventually married a 6'2" guy who loves me as I am, even after two large kids that stretched out my skin, and a lumpectomy that took what little I had on the underside of my boob. I'm fairly certain if I were to go out into the dating world, OP would swipe left on me then and now.

But, yea, only us women are apparently shallow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

And the vast majority of men over 40 are whiny, short incels.

[Anonymous]

I'm a 5 ft 7 (actually 67 inches, not 65 inches) 46 yo man and I have never once been turned down in my life.

I only date thin, white brunettes who are an 8 or above. I've been told my whole life that I'm movie star handsome so maybe that factors, but clearly women don't care all that much or else I would have been rejected at some point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

And the vast majority of men over 40 are whiny, short incels.

Uhh, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

And the vast majority of men over 40 are whiny, short incels.

Uhh, no.

Uh, yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fear of short sons, or daughters for that matter.

Oh the horror. A happy, well-adjusted, healthy kid who is … short. Oh how can you face the world?

Tall children are happy, well-adjusted and healthy too, you know..

If 2 men who are equal in every single way except one was tall and the other short stood in front of you, why would you pick the short one if you wanted tall kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5 ft 7 (actually 67 inches, not 65 inches) 46 yo man and I have never once been turned down in my life.

I only date thin, white brunettes who are an 8 or above. I've been told my whole life that I'm movie star handsome so maybe that factors, but clearly women don't care all that much or else I would have been rejected at some point.

see.. men are shallow, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

oh dear. I'm sorry you are a sexless incel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have dated men of all heights. 5'3"-6'1"

When I matched with the 5'3" guy on Bumble he *said* he was 5'7" and then when we went on our first date we were the same height. Actually I was slightly taller because I was in heels. He had a great personality so I asked him about it a few dates later and he was like, yeah most women won't date under 5'7" so I lie. I found that kind of sleazy.

And fwiw, we dated for several months and I thought he was really sexy, but I don't care about height and if I did, the lying would've totally turned me off.

I think if you are 5'9 and you say you are 5'10, that is ok. But if you are 5'3, and say you are 5'7, that's too much of a difference. It's a flat out lie rather than an exaggeration.

Oh totally. He insisted it was only because 5'7" seems to be the minimum 90% of women will accept (and I agree, because none of my friends could figure out why I was dating a guy literally the same height as me - I was like you guys, I promise, he is so sexy and smart and funny and great in bed and they were like...yeah but you are the same size lmfao. The height thing instantly eliminated him as boyfriend and ultimately husband material). I was like okay...sure, but if that's the minimum height they will accept and then you show up FOUR INCHES SHORTER...you're probably not getting a second date, right? So it doesn't really work for you, does it?

You wont even get a first date with me. I'd make an excuse about going to the bathroom and drive away leaving you at the table.

I’m the poster who dated him and lol. (I hope I’m not being mean!!! He was really good in bed!!! But the lying was so weird.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 5 ft 7 (actually 67 inches, not 65 inches) 46 yo man and I have never once been turned down in my life.

I only date thin, white brunettes who are an 8 or above. I've been told my whole life that I'm movie star handsome so maybe that factors, but clearly women don't care all that much or else I would have been rejected at some point.

Get those gorgeous girls off the market. That's less competition for the tall guys!

[Anonymous]

I’m 5”4’ and my DH is 5’7”; I literally had no idea height is a “thing” until after I got married. I thought my husband was super cute and he’s taller than me, I think the height screening is mostly an internet thing.