Why are women so heightist, and then complain when it turns out that a man lied about his height?

[Anonymous]

I love tall men but I met a man online that is 5’9”. and is so sweet, generous, and thoughtful. He is a keeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a guy who lied about my height once on OLD, I added 1 inch because someone told me every guy lies a bit and women automatically subtract 1-2 inches from your listed height because of this phenomenon. So if I listed my actual height, lots of women would think I was shorter than I am in reality. Funny enough, I went on a date with a girl who called me out on it when we got intimate and literally made me take out a ruler to measure myself when she was at my place. I owned up to lying and told her why, then she said she was glad I lied because if my height was 1 inch less in my dating profile I would have been filtered out (I am on the shorter side). We dated for 2 years and it didn’t work out in the end, but this shows that a lot of women don’t really know what they want. Women will be picky for absolutely no reason other than because they’re on an app.

Going forward I no longer lied about my height FWIW.

And this is the attitude of misogyny that leads women to use filters.

[Anonymous]

Because I want what I want and I’m clear about it. One of my criteria is an honest man. When you lie about the little things (pun intended) you will lie about the big things.

And by the way, I’m not just screening for height. I’ve met guys who lied about their smoking status, employment and their freaking marital status.

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Anonymous wrote:Because when people care about something, they want accurate information.

+1
We want tall kids.
Tall men tend to earn more.
We’re tired of kneeling on the counter to get down the good dishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love tall men but I met a man online that is 5’9”. and is so sweet, generous, and thoughtful. He is a keeper.

did he lie on his profile?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are men so weightist? Why do they think a 24 BMI is fat?

Because that can be fixed.

And yet the vast majority of women over 40 are fat asses.

And a lot of men have dad bods.

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Anonymous wrote:The fear of short sons, or daughters for that matter.

What the heck.

For sons it’s for sports & warning potential. For daughters, being over 5”9 is a liability & not attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women screen by height on dating apps, so the only way to even get a first date is to lie.

I don’t like whiners and gaslighters. So you got those two things going for you Op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women screen by height on dating apps, so the only way to even get a first date is to lie.

Date the people who want to date you. If a woman wants a tall guy and you aren’t tall why bother trying to change her mind when there are plenty of women who would be fine with your height and date you? The real problem is you want what you can’t have and rather than adjust your thinking and find the love or sex you want, you insist those with height preferences adjust theirs and sit at home alone seething when they don’t. How is that working out for you?

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I am not sure if I am heightist. I am 5'4", and definitely wanted to be with a guy slightly taller than me. I wound up with a husband who is a smidge under 5'8", so not incredibly tall. I would have considered guys slightly shorter than that, but likely not guys who were shorter than me, unless they had an amazing personality. So I would not have ruled out meeting them once, but to be honest, my standard for a connection that would lead to a second date would have been higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best sex of my life with a guy who was 5’4” (I’m 5’2”). But he had zero weird attitude about it. He was relaxed and confident and hot. B, wherever you are, I wish you well.

OP, short guys can make it work (and how). If you are not doing so, that’s down to you. It’s not that every woman in the world has illegitimate tastes.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 5 9 and I never really thought about it. I’m only 5 3 so some one way taller seemed a little awkward. It wasn’t something that registered as inherently good to me for someone to be tall. But if I’m being totally honest on here, now that I have kids I really really hope my son is not shorter than my husband. I realize I was a little naive before.

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Anonymous wrote:Most women screen by height on dating apps, so the only way to even get a first date is to lie.

Date the people who want to date you. If a woman wants a tall guy and you aren’t tall why bother trying to change her mind when there are plenty of women who would be fine with your height and date you? The real problem is you want what you can’t have and rather than adjust your thinking and find the love or sex you want, you insist those with height preferences adjust theirs and sit at home alone seething when they don’t. How is that working out for you?

We can just end thread right here. This is it. Op and men like him have the audacity to scold women for having a preference. Meanwhile they have a preference too and they feel entitled to it.
It's ok for op and men to have a preference but not women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So I’m a guy who lied about my height once on OLD, I added 1 inch because someone told me every guy lies a bit and women automatically subtract 1-2 inches from your listed height because of this phenomenon. So if I listed my actual height, lots of women would think I was shorter than I am in reality. Funny enough, I went on a date with a girl who called me out on it when we got intimate and literally made me take out a ruler to measure myself when she was at my place. I owned up to lying and told her why, then she said she was glad I lied because if my height was 1 inch less in my dating profile I would have been filtered out (I am on the shorter side). We dated for 2 years and it didn’t work out in the end, but this shows that a lot of women don’t really know what they want. Women will be picky for absolutely no reason other than because they’re on an app.

Going forward I no longer lied about my height FWIW.

And this is the attitude of misogyny that leads women to use filters.

I mean it’s true for guys too, people reject others on OLD who they would have been interested in if they met IRL. It’s widely known that men have higher success rates with in person approaches. An app is a poor way to convey attractiveness.

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Anonymous wrote:The fear of short sons, or daughters for that matter.

What the heck.

For sons it’s for sports & warning potential. For daughters, being over 5”9 is a liability & not attractive.

Yes that’s why models struggle so much to get dates.