SIL acted entitled and embarrassed me and I blasted her and now has consequences.

[Anonymous]

Do we think op is a troll? Or has read these responses universally castigating her and slunk off

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

I can confidently say that in my 20 something years of adulthood I have never, ever screamed at or cursed out another adult. Much less "berated" them as OP says she did. There is a wide range between remaining calm and reasonable and acting like a screaming banshee.

Plus, I cannot believe OP threatened having security throw her SIL's family out of the resort and yet is calling the SIL the entitled one? What is this presumed authority OP thinks she has?

+1

WTAF? OP thinks she owns the hotel, but she really only knows a travel agent. OP, get your sh*t together. So typical DC area female. With her $3k tote and her leased car, trying to be snifflier than thou to others in Starbucks, OP is no better than the girlfriend who asked Logan for a selfie on Succession.

STF down, OP - nothing from nothing leaves nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do we think op is a troll? Or has read these responses universally castigating her and slunk off

Yes, probably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do we think op is a troll? Or has read these responses universally castigating her and slunk off

A PP brought up a point that a guest complaining about a gift basket would never have caused someone from the resort to contact OP's friend. That part of the story seems pretty far-fetched at best.

[Anonymous]

So you berated her into backing off, which she did, but you felt the need to keep poking at her and berating her to escalate the drama.

I can’t see a hotel freaking out about some chocolates and lemonade, even if it was a VIP basket. I’m guessing they mentioned something to your friend about qualifying the perks, she told you, and you took the nuclear option to prove some kind of point about your SIL.

I don’t doubt she wasn’t angelic, or is an innocent in the family dynamic, but it sounds like a whole family dynamic that she should be happy to be free of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your poor friend. I hope that she is able to mend her reputation with this hotel because it sounds like your family has pretty well ruined it. You owe her a big, big apology.

+1. Hotels talk. I wouldn't be surprised if the friend's reputation is now trashed. I hope she doesn't lose her job over this. I wouldn't be surprised if they refused to work with her in the future and OP's family is banned.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but you are a nightmare. SIL needs to run as far away from you as she can.

+1

+2 No wonder your brother married a nightmare like your SIL, with you as a role model.

Siblings aren’t “role models” and you are absurd.

The nightmare is OP. Ugh. Poor SIL should run to get a divorce. This is nearing an abusive situation, with all her in-laws swearing and screaming at her.

Mmkay. Sure, Jan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we think op is a troll? Or has read these responses universally castigating her and slunk off

A PP brought up a point that a guest complaining about a gift basket would never have caused someone from the resort to contact OP's friend. That part of the story seems pretty far-fetched at best.

+1 OP’s writing style is similar to that of a prolific troll on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your poor friend. I hope that she is able to mend her reputation with this hotel because it sounds like your family has pretty well ruined it. You owe her a big, big apology.

+1. Hotels talk. I wouldn't be surprised if the friend's reputation is now trashed. I hope she doesn't lose her job over this. I wouldn't be surprised if they refused to work with her in the future and OP's family is banned.

Is that you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend works in the travel industry and has access to beautiful resorts all over the world with her employee discount. She is able to pass along her discounted rate to friends and family. I hit her up 1-2x a year. She got us 3 rooms at a resort when we took a vacation recently. She arranged to have a gift basket sent up to each room. For me and my parents room she sent up an alcohol basket. For my brother and SIL and their kids she had an assortment basket sent up. It has pop, lemonades, candies, chocolates, crackers etc. This kind of stuff is usually reserved for VIPs but she got us the baskets with her connections. We certainly are not VIP so it was a really nice of her to arrange that.

The issue started in the middle of my trip. My friend called me and said she received an email from the front desk manger at the resort that her guest was making demands she was not entitled to and to get in contact with her guest before things were escalated. SIL went to the front desk and wanted another basket sent up to her room because they ran out. She was told it was a one time thing and was throwing my friends name around. I about died and apologized profusely. My friend told me my SIL could never stay on her discount again. I could tell she was really upset with me.

I called SIL on her phone and screamed down the phone. I told her she was a fu**ing idiot, simpleton, entitled bi*** and a few other adjectives. I then called my brother and told him what his wife had done. I told him if he did not make his wife go down to the front desk and apologize I was going to have security throw them all out. He was mortified. His marriage is already on thin ice and they are in therapy as a last resort. He was ready to file for divorce in January he was so fed up with her but she begged for counseling.

He promised me she would go down and apologize and he would make it his hill to die on. I heard they went out to the end of the parking lot and had it out. He told her if she did not apologize to the front desk agent she was rude and demanding with she would be leaving and him and the kids would be staying. Her choice. She did end up apologizing. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again. My parents asked her what was she thinking to demand another gift basket be delivered. She started the water works and told us to stop “attacking” her. She kept a low profile for the rest of the trip and did not cause any further issues.

So fast forward to today. She said my brother was using this incident as an excuse to end their marriage. I told her to stop acting so innocent. This excuse was the final straw. She asked for the sake of their kids for me to speak on her behalf to my brother and finish counseling and let him know there was no consequences for my friend at her job. She said she learned her lesson, apologized and was screamed at by me and my brother and was not sure what more she could do. I reminded her she has been a s**t person for years and now she is finally facing the consequences of her actions.

My husband told me that I was acting to happy about my brothers marriage ending and maybe I could speak to my brother. I don’t want to. Why would I try and talk my brother into staying with such a vile woman. Am I wrong?

You are all trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we think op is a troll? Or has read these responses universally castigating her and slunk off

A PP brought up a point that a guest complaining about a gift basket would never have caused someone from the resort to contact OP's friend. That part of the story seems pretty far-fetched at best.

+1 OP’s writing style is similar to that of a prolific troll on DCUM.

This. Same subjects over and over again with the same extreme situations.

[Anonymous]

You sound awful, OP. Your SIL shouldn't have done what you purportedly did (who knows what actually happened - I wouldn't be surprised if she just asked for more stuff and the story got blown up by you...). The fact that you treat anyone like that is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I know I was out of line and I don’t normally act like that. I was so incredibly angry because my best friend could have gotten in trouble with her job and I felt like I let her down after she was so generous.

I am going to follow all your advice and stay out of it. I will ignore SIL calls/messages moving forward.

I don't care how angry you were. Do you really not understand how your behavior was 100% not ok? Because it sounds like you're just the kind of person who handles things like that.

[Anonymous]

You actually come out worse here, dear. My mouth dropped open at your description of your own behavior and- well, kind of how you thought you were doing the right thing. That was my clue as to where the problem is in this group. It's you.

I mean you don't even try to hide how awful you are. All this yelling and name calling over a gift basket request? Really? How is that remotely appropriate? And you can't make someone apologize. It's on them if they don't. Your brother is awful too, in fact, the lot of you. People don’t act this way. They really dont, guest acct, gift baskets, the whole 9 yards.

This is a whole family of sad personalities, but I am not on your team.

She needs a good lawyer and needs to escape.

[Anonymous]

Who drags down a person to their primordial core, en masse, on a vacation, and then supports her being kicked out of her marriage, OVER ASKING FOR A GIFT BASKET*?

What I see here is a very toxic family that apparently works like hyenas around a vulnerable prey, and the loyalty stays with the family of origin, and not the mate. Your brother is "actually willing to die on this hill" to make you happy, to even divorce his wife, over your being upset over her asking for a gift basket. OMG. This is one of the worst things I've read in awhile here.


*There's a lot of reasons she may have asked for that basket quite apart from the issue of being entitled. She may have understood it to be a promotion, her kids were enjoying the treats, and bringing up the friend's name was just a connection thing knowing they had these baskets. She might be a little socially dumb, but entitled, a B!+@#, all that stuff was waaay off.

The travel friend also cuts her off because of the basket? A basket of treats? Who are you people?