SIL acted entitled and embarrassed me and I blasted her and now has consequences.

[Anonymous]

My best friend works in the travel industry and has access to beautiful resorts all over the world with her employee discount. She is able to pass along her discounted rate to friends and family. I hit her up 1-2x a year. She got us 3 rooms at a resort when we took a vacation recently. She arranged to have a gift basket sent up to each room. For me and my parents room she sent up an alcohol basket. For my brother and SIL and their kids she had an assortment basket sent up. It has pop, lemonades, candies, chocolates, crackers etc. This kind of stuff is usually reserved for VIPs but she got us the baskets with her connections. We certainly are not VIP so it was a really nice of her to arrange that.

The issue started in the middle of my trip. My friend called me and said she received an email from the front desk manger at the resort that her guest was making demands she was not entitled to and to get in contact with her guest before things were escalated. SIL went to the front desk and wanted another basket sent up to her room because they ran out. She was told it was a one time thing and was throwing my friends name around. I about died and apologized profusely. My friend told me my SIL could never stay on her discount again. I could tell she was really upset with me.

I called SIL on her phone and screamed down the phone. I told her she was a fu**ing idiot, simpleton, entitled bi*** and a few other adjectives. I then called my brother and told him what his wife had done. I told him if he did not make his wife go down to the front desk and apologize I was going to have security throw them all out. He was mortified. His marriage is already on thin ice and they are in therapy as a last resort. He was ready to file for divorce in January he was so fed up with her but she begged for counseling.

He promised me she would go down and apologize and he would make it his hill to die on. I heard they went out to the end of the parking lot and had it out. He told her if she did not apologize to the front desk agent she was rude and demanding with she would be leaving and him and the kids would be staying. Her choice. She did end up apologizing. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again. My parents asked her what was she thinking to demand another gift basket be delivered. She started the water works and told us to stop “attacking” her. She kept a low profile for the rest of the trip and did not cause any further issues.

So fast forward to today. She said my brother was using this incident as an excuse to end their marriage. I told her to stop acting so innocent. This excuse was the final straw. She asked for the sake of their kids for me to speak on her behalf to my brother and finish counseling and let him know there was no consequences for my friend at her job. She said she learned her lesson, apologized and was screamed at by me and my brother and was not sure what more she could do. I reminded her she has been a s**t person for years and now she is finally facing the consequences of her actions.

My husband told me that I was acting to happy about my brothers marriage ending and maybe I could speak to my brother. I don’t want to. Why would I try and talk my brother into staying with such a vile woman. Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

I mean, you don't sound like a peach yourself. Screaming, using profanity, calling her names? Surely you could have handled it in a more mature manner.

That said, stay out of your brother's marriage. It's not your fault he's leaving, and it's not your place to interfere one way or another. That said, you also shouldn't be acting happy about your brother's marriage ending, as even if it's the right choice, it's still difficult and hard on the kids.

[Anonymous]

Your SIL was rude and out of line. But I agree with her; you did attack her. All the name-calling and yelling. And you didn't just do it once. And then the confrontation with her husband, and then your parents chimed in to tell her she was a dumb ass. I'm not saying she wasn't being an entitled B, but all these screaming matches and different people confronting her seem a bit over the top to me.

[Anonymous]

You're not as great a person as you think you are. "I called SIL on her phone and screamed down the phone. I told her she was a fu**ing idiot, simpleton, entitled bi*** and a few other adjectivess. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again."

You seem kind of vile yourself, OP. I also have a friend like your friend (maybe we're both friends with Jenni?) and when she does things like your friend did, i only invite people I know will be appreciative, low drama and behave with class.

[Anonymous]

You’ve got some real interesting family dynamics. I initially thought you were in the wrong because of your gross behavior swearing and screaming especially over a gift basket. But then I saw the part about your brother and SIL going out into the parking lot “to have it out.” So most likely, you are a troll. If not your family is trashtastic.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, but you are a nightmare. SIL needs to run as far away from you as she can.

[Anonymous]

Your poor friend. I hope that she is able to mend her reputation with this hotel because it sounds like your family has pretty well ruined it. You owe her a big, big apology.

[Anonymous]

Have to agree - only person here who really is a victim is the friend. Say goodbye to those stays.

I have a mentally ill SIL. Since I am not mentally ill, I have the sense not to escalate her. I would have approached this way differently. I would not be surprised if you and DH end up in therapy if this is how you handle things and on top of it are hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but you are a nightmare. SIL needs to run as far away from you as she can.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have to agree - only person here who really is a victim is the friend. Say goodbye to those stays.

I have a mentally ill SIL. Since I am not mentally ill, I have the sense not to escalate her. I would have approached this way differently. I would not be surprised if you and DH end up in therapy if this is how you handle things and on top of it are hypocritical.

+1

OP, get your sh*t together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend works in the travel industry and has access to beautiful resorts all over the world with her employee discount. She is able to pass along her discounted rate to friends and family. I hit her up 1-2x a year. She got us 3 rooms at a resort when we took a vacation recently. She arranged to have a gift basket sent up to each room. For me and my parents room she sent up an alcohol basket. For my brother and SIL and their kids she had an assortment basket sent up. It has pop, lemonades, candies, chocolates, crackers etc. This kind of stuff is usually reserved for VIPs but she got us the baskets with her connections. We certainly are not VIP so it was a really nice of her to arrange that.

The issue started in the middle of my trip. My friend called me and said she received an email from the front desk manger at the resort that her guest was making demands she was not entitled to and to get in contact with her guest before things were escalated. SIL went to the front desk and wanted another basket sent up to her room because they ran out. She was told it was a one time thing and was throwing my friends name around. I about died and apologized profusely. My friend told me my SIL could never stay on her discount again. I could tell she was really upset with me.

I called SIL on her phone and screamed down the phone. I told her she was a fu**ing idiot, simpleton, entitled bi*** and a few other adjectives. I then called my brother and told him what his wife had done. I told him if he did not make his wife go down to the front desk and apologize I was going to have security throw them all out. He was mortified. His marriage is already on thin ice and they are in therapy as a last resort. He was ready to file for divorce in January he was so fed up with her but she begged for counseling.

He promised me she would go down and apologize and he would make it his hill to die on. I heard they went out to the end of the parking lot and had it out. He told her if she did not apologize to the front desk agent she was rude and demanding with she would be leaving and him and the kids would be staying. Her choice. She did end up apologizing. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again. My parents asked her what was she thinking to demand another gift basket be delivered. She started the water works and told us to stop “attacking” her. She kept a low profile for the rest of the trip and did not cause any further issues.

So fast forward to today. She said my brother was using this incident as an excuse to end their marriage. I told her to stop acting so innocent. This excuse was the final straw. She asked for the sake of their kids for me to speak on her behalf to my brother and finish counseling and let him know there was no consequences for my friend at her job. She said she learned her lesson, apologized and was screamed at by me and my brother and was not sure what more she could do. I reminded her she has been a s**t person for years and now she is finally facing the consequences of her actions.

My husband told me that I was acting to happy about my brothers marriage ending and maybe I could speak to my brother. I don’t want to. Why would I try and talk my brother into staying with such a vile woman. Am I wrong?

If she's been such a sh*t horrible person for years why does your husband GAF about saving their marriage? Even if she wasn't a horrible person, why would your husband feel like it's his place to either rally for or against your brothers marriage? Your entire family is weird as hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:\
He promised me she would go down and apologize and he would make it his hill to die on. I heard they went out to the end of the parking lot and had it out. He told her if she did not apologize to the front desk agent she was rude and demanding with she would be leaving and him and the kids would be staying. Her choice. She did end up apologizing. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again. My parents asked her what was she thinking to demand another gift basket be delivered. She started the water works and told us to stop “attacking” her. She kept a low profile for the rest of the trip and did not cause any further issues.

So fast forward to today. She said my brother was using this incident as an excuse to end their marriage. I told her to stop acting so innocent. This excuse was the final straw. She asked for the sake of their kids for me to speak on her behalf to my brother and finish counseling and let him know there was no consequences for my friend at her job. She said she learned her lesson, apologized and was screamed at by me and my brother and was not sure what more she could do. I reminded her she has been a s**t person for years and now she is finally facing the consequences of her actions.

My husband told me that I was acting to happy about my brothers marriage ending and maybe I could speak to my brother. I don’t want to. Why would I try and talk my brother into staying with such a vile woman. Am I wrong?

Also how dumb are you? You went after her again after they had a big public fight in the parking lot? You're lucky it didn't happen again.

[Anonymous]

Cursing at someone and calling her names was flat out out of line.

Berating her after the fact was abusive.

Stay out of your brother’s marriage. It’s not your business.

[Anonymous]

Are you auditioning for a reality show?

[Anonymous]

Everyone sucks here