SIL acted entitled and embarrassed me and I blasted her and now has consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are easily the worst person in this entire saga.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend works in the travel industry and has access to beautiful resorts all over the world with her employee discount. She is able to pass along her discounted rate to friends and family. I hit her up 1-2x a year. She got us 3 rooms at a resort when we took a vacation recently. She arranged to have a gift basket sent up to each room. For me and my parents room she sent up an alcohol basket. For my brother and SIL and their kids she had an assortment basket sent up. It has pop, lemonades, candies, chocolates, crackers etc. This kind of stuff is usually reserved for VIPs but she got us the baskets with her connections. We certainly are not VIP so it was a really nice of her to arrange that.

The issue started in the middle of my trip. My friend called me and said she received an email from the front desk manger at the resort that her guest was making demands she was not entitled to and to get in contact with her guest before things were escalated. SIL went to the front desk and wanted another basket sent up to her room because they ran out. She was told it was a one time thing and was throwing my friends name around. I about died and apologized profusely. My friend told me my SIL could never stay on her discount again. I could tell she was really upset with me.

I called SIL on her phone and screamed down the phone. I told her she was a fu**ing idiot, simpleton, entitled bi*** and a few other adjectives. I then called my brother and told him what his wife had done. I told him if he did not make his wife go down to the front desk and apologize I was going to have security throw them all out. He was mortified. His marriage is already on thin ice and they are in therapy as a last resort. He was ready to file for divorce in January he was so fed up with her but she begged for counseling.

He promised me she would go down and apologize and he would make it his hill to die on. I heard they went out to the end of the parking lot and had it out. He told her if she did not apologize to the front desk agent she was rude and demanding with she would be leaving and him and the kids would be staying. Her choice. She did end up apologizing. I was so pissed and ended up berating her again. My parents asked her what was she thinking to demand another gift basket be delivered. She started the water works and told us to stop “attacking” her. She kept a low profile for the rest of the trip and did not cause any further issues.

So fast forward to today. She said my brother was using this incident as an excuse to end their marriage. I told her to stop acting so innocent. This excuse was the final straw. She asked for the sake of their kids for me to speak on her behalf to my brother and finish counseling and let him know there was no consequences for my friend at her job. She said she learned her lesson, apologized and was screamed at by me and my brother and was not sure what more she could do. I reminded her she has been a s**t person for years and now she is finally facing the consequences of her actions.

My husband told me that I was acting to happy about my brothers marriage ending and maybe I could speak to my brother. I don’t want to. Why would I try and talk my brother into staying with such a vile woman. Am I wrong?

Yes, you are vile. Sil made a mistake and apologized. Perhaps she will be better off divorced from your family. You sound very crass and low class

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised you’re still married yourself.

Good point. i thought this as well, but assumed that her husband is the same way.

[Anonymous]

I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

Really? You would have yelled and cursed and screamed at someone for this? I would have called my brother and said "your wife did this, it's making my friend look bad, DO SOMETHING."

[Anonymous]

Too bad Jerry Springer went off the air, you all would be perfect

[Anonymous]

"I hit her up"

If I had a friend who got these perks, I would wait until I was invited. I wouldn't "hit her up."

Your friend deserves better friends.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a Real Housewives episode.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has serious anger and boundary issues, lacks perspective, among other things, the SIL needs to brush up on manners. To threaten to throw your family out of a hotel over a gift basket. My God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I hit her up"

If I had a friend who got these perks, I would wait until I was invited. I wouldn't "hit her up."

Your friend deserves better friends.

I did wonder about this as well. I'm hoping the friend articulated that her friends could ask to use her benefits every now and then...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

Really? You would have yelled and cursed and screamed at someone for this? I would have called my brother and said "your wife did this, it's making my friend look bad, DO SOMETHING."

I would speak directly to her, because she is a grown-a** woman and said something along the lines of: "WTF are you thinking acting like a spoiled brat and putting my kind and generous friend in a bad position. You are an embarrassment. Fix it now."

[Anonymous]

Jfc your sil is awful but you are also awful! Who calls someone and screams and yells and calls them names? Are you four years old? Also who uses the word ‘pop’.
You all deserve each other and I feel bad for the resort bc it sounds very cringe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

We remain calm bc we are grown ups! What kind of life do you have that this would so escalate you? Good lord. I don’t think I ever scream and yell at any adult - and only occasionally my kids although what op describes is exactly the kind of bs they would pull 😂

[Anonymous]

Am I wrong to be hung up on fact that op cannot spell ‘too’?
Why - also- go on vaca w someone you hate so much you don’t care if their marriage ends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love all these people who would remain calm and reasonable in this situation-I'm sure they are the moms who have never in their lives yelled at their kids. I get why you freaked out on her the first time, but after she apologized you should have dropped it and most certainly stay out of their marriage. If it was me, I would apologize to both brother and SIL and say something like "Your marriage is not my business and I'm sorry if I crossed a line and meddled in your relationship."

I can confidently say that in my 20 something years of adulthood I have never, ever screamed at or cursed out another adult. Much less "berated" them as OP says she did. There is a wide range between remaining calm and reasonable and acting like a screaming banshee.

Plus, I cannot believe OP threatened having security throw her SIL's family out of the resort and yet is calling the SIL the entitled one? What is this presumed authority OP thinks she has?