Marriage is a horrible deal for women

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is true. But, only unhappy people write these kinds of things on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the motherhood that's a raw deal.

Yeah, this is the obvious truth. Like a PP said, DINK life is where it's at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a hive of bitter divorced women.

Many women do just great with marriage! A loving husband who provides and cares for his wife and children. The freedom to work, or not work. Physical and intellectual satisfaction.

Try not being so miserable. Works wonders.

Lol +1 but you gonna get hanged here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is very dc centric

Sure dc girl bosses it makes sense to have this attitude

But out In flyover country there is a massive difference in QoL between singles and married couples, esp for women

No one cares about flyover country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are super happy! 40 years old, four kids, 500k income, dual career. Life is great! But ok

I make 400K on my own (a woman). My former joint family income was 800K, equal earners but he treated me like shit all the time: cheated, never helped even to fill the dishwasher, I had to entertain his executive friends, we could only travel where he wanted and when he wanted.

I am much better on my own with 400K/year than with him on 800K!

[Anonymous]

My wife seems to love her life, and kids. Even me!

She’s a SAHM, has been since our kids were young (notwithstanding an advanced degree). I make enough that she’ll never have to work, but fine with me if she wanted to (she doesn’t). She volunteers, works out, has time for her friends and to care for elderly relatives. She manages the day to day at home but we have a nanny and housekeeper, so she doesn’t have to do any grunt work. Most of her “job” domestically is managing the kids’ activities and planning things like vacations and home improvement. I’m very happy with her, she’s fantastic… but she’s got a pretty good thing going from my perspective. I’m sure someone will tell me I’m oppressing her or ask what happens to her when I leave her for a teenager or something. (So negative around here.) Not ever going to happen though. We are blessed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife seems to love her life, and kids. Even me!

She’s a SAHM, has been since our kids were young (notwithstanding an advanced degree). I make enough that she’ll never have to work, but fine with me if she wanted to (she doesn’t). She volunteers, works out, has time for her friends and to care for elderly relatives. She manages the day to day at home but we have a nanny and housekeeper, so she doesn’t have to do any grunt work. Most of her “job” domestically is managing the kids’ activities and planning things like vacations and home improvement. I’m very happy with her, she’s fantastic… but she’s got a pretty good thing going from my perspective. I’m sure someone will tell me I’m oppressing her or ask what happens to her when I leave her for a teenager or something. (So negative around here.) Not ever going to happen though. We are blessed.

That’s a great and fair arrangement for both of you. I bet if she was working making the same as you make, AND managed everything at home as PPs/career women describe, she wouldn’t be as happily married. You would be resenting each other, no good sex life and a warm welcoming house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are super happy! 40 years old, four kids, 500k income, dual career. Life is great! But ok

I make 400K on my own (a woman). My former joint family income was 800K, equal earners but he treated me like shit all the time: cheated, never helped even to fill the dishwasher, I had to entertain his executive friends, we could only travel where he wanted and when he wanted.

I am much better on my own with 400K/year than with him on 800K!

OK. You chose to marry a loser and an a$$hole. Think about why that is.

The blame doesn’t lie with the institution of marriage or with other women who did much better than you with this particular major life choice.

[Anonymous]

I am in a very good marriage of 32 years. DH and I have been together for 37 years. We have really nice kids, good HHI, no prenup, I am financially secure. No addiction, abuse, cheating. We are very close knit family with a lot of support from our extended family. I have two masters, many professional certification and I have been a SAHM since my kids were born.

A good marriage is the best thing in the world. A bad marriage is the worst thing. No one wants to hear about the work that you have to put in a good marriage - compromise, communication, having the same goals and values, agreeing to have the same priorities, growing together as a couple and growing as an individual.

I think men and women end up marrying people of their own caliber. And to accept that is hard, especially when you hate your spouse and feel disrespected by them. The worst is when you choose a spouse who are deadbeat parents. I am sure that is just horrible to endure.

[Anonymous]

Or unless there isn’t misogyny in the marriage. Undo the misogyny and things round out tremendously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I are super happy! 40 years old, four kids, 500k income, dual career. Life is great! But ok

I make 400K on my own (a woman). My former joint family income was 800K, equal earners but he treated me like shit all the time: cheated, never helped even to fill the dishwasher, I had to entertain his executive friends, we could only travel where he wanted and when he wanted.

I am much better on my own with 400K/year than with him on 800K!

OK. You chose to marry a loser and an a$$hole. Think about why that is.

The blame doesn’t lie with the institution of marriage or with other women who did much better than you with this particular major life choice.

Ha! I wish it was that easy: there is little way to know if husband would have zero patience with kids. He said HE wanted children and would share everything with me equally. But in the end it was nothing and you can’t just get divorced with kids and career at stake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in a very good marriage of 32 years. DH and I have been together for 37 years. We have really nice kids, good HHI, no prenup, I am financially secure. No addiction, abuse, cheating. We are very close knit family with a lot of support from our extended family. I have two masters, many professional certification and I have been a SAHM since my kids were born.

A good marriage is the best thing in the world. A bad marriage is the worst thing. No one wants to hear about the work that you have to put in a good marriage - compromise, communication, having the same goals and values, agreeing to have the same priorities, growing together as a couple and growing as an individual.

I think men and women end up marrying people of their own caliber. And to accept that is hard, especially when you hate your spouse and feel disrespected by them. The worst is when you choose a spouse who are deadbeat parents. I am sure that is just horrible to endure.

Yet another happier traditional marriage here. No surprise.

[Anonymous]

Wome in traditional marriages are the happiest. It’s the only way to do marriage.

[Anonymous]

This garbage again.

If marriage is such a bad deal for women, why are women always the ones who push for it? Are women stupid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wome in traditional marriages are the happiest. It’s the only way to do marriage.

I know plenty of happy two income couples with multiple kids. They split the domestic work. That is really all you need to do.