Marriage is a horrible deal for women

[Anonymous]

I'm visiting my 90 year old mother in another state right now while my husband takes care of our teenager, makes sure she gets to and from school, does her homework, eats, goes to bed on time, etc. I can take this time to take care of someone else in my extended family who I love while my husband deals with the house and kid and home responsibilities.

And he does taxes.

And he is nice.

Also hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A better title for this post would be “bad marriage is a bad deal.” Good marriage is a good deal!

Why are women healthier outside of marriage?

[Anonymous]

What about when a woman marries another woman?

[Anonymous]

This is very dc centric

Sure dc girl bosses it makes sense to have this attitude

But out In flyover country there is a massive difference in QoL between singles and married couples, esp for women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a hive of bitter divorced women.

Many women do just great with marriage! A loving husband who provides and cares for his wife and children. The freedom to work, or not work. Physical and intellectual satisfaction.

Try not being so miserable. Works wonders.

Most marriages are not like that. Don’t state the exception as the rule.

LOL. I was just about to reply to another PP with the same message, except she was saying marriage is bad because her relative decided to marry an abusive husband and stay with him 20 years. That is also an extreme exception.

Most of the married couples we know are reasonably happy to very happy. We’re in our 40s, so the loser relationships have mostly ended via divorce by now. Just because you chose (or are) a loser as a spouse, don’t make the mistake of projecting that on everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Average marriage is a bad deal. Women shouldn’t settle for average and, increasingly, aren’t.

It is only worth it if your partner is going to take on the responsibility of replacing your income for all of the childbearing/mommy tracking (or you marry early enough that you are in a position to delay kids until you’ve got enough seniority not to be mommy-tracked) AND your partner is going to take on 50%+ of the work at home AND your partner is someone you genuinely enjoy being around AND your partner is going to be a good parent. That’s just frankly not nearly lost men.

You are much better off if financially capable to have children of your own when you are ready, using designer sperm to whatever standards you want, having full custody and no man to answer to, and then avail yourself of all the readily available men for sex alone.

— Married to one of the extraordinary men, realize how rare it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is very dc centric

Sure dc girl bosses it makes sense to have this attitude

But out In flyover country there is a massive difference in QoL between singles and married couples, esp for women

In flyover country women in wealthy marriages SAH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a single mother who isn’t poor is the best.

Agreed. Single rich mom with primary custody of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing like a hive of bitter divorced women.

Many women do just great with marriage! A loving husband who provides and cares for his wife and children. The freedom to work, or not work. Physical and intellectual satisfaction.

Try not being so miserable. Works wonders.

Most marriages are not like that. Don’t state the exception as the rule.

LOL. I was just about to reply to another PP with the same message, except she was saying marriage is bad because her relative decided to marry an abusive husband and stay with him 20 years. That is also an extreme exception.

Most of the married couples we know are reasonably happy to very happy. We’re in our 40s, so the loser relationships have mostly ended via divorce by now. Just because you chose (or are) a loser as a spouse, don’t make the mistake of projecting that on everyone else.

“Loser relationships”.

What a …..weirdly mean rant from a married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A better title for this post would be “bad marriage is a bad deal.” Good marriage is a good deal!

Bingo. This entire post is a woman who went car shopping and bought a used piece of sh$t that’s been in 3 accidents and no one else wanted, then was surprised and pissed off when it broke down in a few months. That doesn’t mean walking everywhere is better.

[Anonymous]

What you are really saying is having children is a bad deal for women. Which many women have already figured out. Being dinks has many advantages for both spouses.

But the work environment n the US is hostile to moms. Imagine if moms got a year of paid leave and free crèche/prek standard. It would be a whole different ballgame.

And yes, moms do have to work. Since the odds of divorce are 50/50, a wealthy husband is not a good bet over building your own career. Everyone has to be self reliant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A better title for this post would be “bad marriage is a bad deal.” Good marriage is a good deal!

Bingo. This entire post is a woman who went car shopping and bought a used piece of sh$t that’s been in 3 accidents and no one else wanted, then was surprised and pissed off when it broke down in a few months. That doesn’t mean walking everywhere is better.

+1. I’ve been in a bad marriage and a good one. The bad marriage made me wonder why anyone would marry. I’m in the good one now, and I can’t imagine life without him. DH is wonderful. Kind, smart, sexy, good salary, great step-dad, fun. I could go on and on. For all the women who are now single, don't you miss companionship with a romantic partner? I also find life much easier with a great spouse. Being a single mom was vastly more difficult, and it wasn’t money. It was doing it all alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless the husband is rich.

Women do most of the unpaid and unnoticed domestic labor in the home. They use their body to create babies and then do most of the childcare.

If the husband isn’t rich, what does he bring to the table?

We don't get what we deserve, we get what we tolerate. If you want what you want then don't settle unless you find it. You don't have to have standard formula of one husband and 2.5 kids, you can be on your own instead of doing the slavery of the husband, kid, corporate and Jonses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What you are really saying is having children is a bad deal for women. Which many women have already figured out. Being dinks has many advantages for both spouses.

But the work environment n the US is hostile to moms. Imagine if moms got a year of paid leave and free crèche/prek standard. It would be a whole different ballgame.

And yes, moms do have to work. Since the odds of divorce are 50/50, a wealthy husband is not a good bet over building your own career. Everyone has to be self reliant.

Having kids with a man is a bad idea for a highly paid professional women, because she gets two dependents and a lot of workload with him contributing much less. Men need to 'man up" and step up their game, being equal contributors in all areas. Otherwise gender roles in large metropolitan areas where women have access to big money will completely switch: it will be hard for men to find a wife who is willing to have kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about when a woman marries another woman?

ding ding ding!