How does your slim dd feel about her soft belly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd12 is slim with long legs, dare I say absolutely stunning. Somehow she’s gotten it into her head that to wear the crop tops that are so in fashion, that she needs to have a perfectly flat tummy. I have always told her that it’s just how girls bodies are (the vast minority have no fat on their stomachs) and that crunches are awesome but will not target fat loss on the stomach. She’s getting a little obsessed and I’m worried. As I said, she’s genuinely gorgeous, so I’m sure this is a manifestation of some insecurity that she’s pinning on one of the only imperfections she has. I am supportive of her exercising but I can’t get on board with her measuring her waist and constantly asking me if it’s “better”. How have the rest of you handled this?

Tell her she can't wear crop tops. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

Lol good luck, it's like saying get her off running water

Since 12 year olds can’t legally have social media it really shouldn’t be that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 12 you shouldn't be promoting crop tops.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

This post doesn't ring true. It sounds like a pervert who's found DCUM and is using it to get off on fantasizing descriptions about young girls and watching other people discuss it and can't quite figure out how to not sound disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone chime in who’s actually dealt with a situation with a child who is irrationally fixated on a minor imperfection. That’s all I’m asking about and I know most of you harpies won’t believe me but I’m really, really not concerned about looks. I’m concerned about my child’s mental health.

TROLL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post doesn't ring true. It sounds like a pervert who's found DCUM and is using it to get off on fantasizing descriptions about young girls and watching other people discuss it and can't quite figure out how to not sound disgusting.

Agree. I clicked on this post because I thought, what kind of perv thread is this? “Soft belly”?!

[Anonymous]

My DD actually did have a problem with how her stomach wasn't "flat" like what she saw on TV, the internet and at school...if she could pinch anything it would stress her out. This quickly spiraled into an eating disorder and the need for intensive outpatient therapy for 4 months to overcome anorexia. I don't think that OP is crazy to worry about her child feeling this way. My DD was not obsessed with social media and prior to this incidence always seemed to have body positivity and confidence. It was a horrible year to go through watching her suffer like that. OP I am not saying that your DD will turn into this - but you are smart to encourage her to make good choices in eating and being positive about her body. Jut keep an eye on her and hoepfully it is just a phase that will pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD actually did have a problem with how her stomach wasn't "flat" like what she saw on TV, the internet and at school...if she could pinch anything it would stress her out. This quickly spiraled into an eating disorder and the need for intensive outpatient therapy for 4 months to overcome anorexia. I don't think that OP is crazy to worry about her child feeling this way. My DD was not obsessed with social media and prior to this incidence always seemed to have body positivity and confidence. It was a horrible year to go through watching her suffer like that. OP I am not saying that your DD will turn into this - but you are smart to encourage her to make good choices in eating and being positive about her body. Jut keep an eye on her and hoepfully it is just a phase that will pass.

It's already too late from the sounds of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you posted about this before? Is this you?

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1079292.page

This has got to be a troll. No way two different people in recent times are posting about a “soft belly” on their tween. That is a weird and specific description

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTH with this post? What do long legs have to do with crop tops? And why are you obsessed with her looks?

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can anyone chime in who’s actually dealt with a situation with a child who is irrationally fixated on a minor imperfection. That’s all I’m asking about and I know most of you harpies won’t believe me but I’m really, really not concerned about looks. I’m concerned about my child’s mental health.

"Irrationally fixated" and "pining" You are starting to veer into therapy territory rather than normal preteen/teen angst. With body image issues/eating disordered thinking, you have to get on top of it very quickly.

[Anonymous]

My DDs don't have eating disorders or body image issues so we don't discuss this sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious, did your DD ask for that butt toning BumBum cream for Christmas?

- off to google that

not OP

[Anonymous]

My slim daughter's do not have soft bellies.

We all do a five minute ab workout as part of our morning routine (in addition to other training after school). We work hard to maintain our six packs (eight packs are difficult to obtain for most women), and we do so as a family. No soft bellies around here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My slim daughter's do not have soft bellies.

We all do a five minute ab workout as part of our morning routine (in addition to other training after school). We work hard to maintain our six packs (eight packs are difficult to obtain for most women), and we do so as a family. No soft bellies around here.

I'm torn between "Oh dear" and congratulating on your first-rate trolling... I can't tell! So insert either "Uh-oh, your poor kids" or "good job, pp, you got me!" -- whichever applies.