How does your slim dd feel about her soft belly

[Anonymous]

My dd12 is slim with long legs, dare I say absolutely stunning. Somehow she’s gotten it into her head that to wear the crop tops that are so in fashion, that she needs to have a perfectly flat tummy. I have always told her that it’s just how girls bodies are (the vast minority have no fat on their stomachs) and that crunches are awesome but will not target fat loss on the stomach. She’s getting a little obsessed and I’m worried. As I said, she’s genuinely gorgeous, so I’m sure this is a manifestation of some insecurity that she’s pinning on one of the only imperfections she has. I am supportive of her exercising but I can’t get on board with her measuring her waist and constantly asking me if it’s “better”. How have the rest of you handled this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd12 is slim with long legs, dare I say absolutely stunning. Somehow she’s gotten it into her head that to wear the crop tops that are so in fashion, that she needs to have a perfectly flat tummy. I have always told her that it’s just how girls bodies are (the vast minority have no fat on their stomachs) and that crunches are awesome but will not target fat loss on the stomach. She’s getting a little obsessed and I’m worried. As I said, she’s genuinely gorgeous, so I’m sure this is a manifestation of some insecurity that she’s pinning on one of the only imperfections she has. I am supportive of her exercising but I can’t get on board with her measuring her waist and constantly asking me if it’s “better”. How have the rest of you handled this?

Your mistake was talking about “targeting fat loss on the stomach.”

[Anonymous]

Oh my god, OP. It’s obvious you’ve already fixated way too much on her looks. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My dd12 is slim with long legs, dare I say absolutely stunning. Somehow she’s gotten it into her head that to wear the crop tops that are so in fashion, that she needs to have a perfectly flat tummy. I have always told her that it’s just how girls bodies are (the vast minority have no fat on their stomachs) and that crunches are awesome but will not target fat loss on the stomach. She’s getting a little obsessed and I’m worried. As I said, she’s genuinely gorgeous, so I’m sure this is a manifestation of some insecurity that she’s pinning on one of the only imperfections she has. I am supportive of her exercising but I can’t get on board with her measuring her waist and constantly asking me if it’s “better”. How have the rest of you handled this?

Your mistake was talking about “targeting fat loss on the stomach.”

Helpful 🙄 it was part of a larger conversation about biology and metabolism. Muscle growth and fat loss are not directly related by location on the body. I don’t regret telling her basic facts.

[Anonymous]

Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

[Anonymous]

I said no to crop tops. She probably doesn't feel this way wearing a regular shirt or a hoodie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. It’s obvious you’ve already fixated way too much on her looks. Good luck with that.

This would be really funny if you knew me. I’m extremely unconcerned about looks. I’m in love with my daughter and think she’s gorgeous.

[Anonymous]

WTH with this post? What do long legs have to do with crop tops? And why are you obsessed with her looks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. It’s obvious you’ve already fixated way too much on her looks. Good luck with that.

This would be really funny if you knew me. I’m extremely unconcerned about looks. I’m in love with my daughter and think she’s gorgeous.

You're her mom, it's not like you're unbiased here. Stop focusing on the external.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. It’s obvious you’ve already fixated way too much on her looks. Good luck with that.

This would be really funny if you knew me. I’m extremely unconcerned about looks. I’m in love with my daughter and think she’s gorgeous.

Drink every time OP tells us how beautiful she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

Getting a teen off social media is not the solution. Social media is here to stay and unavoidable. OP's DD will see it through her friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

Getting a teen off social media is not the solution. Social media is here to stay and unavoidable. OP's DD will see it through her friends.

Ok, so let them loose on social media and keep drilling their physical beauty into their heads and keep us posted in what lovely young women they turn into.

[Anonymous]

At 12 you shouldn't be promoting crop tops.

[Anonymous]

You’re the one who is fixated on her looks and her value to you as an object of beauty, so nothings going to change until you change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

Getting a teen off social media is not the solution. Social media is here to stay and unavoidable. OP's DD will see it through her friends.

Ok, so let them loose on social media and keep drilling their physical beauty into their heads and keep us posted in what lovely young women they turn into.

She doesn’t have a phone or social media accounts. I know she sees a lot of this crap on the web though and on her friends phones. It’s certainly true that it’s here to stay and managing it not banning it is necessary.