How does your slim dd feel about her soft belly

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It's better if she doesn't wear crop tops OP.

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My slim dd doesn't talk about her belly. Nor does she wear crop tops. I think this post is really concerning.

[Anonymous]

If your DD wants rock-hard abs, then she needs to start working out. Lots of core work. Encourage her to build some muscle tone.

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Anonymous wrote:I was that way but luckily we weren’t allowed to wear crop tops at school. And in summer my friends and I were too busy with sports.
I do regret not wearing crop tops in college. I kind of started after I graduated but I do regret not wearing it more and being self conscious for so long. But at least I didn’t obsess over it.
Sorry I can’t help you but at least I can tell that your DD isn’t the only one

I guess if I could go back in time and talk to the younger me I would say: trust me it looks beautiful! As you get older you will get fat for real and won’t be able to wear crop tops for real. Enjoy it while it lasts and believe me it does look beautiful.
Some insecure idiots might say something but they just love putting people down, it’s not you! Give them the middle finger and walk away

This is not a given.

Well it’s me talking to my younger self so…

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Anonymous wrote:If your DD wants rock-hard abs, then she needs to start working out. Lots of core work. Encourage her to build some muscle tone.

It’s not always true, I was an athlete yet there was always a little fat on my stomach

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Anonymous wrote:My slim dd doesn't talk about her belly. Nor does she wear crop tops. I think this post is really concerning.

It really is. The title sounds like soft core porn.

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Anonymous wrote:My dd12 is slim with long legs, dare I say absolutely stunning. Somehow she’s gotten it into her head that to wear the crop tops that are so in fashion, that she needs to have a perfectly flat tummy. I have always told her that it’s just how girls bodies are (the vast minority have no fat on their stomachs) and that crunches are awesome but will not target fat loss on the stomach. She’s getting a little obsessed and I’m worried. As I said, she’s genuinely gorgeous, so I’m sure this is a manifestation of some insecurity that she’s pinning on one of the only imperfections she has. I am supportive of her exercising but I can’t get on board with her measuring her waist and constantly asking me if it’s “better”. How have the rest of you handled this?

Why do you think having a normal tummy is an imperfection?

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She doesn’t have imperfections. She’s 12.

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t have imperfections. She’s 12.

+1. Just when you think you’ve seen it all…look, women have been sold a rotten bill of goods. I don’t think having a soft belly (according to the mom) is a crime against humanity, but women and girls get the message that they have to be thin, athletic, have big boobs, long legs, a beautiful face, great hair, etc to be worthy of love. How many men sit around worrying about whether they’re tall enough, handsome enough, ripped enough, etc to receive love? Devote your time to helping your daughter realize she’s beautiful just the way she is.

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Anonymous wrote:WTH with this post? What do long legs have to do with crop tops? And why are you obsessed with her looks?

Agreed. This whole post seemed really weird to me, Her long legs, stunning gorgeous body – she's only 12, the way you are sexualizing her is disgusting

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t have imperfections. She’s 12.

+1. Just when you think you’ve seen it all…look, women have been sold a rotten bill of goods. I don’t think having a soft belly (according to the mom) is a crime against humanity, but women and girls get the message that they have to be thin, athletic, have big boobs, long legs, a beautiful face, great hair, etc to be worthy of love. How many men sit around worrying about whether they’re tall enough, handsome enough, ripped enough, etc to receive love? Devote your time to helping your daughter realize she’s beautiful just the way she is.

To answer your question, any man on a dating app does unless he is rich. Looks matter and there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself and making a goal and working towards it if it makes you feel like you are becoming the best you can be.

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Just wanted to add: My DS has expressed concerns about his belly, and he's a 12-y.o. with visible abs. It is not always from home where kids get these concerns; I haven't yet figured out how or why his developed.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my god, OP. It’s obvious you’ve already fixated way too much on her looks. Good luck with that.

This would be really funny if you knew me. I’m extremely unconcerned about looks. I’m in love with my daughter and think she’s gorgeous.

Yes, you've mentioned that a couple of times.

[Anonymous]

My slim DD who is 15 wears whatever she wants, including the occasional crop top, and doesn't seem to ever think about whether her stomach is perfectly flat or not. Thank god.

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Anonymous wrote:Get her off all social media. There isn't one thing about social media that will be helpful for teens.

Lol good luck, it's like saying get her off running water